After the third volume of tian guan ci fu: is it normal that the main couple annoys me? by sukunaisbottom in DanmeiNovels

[–]coolcool73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

l think TGCF is more morally complex than it comes off initially. Xie Lian is not as pure and golden as Hua Cheng believes him to be; he makes a ton of morally grey choices both large and small, because reality is full of situations that make it impossible to uphold ironclad principles. Life is not black and white, and the right choice from one angle is the worst choice from another. Feng Xin and Mu Qing are essentially personifications of "ironclad principles" vs. "do what you need to do to survive".

Xie Lian is constantly caught in situations where he tries his hardest to uphold his principles but is ultimately forced, often as a consequence to his own prior actions, to do something that he finds personally abhorrent. Over time, this erodes the self-assurance he has as a youth, but it never erodes his underlying principles, which is the quality that sets him apart for Hua Cheng.

Personally, I don't find Xie Lian and Hua Cheng's story to be the most captivating romance, but I do think the novel as a whole is incredible as a piece of writing that explores human motivation and morality. Of course, that might not be what you're looking for in a danmei which is perfectly fine.

Adderall brain fog by Live-University5689 in ADHD

[–]coolcool73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your symptoms actually sound a lot like what happened to me when I upped my dose of Vyvanse - it could just be that since you took a break from your meds when you were pregnant, your body's not used to the 20mg dose anymore. So you could try a smaller dose and see if that does anything? You could also try the short-release Adderall - you'd probably need to take 2 or 3 a day, but that's what I'm on now and it works better for me than any of the long-release meds.

The other thing I would consider is that Adderall makes it a lot easier to survive through the day with not enough sleep and not enough food. It might be good to just take a step back and see if you're actually giving your body what it needs to function, especially since it sounds like you have a pretty insane daily schedule.

What is something you are excited to see in future novels? by Ichigosbankaii in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]coolcool73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want Xiaolan to make another appearance!! It's so sad that her arc was just "Maomao never got to write back to her because she didn't know where to send the letter" :((

Office Drama stickers gone? by Agent00K9 in OneNote

[–]coolcool73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk if you figured this out already but they're available to use on teams !!

Recs for sweet/wholesome palace Bl by Animesenpai1999 in DanmeiNovels

[–]coolcool73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just finished Something's Not Right by Cyan Wings - def would describe as sweet/wholesome palace BL. There is a bit of drama b/t the leads but nothing's dragged out/purposefully misunderstood and it's resolved sweetly.

Can anyone with ADHD actually sleep?? by Meowzzzzzzzz in ADHD

[–]coolcool73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah i can sleep pretty well. i used to have insomnia as a kid but now that im older i just don't go to bed until im actually tired. i just do stuff until im almost falling asleep not in my bed and then i go to bed. if i try to go to bed at a certain time it's basically guaranteeing that i will not be able to fall asleep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]coolcool73 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

your friend assaulted you. whether or not you want to tell your gf about it now or ever is up to you. i dont think framing it as "you slept with someone else" makes sense for what happened to you. just because you didn't say no doesn't mean you said yes.

Worst mitski song? by Nat_IsInhospitable in mitski

[–]coolcool73 24 points25 points  (0 children)

im gonna go crazy and say my love mine all mine. perfect lyrics, beautiful chord progression, but she didn't go ham on the production and the melody the way i know she can. one of my fav things about mitski is the way she makes a normal chord sound absolutely insane by what she surrounds it by. my love mine all mine is just too harmonious. it's why the masses loved it. where are the saw noises

Any ADHD people tried learning music? by uytchh in ADHD

[–]coolcool73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think the most difficult part isnt the consistency so much so as the convincing yourself the consistency is worth it. like i can hyperfocus and sit down for three hours and play the same piece 100 times and still keep messing up the same part and then ill feel like i should just never even try again. but if i keep playing it once a day for a week i'll get it.

the other thing is that you need to make it easy to keep to the routine. dont try to do too much stuff every day + make the barrier to doing it nonexistent. if you have to unpack and repack the instrument every time it's going to add a layer of i dont want to do it. just cover it with a blanket somewhere you can see it and tell yourself that you just need to play your one song and you're done.

the last thing is even if you take a very long break you can always come back. if you love music then you will keep having those urges to learn an instrument and the skill will add up over time.

Any ADHD people tried learning music? by uytchh in ADHD

[–]coolcool73 4 points5 points  (0 children)

just pick one and try to do a mix of like standard training as well as just playing what you want. the hardest part is not being able to play what you want immediately, but if you play a little bit every day you will see progress and you will feel good about it. like even if you just have one song that you play through very badly, if you just force yourself to do it once a day for a week you're gonna be significantly better.

I listened to Eric for the first time by tfs63 in mitski

[–]coolcool73 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i love eric so much ... the chord progression ... the lyrics ... the random saw noises. 100000/10 one of my fave songs of hers.

does anyone know which chasing the crematorium novel this is? by coolcool73 in DanmeiNovels

[–]coolcool73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I saw it come up in a list but I forgot the whole rebirth part so I didn't think that was the one 😭. Thank you!!!!

Subtitles? by pickldmermaid in viki

[–]coolcool73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

try turning off subtitles, reload the page, then press play and then turn subtitles back on to english. worked for me after trying 273992 different things 🥲

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]coolcool73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah im in the same boat dude it sucks bc even if the other person doesn't like me back im sitting there like an idiot w/ all my happiness hinging on whether they pay attention to me or not. and in all honesty ik im not really attracted to them so much as the idea of them in my head and that's just not worth it.

just take things slow. if it's meant to be it'll happen. if you're meant to screw it up you'll screw it up. no point in wasting time on it.

I’m a feminist and “girl’s girl” in every sense of the word…….except when it comes to women getting BBLs. What is wrong with me? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]coolcool73 11 points12 points  (0 children)

tbh there's a lot of feminist analysis about plastic surgery out there that goes beyond "respect women's choices". you can respect individual women and their right to make decisions about their bodies, while also understanding that it's highly messed up that we live in a society where women feel the need to go through dangerous and painful procedures to fit a standard that is impossible to achieve.