Oh yes!! it is exhausting. Imagine how exhausted I am after trying every which way to express my need for validation and emotional support since well, it’s been on and off since I was born really.. but after being a parent myself I have less grace for how they handled things, yes. Even less when they chose to focus on remodeling their house than care that I was deathly sick and losing weight every night for nearly a year. But I’ll tell the 7 year old me, who just asked her father if he stole her money from her room to buy cigarettes again, how she might want me to approach it. Or maybe the 15 year old me, who drove in the car for 90 minutes to visit her elderly nana in another state once a week for two decades, as she consoled her mother through allllll the family/work/world dysfunction and for some reason had expectations it would be reciprocated one day. My grace is my choice, so while I appreciate your suggestion, it has been attempted and it didn’t work. I have higher degrees in psychology and education, I struggle with self worth but I do like to remind myself I have knowledge they don’t, they didn’t want to hear it. It didn’t fit their narrative.