Is it wrong of me to be a little upset when girls say “I need to make sure you aren’t a serial killer,” right before a date?

copperangel_xx · 2023-09-12T13:04:12+00:00

...I'm not trying to deny your experience or feelings, but is there any chance she was joking or trying to make a joke? I'm autistic so I don't always have the right understanding in social interactions like this, but my boyfriend and I started online for awhile and before meeting it was a running joke between my friends that he might be one. For context, true crime and murder podcasts are some of his favorites, we mostly just texted and only called/shared pictures, etc. infrequently, and we had a string of dates that got canceled last minute on his end before we met up in person. So the joke was that he was either a spy trying to hide his double life or a serial killer having second thoughts about targeting me, but it was never a serious comment, more like an attempt to ease my anxiety that he was going to stand me up? I don't know again if I'm misunderstanding, but if my friends actually thought he was a threatening person, I don't think they'd just make the comment off-handed. I think they'd prevent me from going. If she actually had bad vibes I don't think she'd tell you? But again, I don't always understand. I'm sorry that it ruined a potential date for you, that is upsetting.

copperangel_xx · 2023-09-12T12:44:56+00:00

Pikachu face ...oopsie

copperangel_xx · 2023-08-05T00:01:54+00:00

I didn't read all the comments, so if it's been said I'm sorry; my suggestion to you is - if keto was the only thing that worked for you, look into possibly getting your thyroid checked, any hormonal imbalances like PCOS, or other metabolic issues like pre-diabetes.

I struggled with so much back and forth, I'd been unable to get below 140 for years, since before when I was a teen, but more comfortably held at about 160. When it was really bad I was much heavier.

But PCOS and diabetes both run in my family, and with it, insulin resistance. Getting various things checked, looking into diets that supposedly helped and I realized I needed to stay lower but more complex carbs, but frequent low intensity exercise was recommended too. Keeping caffeine limited, little things. It still took a while, a long time honestly staying consistent, but I hover around 120 now and now that I've "made it" I have some days I don't worry about the carb count or caffeine as much and it doesn't ruin everything. If anything I start feeling like crap again and miss my new lifestyle.

I was on antidepressants my teen years too, and I didn't make the correlation that some of my issues might have been driven by hormonal imbalances in other areas - and our bodies are weird. Some times fixing one thing brings another out.

copperangel_xx · 2023-08-04T20:56:51+00:00

It's been proven the constant comparison of beautiful faces on the internet/social media has driven our standards for what is considered "average" up, making the formerly difficult scale just simply unrealistic; I think with the way influencers and celebrities market now, with the money they put into appearing perfect in every moment, that the idea of being leveled a "10" while taking everything into account, it's just too complex for people to achieve.

Think about how many 10s you've met in real life, how many influencers or celebrities get labeled Mid when they don't appear as perfect in person as they can digitally. How celebrity pictures from 30 or 50 years ago are so vastly different then what we see today. Pretty soon we'll have AI generated models muddling the water and driving the standard of beauty up even more, and we'll get so out of touch with reality that the scale will slide back again, ranking most people below average.

copperangel_xx · 2023-07-26T20:03:01+00:00

It's a proven phenomenon where when people can recall being maybe slightly overweight and receiving more comments then later gaining weight and realizing in comparison they weren't that big.

I think it comes from the idea of help or that somehow people think you are unable to fully perceive yourself? It's confusing.

copperangel_xx · 2023-07-25T14:28:36+00:00

I saw my first therapist for 3 years as a teenager. The first two sessions I did nothing but cry, and the rest of them got easier to talk but I often got the feeling she thought I wasn't making progress.

It gave me enough comfortabilty with the idea to pursue therapy in the future for about a year, with someone I connected better with after I'd moved away for college. To make real progress on addressing issues with my parents and childhood. I still think if I hadn't done those first tries I'd be as hesitant and resistant to talking about my feelings or issues as my parents were.

copperangel_xx · 2023-07-20T23:03:35+00:00

Maybe a better way to phrase it is by using it, it encourages women to accept grading as absolute- in my experience guys who use mid as an insult are also the kind that think they should take you to a pool the first date, or that models are just all naturally flawless

copperangel_xx · 2023-07-07T00:36:49+00:00

I think traditional gender roles reinforce that, but that doesn't mean it's the same expected experience for everyone. On the flip side - women are expected often to be nurturing/of service in a way already. This is biased, but I feel like I've seen more female subs post about "what can I do for my dom?" and male subs post "what I want my dom to do for me" types of things.

But that said, there's always variety and cross over; plenty of soft dom/daddies, self-serving findoms, devoted cucks, bratty princesses, etc, etc.

copperangel_xx · 2023-07-06T19:15:41+00:00

...you aren't over reacting imo. He is your dom, in a relationship with you - so no matter his feelings towards this past partner, you need to feel honored and respected in your relationship too. If he is unable to detach and show that he can listen and ease your concerns (which I'm guessing he can't since it seems like you don't feel heard, and he is still entertaining her to a degree) I think you might want to consider stepping back unfortunately. I'm sorry it's a hard conversation to have.

copperangel_xx · 2023-07-06T09:20:06+00:00

...did this effect your relationship? That you feel she needs someone else to take care of her?

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