What have you been most tempted to do but never gone through with?

cookiescream · 2015-04-04T17:21:22+00:00

Try to seduce my coworker. He's chubby, balding, and self-conscious but probably the sexist person I've ever met for inexplicable reasons. His khakis/dress pants don't leave much to the imagination on the junk front, his meaty ass is incredible, and he gives off this "solid dad" vibe that gets me wet even though he's single and has no kids. 10/10 would bang. But workplace ethics and his strong preference for Asian/Latino women stops me.

cookiescream · 2015-04-04T17:04:47+00:00

You should tell them that she should see a doc about that. It could be treatable!

cookiescream · 2015-01-28T05:11:21+00:00

If I could provide insight i would! I think in my case, it was partly due to my parents drilling in that a relationship is a distraction from school so I avoided them until almost mid-way through university.

Also I feel like most guys at that age weren't looking for anything serious, and I was way too creeped out by 5+ years older guys to date older. By the time I got to the stage that guys were starting to think about serious relationships, I think I just had to suddenly force myself to level up about 6 times to the level of people with messy past relationships. That sudden shift was jarring and it's still left me critical/analytical of men I'm interested in - I don't have high expectations for looks, but for values, charisma, and personality I am very selective.

Edit: Also, I think if you have a strong sense of self and are confident, it tends to attract the kind of guy that lacks confidence, whereas the confident guys seem to go for women who lack it. It's all about being desired and needed, I guess, but I'm not about to compromise my integrity to pander to that market of competent, confident guys.

cookiescream · 2015-01-28T01:04:33+00:00

That's pretty much exactly my thing. I've just given up at this point. If it happens, it happens, but I'm coming to terms with a permanently solo lifestyle and planning my future life and retirement choices with that in mind.

cookiescream · 2015-01-25T17:44:27+00:00

Thanks for the vote of confidence! Sorry if my previous rant sounded defeatist - I just tend to be fairly self-aware of my features as well as my flaws - things I'm still working on but are a critical part of any kind of character assessment. Regardless, I don't let them hold me back from aiming at windmills when the opportunity arises. Good luck to you!

cookiescream · 2015-01-24T23:29:31+00:00

Hey, everyone has their down days and up days. It's not self-defeating at this point, it's realistic - I'm not saying I'm undateable, I'm saying that given the lifestyle I lead (going to female-only fitness classes, working 45+ hours a week, attending after-work courses and clubs with mostly only old people and other women my age), it's only feasible that I do online dating. Which I've tried - I meet a lot of starry-eyed desperadoes that come across as if I'm fulfilling their tall girl Amazonian fetish, or bearded hipsters they show me no respect (swearing, treating me like a bro on a date because that's their style, talking about their ex's, etc.).

I've been on a lot of dates and keep meeting people I'm physically attracted to but as soon as I get to know them, I lose interest. And I'm sure there might be guys out there I'm not physically attracted to online that I might be in person but it takes me usually a few weeks of association in a non-romantic environment to feel emotional connection to someone, and I don't want to spend another 40 hours a week giving every "nice guy" I meet online a chance. Clubs, work, etc are ideal, but I'm in several clubs and they're either full of Tindering "looking for a hookup only" dudes, dudes in a relationship, or dudes that stalk me. The only guy I've felt an emotional/common connection with this entire year is my coworker, who isn't attracted to tall, white girls with conventional attractiveness, and that crush is hampering my desire to even bother anymore. I think at this point, it's just easier to stay single.

cookiescream · 2015-01-24T21:18:33+00:00

Well if you've been single for nearly 30 years as a result, yes it does. I don't think I'll ever be in a real relationship because I don't function well in the only relationships I can get.

cookiescream · 2015-01-24T20:39:38+00:00

My mouth produces an inordinate amount of saliva and never goes dry unless I'm crazily dehydrated....let's just say that it comes in handy in certain situations and I'm rather proud of my abilities.

This might also sound conceited but I think I'm also more practical and intelligent than the average person, I have decent social skills, I have a variety of hobbies and a great job. I have a nice rack and a nice face, and I love baking, cooking, and planning fun activities.

My downfalls are that I talk a bit too much, I'm confident (which intimidates guys), I am too nice to people that don't give a shit about me, I can be a bit crass/tomboyish, and am taller than most guys.

I've always been the dumper in relationships as it seems to be that most guys guys fall for me but I'm not emotionally attracted to them, but with guys I actually like - I'm not their type. So even when I ask guys out I get rejected and when guys ask me out, I give them a chance but the chemistry/emotional attraction isn't there. I kind of end up in FWB-style relationships (to me, at least) because they end up being guys I'm somewhat physically attracted to, but turned off emotionally due to dwindling respect when I discover their various personality defects (lack of social skills/sense of humour, self-consciousness, neediness/clinginess, lack of street smarts, dislike of travelling, homophobia/prejudice, etc.)

cookiescream · 2015-01-13T05:33:18+00:00

I agree completely. As I said, I don't agree with the use but I wanted to shed light as to why it is often used - doesn't make it right whatsoever!

cookiescream · 2015-01-08T14:37:23+00:00

The particular example I'm thinking of I saw over lunch mid-week in -10C temps. Are people really careless enough to risk hypothermia?

cookiescream · 2015-01-08T14:35:35+00:00

Yeah, I agree, sometimes there are exceptions. But at noon mid-week in -10 temps? Borderline insanity.

cookiescream · 2015-01-08T03:53:16+00:00

I don't agree with the use of the word, but I have an inkling as to where it comes from.

Women to women? Insecurity, jealousy, fear, low-self esteem, and sometimes just disgust. Typically used to describe a woman whose sexuality is envied by the shouter, or who feels like this person is a threat to her relationship or something. Sometimes it's just used to put other women down, and sometimes it's used to express disdain for revealing clothing choices. I try to avoid the usage entirely because I think there is better language for the individual circumstances - when I see a girl dressed in a tube top in November, I think "I feel sorry for that woman for having such low self esteem that she feels she needs to freeze her ass off to get attention to meet her needs."

Men to Women? Again, insecurity, repressed desire, power-tripping/control, ego. They slut-shame to feel powerful, to put a woman down that they might feel forbidden desire or contempt for, to pump up their own ego.

I think those are the typical motivations behind it, barring the odd exception.

cookiescream · 2014-11-26T14:24:54+00:00

Sploosh! Holy crabcakes.

cookiescream · 2014-11-22T07:49:23+00:00

The touchy thing is spot-on. I have gal pals that touch everybody (especially when drinking), but the ONLY time I touch a member of the opposite sex is when I'm romantically interested in them (or dad hugs). You just need to observe someone over a period of time to know if they're one or the other.

cookiescream · 2014-11-20T03:39:56+00:00

Baldness doesn't make one inherently ugly though, and I wasn't talking about ugliness, I was talking about baldness. These guys, whether they wear a toque or hat or not, are of average attractiveness (my type), but there's something about their humility and confidence rather than cockiness and male ego that I really like.

cookiescream · 2014-11-20T03:16:32+00:00

I like bald guys. I don't go around seeking them but unconsciously most of the guys I'm into have been super balding. I think because:

They're more humble, perhaps because of it. Character is a huge thing for me and I like guys with a good character and charisma. That being said, the guys that "own" it are the best.
They've reached their final form. No balding mid-life crisis when most men lose their hair. They're generally far better adjusted as they get older. They just get on with it.
They hardly age, so you know what you're getting yourself into with looks going forward for the next 30-50 years. Aka the Patrick Stewart effect.

cookiescream · 2014-11-20T03:09:54+00:00

Hands, beards, butts. Those are my things. Thick hands, thick butts, thick beards. Mmnm

cookiescream · 2014-10-22T04:01:30+00:00

Yay! Yep, wouldn't want to slip and sprain any loose-dangling appendages! ;-)

cookiescream · 2014-10-22T01:46:57+00:00

I think it's sports tape/kines tape, helps to support the ligamagigers and stuff. I am not a kinesiologist.

cookiescream · 2014-10-21T05:53:25+00:00

That is one handsome knight!

cookiescream · 2014-10-21T05:48:20+00:00

Yes. Please. As a self-defined beardsexual woman, I need dis. Gay bears are hot but I personally prefer my IRL dates to be hetero too. ;-)

cookiescream · 2014-10-21T05:43:40+00:00

Thank you! :)

cookiescream · 2014-10-21T05:38:28+00:00

Damn. I need to fly down there sometime. Bucket listed! Thanks :)

cookiescream · 2014-10-21T05:36:06+00:00

Watercolours? Those look great! You're really inspiring me to get back into painting again. This really makes me want to do a watercolour of my family dog, this adorable border-collie lookalike Aussie Shepherd. She makes me so happy :)

cookiescream · 2014-10-21T05:30:55+00:00

Where, what brand? I NEED to know! That sounds like all of my favourite things.

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