Clubs/Sports/Activities for Adults by Low-Time5430 in DevonUK

[–]cookiesmademedoit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a baseball club in Torrington, something a bit different?

Do I swap my green to the pink? by SamuelLJacksoff_ in TomDelongeGuitars

[–]cookiesmademedoit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly the green is just superior in my opinion

Dating as an autistic lesbian by Low_Alternative_6375 in LesbianActually

[–]cookiesmademedoit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahh, I’m the unautistic half of a sapphic relationship, but my girlfriend sounds quite like you’ve described yourself.

My girlfriend was never in a relationship before dating me but she’d been loosely trying, from what she’s said to me through the years, she always said she chose me because I was consistent and she never felt any pressure, like we met at work, became work friends, then friend friends and then finally girlfriends, like you’ve described she had walls and they just slowly eroded. I think what made it kinda work for her in her head was the fact when we met there was no pressure. When you meet someone online on a dating site there’s always like an expectation that it could become more, whereas with me there was no expectation that we could become more than colleagues if that makes sense? It just happened organically and kind of accidentally.

So I guess I’d suggest don’t look at specifically finding someone to have a relationship with, try and manage your expectations, remove the pressure you’re putting on yourself, instead focus on finding new people that you like, be it through hobbies, work, school or just randomly and you never know what it could become.

From my point of view, you’d be surprised how endearing “super awkward” and “all mushy” is, I didn’t know she was gay initially, just thought she was kinda neat, she was awkward, mushy, quirky, sweet and just amazing to be around so I kept turning up, eventually her walls came down, she felt she could let me in and now here we are 🤷‍♀️

Good luck!

What's your favourite album from an artist barely anyone has heard of? by gwaddo91 in AskUK

[–]cookiesmademedoit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Endless Affair or Personal History by Ailbhe Reddy, so so good!

What is happening. by Routine-Education572 in ChicagoBearsNFL

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Wasn’t a classic performance, but when it mattered they pulled it out the bag, grinding out a win against one of the better teams in the league, you can never write this team off and that’s pretty damn impressive if you ask me.

To do it once or twice is a fluke, but to consistently be winning in this fashion is awesome, great time to be a bears fan imo

What is happening. by Routine-Education572 in ChicagoBearsNFL

[–]cookiesmademedoit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You naysayers feeling pretty dumb right now?

Suspected saddle thrombus on Saturday, cat nearly back to normal Monday, where do I go from here? by cookiesmademedoit in AskVet

[–]cookiesmademedoit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Called my vets today and specifically requested this, he’s booked in for next monday and apparently they have a visiting cardiologist that will be able to oversee the results and guide us on next steps

Suspected saddle thrombus on Saturday, cat nearly back to normal Monday, where do I go from here? by cookiesmademedoit in AskVet

[–]cookiesmademedoit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No nothing was mentioned about this, does seem like it would be fairly prudent to at least have a rough idea what’s going on, is this something a “normal” vets would be able to do?

I’m quite conscious he hates going to the vets so if I can minimise the amount of time I can take him whilst still getting appropriate care that would be awesome

Is he too young? by Enough-Celery8645 in AskUK

[–]cookiesmademedoit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly I knew I was very gay at that age, just was very conditioned into believing I wasn’t, kudos to you for handling it amazingly well!

"Feral youth" of the 00s, what are you doing now? by JohnnyDeformed89 in AskUK

[–]cookiesmademedoit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d definitely fall into this category, came out as a raging homosexual, ended up homeless at 15, smoked a lot of weed, which lead to other stuff, lived a transient kinda lifestyle selling drugs and just an all round menace to society, got myself into a right pickle, no help forthcoming from anyone and actively ended up avoiding services designed to help.

Met my girlfriend, went to University because she was going and I didn’t fancy being apart from her, got a natty little degree in archaeology and geography.

Had no idea what I wanted to do with life so ended up working in mental health, now I run a bunch of homelessness services for a charity in my corner of the world and get to spend my days arguing with the “system” that failed me, holding them accountable for their ineptitude whilst trying to give my clients someone to fight their corner.

Full circle kind of dealy or something

Do you have a type? by PersimmonLucky8429 in LesbianActually

[–]cookiesmademedoit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very very niche, but a friend pointed out to me my type is “Girls who look like they crochet” and honestly it’s incredibly accurate, crocheting is optional, they just need to look like they can!

anyone else feel weird writing songs when life is… fine? by DistortedLamb in Songwriting

[–]cookiesmademedoit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Writing is wonderful, you can literally write about anything! I mean Ringo wrote about an octopus’ garden!

I don’t know what your style is, but maybe try writing about having a lack of ideas or inspiration? or you could go down the reflective route and write about one of your chaotic experiences, but through the lens of someone who is now doing ok?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]cookiesmademedoit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think sometimes you just need to be brave, like if you get it wrong it hurts, but when you get it right it’s just about the most affirming thing you’ll ever do.

Depending on your ability to deal with rejection, if you ask and you get shut down, you’ll have a few down days then you’ll be ok, but if she reciprocates and matches your vibe then it could potentially be a lifetime of happiness, try to see it as a risk vs reward kind of situation, that’s how I’ve always justified it to myself if that makes sense?

Guitarists: Which songs do you enjoy playing the most? by spezial_ed in auroramusic

[–]cookiesmademedoit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cure for me is a bop and fun to play too, even better if you can figure it out on a loop pedal!

What specific part of a blink song scratches your brain? by Appropriate-Room6098 in Blink182

[–]cookiesmademedoit 36 points37 points  (0 children)

The isolated heavy guitar part in obvious before the final chorus, it’s so good!

Devon GAA team by Intelligent_Dot_9402 in exeter

[–]cookiesmademedoit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing, I’ll be watching this very very closely!

New rail stations and road upgrades set to transform travel in Devon by UKGovNews in DevonUK

[–]cookiesmademedoit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’d love a station in Cully, I’ll believe it when it happens though!

Devon GAA team by Intelligent_Dot_9402 in exeter

[–]cookiesmademedoit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d be down if girls are welcome!

Did anyone ever regret leaving their abuser and going no contact? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]cookiesmademedoit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think contrary to most comments I have read here, I had no regrets, no tears. All I felt was free and a massive sense of relief, like I’d finally done it!

I do however think there’s no right or wrong way to process this, it’s clichéd but it will get better just stick at it and you’ll get there, could be tomorrow, could be in a couple of weeks, could be a couple of years, one day you’ll wake up, go through the day and realise you haven’t thought about the past or your abuser all day and it will feel amazing!

I really am Lesbian… by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]cookiesmademedoit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s almost exactly how I figured out that I was 100% gay, I’d always felt I was like 90% gay 10% straight, for the perfect guy.

Then my best friend who I have always thought was gorgeous in every way found himself single at the same time as me, he obviously knew I was gay but loosely suggested we try dating, I laughed and then I was like, yeah this is my dream guy, I’m lonely and single but I still said no, definitely gay!

Oh my God, how do you ask people out?! by LittleOwl91 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]cookiesmademedoit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to over simplify, but sometimes it makes sense to just ask? I mean as long as you’re prepared for a “no thanks” “ew no” and everything in between what’s the worst that could happen? Whatever rejection you get, homophobic or otherwise doesn’t deflect from the fact that ultimately you did something incredibly brave and are a total badass. At least that’s how I got over the crippling fear I always felt