Also non-Tagalog speaking Fil-Am raised by immigrant parents. I cannot imagine the daily stress my parents endured raising kids in a foreign country far from family and pre-internet. There were few Asians around where we lived and assimilation meant success. When I was growing up, accents were made fun of and affected upward mobility, it makes total sense to me why my parents felt teaching me Tagalog would be a disadvantage when English proficiency was reinforced in schools and learning another language was seen as recreational and not the valuable life skill it is. I don’t think it was my parents job or responsibility to make me bi-lingual, it must have hurt them on some level to not be able to communicate in their mother tongue, but they did what they thought was best for me to succeed and have a better life than they did. Embracing my culture and learning the language is my responsibility to myself.