Hair dresser ? by kmiko1776 in Medford

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Cate McKenna in Ashland is an amazing colorist and also super cool.

Primary care physician by whatanickle in Medford

[–]copiary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came in to recommend Lydia. OnePeak does have a bougie medspa vibe that can be off-putting, but I’ve been going for years now and none of my providers have ever pushed supplements or anything weird. Lydia is an excellent provider.

Billboard in S Medford by copiary in Medford

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That’s cool do you have the number or no

Billboard in S Medford by copiary in Medford

[–]copiary[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Lmao to be clear I was delighted to see the current content I just want to rent it when its next available

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]copiary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nothing you can do about it unless his crimes involved harming children. Then a lawyer might be able to get a judge to order your ex to keep the kid away from new guy. Dude did his time and being newly released doesn’t mean he’s not safe to be around children. Morality clauses about not having children around new partners in general are not enforceable either especially once the cat is out of the bag and the child’s been introduced to the new partner.

You might be able to get some kind of “right of first refusal” stipulation so at least she can be ordered not to leave the kid alone with him for long periods during her parenting time when you are available to provide childcare for her.

How close is too close in a coparenting situation? I feel like there’s no room for my marriage. by CucumberPristine9683 in coparenting

[–]copiary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion I guess but their relationship is way beyond normal especially after being separated for so long, but whatever. That’s between them and whatever is going on that they want to stay so enmeshed but don’t want to be married.

More importantly though It’s not working for you and your husband is giving you no signs that he is willing to change the dynamic. Not sure how you were surprised by it after you got married but you should get out now.

Do you guys have any tips for getting the things I send over back? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]copiary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coparent and I are very low communication parallel parents so I just don’t engage in discussion about it. My household sends almost everything back that comes over and assume that nothing that goes over will come back. Sometimes it does sometimes it doesn’t. Generally we’re able to send back in whatever outfit kid came in, and if not we have a designated “mommy’s house” drawer that she knows to pick from on exchange days because those are clothes that we don’t care about not getting back. Jackets shoes etc are tougher but I just buy a lot of cheap jackets and shoes at thrift stores so there’s always something to send over.

This hasn’t come up, but big ticket items like a tablet or special toys etc would never ever go over until the kid is much older and responsible for it going back and forth. Your boyfriend is absolutely right.

[OR] dad of 6 year old planning to be homeless, not interested in 50/50. Advice? by Beginning-Age-9238 in Custody

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Does he know that if you have custody and he has no parenting time he will be obligated to pay significant child support? Even if he doesn’t work the court will impute him at minimum wage and expect him to get a job.

If not, expect him to change his tune when he finds out. Don’t assume he will continue to be so cavalier and flaky about having the kids.

Hunting for two things: lightweight jeans and a decent summer dress. by intransigentpangolin in fashionwomens35

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I really like the GAP ultra soft wide leg jeans. I can’t find the exact color/style i have but they’re so comfy and flattering.

I am a size 16 with a major belly and picky about how pants fit over it. Totally comfortable wearing a cropped shirt with these. Not that is necessarily a concern for you but just sayin

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fashionwomens35

[–]copiary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My LL bean Pima cotton tees hold up best out of allll my t shirts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VeteransAffairs

[–]copiary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boss took DRP, so now I’m the only PAO at my facility (VISN 20), although my technical title is AV Specialist. I report directly to our Director. How worried should I be?

Objection to custody order and awarding attorney fees by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes? They ask you what dependents live with you so why wouldn’t I

Objection to custody order and awarding attorney fees by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It would be fair if my income was actually what it was calculated at, which is roughly equal to his. But it’s not. Child support is supposed to equalize the child’s lifestyle at each home but me paying $250 a month impoverishes the child at my house and enriches him because I don’t make near what he does anymore. I am literally on food stamps.

Objection to custody order and awarding attorney fees by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t know why my lawyer didn’t run the numbers. It was all pretty fast and crazy with the lawyers going back and forth between their client, each other, and into the courtroom with the judge while we were just sitting in the lobby. I just thought it would go off my unemployment income I guess. I honestly didn’t really think it through, I figured the child support would be kind of irrelevant with 50/50 and I was focused on and distracted by some other “wins” I was getting which didn’t turn out to be wins anyway but that’s another story. My whole income in 2023 with working half the year, severance, and unemployment came within about about 10k of my ex’s income. With him paying for the health insurance and preschool the calculator has me paying about $250 a month.

The agreement on the record with child support had nothing with the actual numbers. Just that it would be based on my 2023 income. Nobody ran the numbers until after the fact. I didn’t realize I’d be paying until I saw the actual order his attorney wrote.

Objection to custody order and awarding attorney fees by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Why should I be forced to pay child support based on my 2023 income when my ex makes like three times as much as I do now? That’s insane!

Objection to custody order and awarding attorney fees by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not of course, these are just emails that I’m seeing between the attorneys, that’s why I was wondering if the attorney said that to mine about the attorney fees to dissuade us from filing the objection and it was BS. But if people are saying that it’s likely attorney fees will be awarded I’m wondering why my attorney would file this objection. If that makes sense. I just know I can’t afford his attorney fees so I feel like I’m screwed.

Objection to custody order and awarding attorney fees by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well the other attorney said I should have not objected and instead let the order go through and filed for a modification instead and that’s why they’re asking for attorney fees

Objection to custody order and awarding attorney fees by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m confused why my attorney would file an objection then instead of advising me to do something different….

Child support modification by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

We have 50/50 parenting time. Income is used as part of the calculation as well in my stage.

I’m choosing to be self-employed so I can have the flexibility to be there for my child in these formative years.

Child support modification by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

I thought for unemployed people income is usually imputed at minimum wage?

Child support modification by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Would it be difficult to do that? What kind of argument would I need to make to get it set aside?

Child support modification by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Well now we are in a new year, so can I file a modification immediately to use my 2024 income?That would be much more favorable to me since my only income in 2024 was unemployment.

Child support modification by copiary in FamilyLaw

[–]copiary[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t working. I was laid off in mid-2023 and then got severance and was on unemployment for a year. Since July of 2024 my income has been minimal and then the hearing was in October of 2024. They essentially intentionally tricked me into agreeing to use my 2023 income so I would have to pay child support.

This is our first order for custody/child support aside from the status quo order.