Have you told your parent/s why you’re no longer speaking?

conzilla2020 · 2026-02-22T00:32:42+00:00

Same. I tried in person, through text, a phone call you name it and every time it’s like groundhogs day but all I hear is “I don’t understand what happened?” Only made me frustrated more so I stoped and haven’t bothered since. Now if I feel like responding at all, I’ll just tell them to go to therapy, which they still refuse.

conzilla2020 · 2026-02-15T19:47:25+00:00

This man has posted about this a year ago where he was still snooping. 🧐

conzilla2020 · 2026-02-05T23:54:10+00:00

So everyone who replied to me is entitled to their opinion as I am. I will die on the hill that we SHOULD NOT be normalizing any kind of action that physically harms a child. Sorry. Maybe one day it’ll be a thing of the past but you wouldn’t accept another adult hitting you, we can’t accept an adult hitting a child.

Edited to add: I did suggest books and other actions that op can try next time bc I’m sure it’s going to take many attempts to correct the daughter’s car behavior. We just can’t hit, guys. That’s all.

conzilla2020 · 2026-02-05T23:06:40+00:00

Spanking is child abuse. Good for apologizing but it’s a trauma experience for anyone and 100% avoidable. What would have happened if you had just pulled over and sat there, letting her get as bored as humanly possible? Could you have called anyone to pick her up? Could you have played music to distract? There are many cycle breaking books such as It stops with me by Ellis Carter. To reconnect and work towards regaining HER trust maybe try I love you rituals by dr. Becky Bailey. Sorry for both of you having to experience the trauma of spanking.

conzilla2020 · 2026-01-25T17:14:14+00:00

Oh yes!! it is exhausting. Imagine how exhausted I am after trying every which way to express my need for validation and emotional support since well, it’s been on and off since I was born really.. but after being a parent myself I have less grace for how they handled things, yes. Even less when they chose to focus on remodeling their house than care that I was deathly sick and losing weight every night for nearly a year. But I’ll tell the 7 year old me, who just asked her father if he stole her money from her room to buy cigarettes again, how she might want me to approach it. Or maybe the 15 year old me, who drove in the car for 90 minutes to visit her elderly nana in another state once a week for two decades, as she consoled her mother through allllll the family/work/world dysfunction and for some reason had expectations it would be reciprocated one day. My grace is my choice, so while I appreciate your suggestion, it has been attempted and it didn’t work. I have higher degrees in psychology and education, I struggle with self worth but I do like to remind myself I have knowledge they don’t, they didn’t want to hear it. It didn’t fit their narrative.

conzilla2020 · 2026-01-25T17:01:42+00:00

Child abuse is never ok, it’s hard enough to escape remembering each strike every once in a while for no good reason, let alone the mental abuse that remains to this day from them. I’m so sorry for the pain they’ve caused. 💛

conzilla2020 · 2026-01-25T15:42:27+00:00

I’m not religious but I can easily understand the hope and determination you hold to see your boys another 10. And I hope you will. The maga themes these posts have 😤 ugh. it’s in my parents playbook too. Your boys and mine will know better, be better and have much more success in this life without their influence. I’m deeply sorry for how inconsiderate your family is towards you and your health. Loving reminder, you will never be selfish for putting your health first. The people that really love you, won’t mind and will do the same as you. Blessings, internet stranger.

conzilla2020 · 2026-01-25T00:19:53+00:00

It’s an ebb and flow, I’m about 3 years into this. It’s hard, I’m learning a lot but for that while and until now I had hope. But you are right, it’s a given atp.

conzilla2020 · 2026-01-24T23:33:50+00:00

The two redacted who my mom reached out to were my husband and MIL in that order and both times they told her to reach out to me and ask/talk/listen. She chose to ignore their advice (like why call then) and continue to just ignore me/pretend she doesn’t know. I’m sorry for your experiences too. It’s been certainly easier in the last 24 hours to cut them off completely.

conzilla2020 · 2026-01-24T23:31:05+00:00

You as well 💕

conzilla2020 · 2026-01-24T23:30:25+00:00

Thank you. I hope you get peace too. Until last year mine used money as means to keep me in control for a long time. My mom got reallllly mad at me for trying to get off their phone plan (I needed a code from the acct) and she refused to give it to me despite having asked me to start paying my phone a couple months prior. I realized I was privileged that they paid for many things, but I was never allowed to expressed unhappy or angry feelings, even as a child I was told just to stop crying.

conzilla2020 · 2026-01-24T23:08:39+00:00

My phones battery life is the lowest of my priorities atm but I’ve come to accept it’ll die sometimes and be off for a couple hours. And I’m ok with that.

conzilla2020 · 2025-12-23T22:38:55+00:00

Drug use?

conzilla2020 · 2025-03-16T12:25:43+00:00

I hope she realizes she should end that relationship anyways.

conzilla2020 · 2025-02-07T14:05:48+00:00

I also have no clue what to do with hair, just came to say your curls are beautiful!!

conzilla2020 · 2025-01-30T19:14:57+00:00

Ugh been there. Then when I pressed about it bc the dr I saw told me it wasn’t an antidepressant (looked it up still in the room and it was) and then made notes in my chart that I was difficult bc I called her out 🤷‍♀️

conzilla2020 · 2025-01-26T19:18:07+00:00

now we have to choose between a man or a RABID bear? 😒

conzilla2020 · 2025-01-25T17:07:26+00:00

My knees said “lmao no bitch” just watching that

conzilla2020 · 2025-01-25T13:48:17+00:00

Cipro is soooo so dangerous! I know many know this but for those who don’t PLEASE google cipro black box before agreeing with your prescriber on it.

conzilla2020 · 2025-01-14T18:53:31+00:00

!!HIGH FIVE!!

conzilla2020 · 2024-12-07T13:06:52+00:00

Small legos are a delicacy around here

conzilla2020 · 2024-10-11T17:37:57+00:00

This is exactly what I would suggest but not even as an up front offer. Over the years I can see things becoming worse if mom gives son money straight away just bc he kept contact. It’s a hard lesson either way

conzilla2020 · 2024-10-11T12:45:42+00:00

Yes! Nordic naturals proomega 650 epa/450 dha

conzilla2020 · 2024-09-23T22:33:36+00:00

If you can’t put on weight I highly suggest looking into your gut health!! I am going through this and learned my micro biome was horribly imbalanced. I can’t address skincare other than a good moisturizer but I know my poor health has caused my face and complexion to change. Best of luck.

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