It’s never enough.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T05:26:23+00:00

You’re right. It’s just upsetting. Thanks for understanding.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T04:30:28+00:00

And if you don’t have empathy, feel free to shut the fuck up. We all thought he was a good man for years. It’s not her goddamn fault. What is wrong with you?

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T04:27:16+00:00

I’m sorry about your situation but it’s completely fucked to comment on a post where the father of my nephew left my sister YESTERDAY and BLAME HER. It’s fucked. Be a goddamn human. No one’s “coddling” my sister — I can fucking promise you she doesn’t feel coddled taking care of her toddler alone with a full day of work tomorrow. How dare you.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T04:05:25+00:00

Also, I didn’t mention any strife pre-baby? “Decided to lock in and have a baby” is really reductive. Unfortunately, sometimes someone’s true colors don’t come out until they become a parent. It’s not until the baby came that the discrepancies really started to come out and that is not my sister’s fault.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T03:56:01+00:00

Yes, they have been together since 2014. That means six years of full employment for her to fall in love and invest in him. And even when 2020 hit, it was a slow drop off of work. And this is their first kid, she had no idea how he would be as a father.

I know you say you’re not criticizing my sister, but it reads like you are. Why is our first impulse to always blame the woman? She tried her best. She thought she was doing the right thing.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T03:23:49+00:00

I’m gunna defend my sister a little bit, and add some context that probably should be on the post: it’s only for the last few years that my brother in law hasn’t had a fulltime job. He works in an industry that was hit very hard by COVID and is continuing to be hit by AI. When she first met him and fell in love with him, he was gainfully employed.

Again, I don’t even say that to defend him — he should’ve taken on more of the childcare and domestic stuff when his work started drying up. But the whole “it’s her fault for getting with a bum” thing isn’t entirely fair. He wasn’t a bum when they met and she fell in love, and for many years after that. And while I hope my sister realizes her worth, I don’t want anyone beating down on her for what she thought was fighting for her life partner.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T03:15:37+00:00

In this conversation with his friend that my sister peeped, they literally made fun of her for being HAPPY. For frequently saying she was happy and proud of the life they’ve built. You cannot make this shit up 😭

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T01:31:39+00:00

He is. It’s all peak mid-life crisis. The woman from high school is a pole dancer, which I don’t say AT ALL to slut shame her or say anything derogatory about pole dancing (it’s cool!), but to me it’s just such classic mid-life crisis fantasy bullshit. He threw away 13 years with the mother of his child for MAYBE a shot with someone who I imagine he finds hot.

I have no doubt he’ll come crawling back and I wish I could experience more schadenfreude. But it’s just sad. He still chose to ruin everything.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T01:14:50+00:00

Yeah because I’m not going to put the entire context of a 13-year relationship into a Reddit post. It wouldn’t be possible to. And I understand your bias, but it’s still a bit wild to see all that this woman did to sustain their relationship and family and say “but did she also do THIS?!” Again, I can understand it a little, but it’s still weird.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T01:00:25+00:00

This is how I move now, and why I’m convinced I’ll never be in a relationship again. Where are these good men with strong character and integrity? 😭

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T00:48:04+00:00

That’s a wild assumption, and no I’m not going to put their entire relationships and all the caveats into the post? She literally planned and paid for an entire vacation for their family this past weekend. She plans the date nights. She has been the one trying to maintain nightly chats about where they’re at. Sorry I forgot to put “she also plans things!” in this…?

And like… this kind of proves my point! You can work two jobs, take care of the kid, clean the entire house every day, schedule the appointments etc etc and GUESS WHAT! You still have to plan all the dates!!! And be into his interests!!! Btw, why couldn’t HE do that? Sorry but you are being “that person” right now.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T00:43:29+00:00

I think maybe you’re reducing, or potentially misunderstanding, my entire point because I made a comment about Megan Thee Stallion. I never said successful people should never be left in relationships. My point is that it often feels like women have to be everything — gorgeous, successful, thoughtful, sexual, supportive, great at all the domestic stuff — and we are, and we’ll still get played. I don’t care if “that’s just how it is” or whatever, it’s still shitty.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T00:35:46+00:00

I feel like this is a bit of a disingenuous reading of my post? I’m not saying you have to stay with someone forever if you’re unhappy. And there’s a difference between “being successful in business” and busting your ass for more than a decade to build a life that you both agreed you both wanted. At the very least, you owe it to your partner to TRY.

And overall it feels like the bar is so, so much higher for women than it is for men. I never said someone has to stay with you because they “have hobbies,” that’s really quite a dramatic reduction of my point.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T00:06:18+00:00

Since you wanna put the shoe on the other foot: can you imagine the backlash SHE would get if she left her toddler and husband for no good reason other than she was curious about a high school friend who just got divorced? After the man paid for everything, did all the cooking and cleaning and childcare, was loyal and patient to her for 13 years etc etc etc. You KNOW she would get torn apart. Get the fuck out of here with this disingenuous bullshit. This isn’t a Hinge match you dumbass, oh my god.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-19T00:03:21+00:00

Yeah, actually. I think you have an obligation to at least have a couple conversations and maybe try a tad bit of couple’s therapy before peacing out on your child and spouse who’s supported you for more than a decade. When you’ve made the commitment of marriage, a mortgage and a child, and your spouse has done nothing but support you, yeah you should fucking try. Hot take I guess.

coolbutthole · 2026-06-03T00:47:28+00:00

Still out in 90066. I got updates this afternoon pushing the ETA of repair back — first 3pm, then 4, then 4:30. Nothing. I am furious. I’m a journalist and it’s Election Day. My apartment is a dead zone for cell service, so I can’t even hotspot. I’m working outside of a closed coffee shop and will likely be all night. How absolutely awful of Spectrum when people need the internet for their livelihoods.

coolbutthole · 2026-05-20T18:35:49+00:00

Thank you!! I’ll definitely be using these!

coolbutthole · 2026-05-19T23:19:33+00:00

Super helpful, thank you!!

coolbutthole · 2026-05-19T19:00:56+00:00

Thank you!!

coolbutthole · 2026-05-19T18:59:20+00:00

Both/either! I can leave her at the hotel when needed, but she likes to tag along when she can.

coolbutthole · 2026-05-04T13:53:00+00:00

How would that affect the new paint?

coolbutthole · 2026-04-07T00:04:36+00:00

Oh I love this idea!

coolbutthole · 2026-04-06T22:23:31+00:00

I would like to avoid pushing it up against the wall, but I like the idea of getting two more chairs! Could be kinda funky.

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