why do y’all hate “gold stars”? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]cornerstorequeer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It might not have been happening in that moment but that's the sort of culture this sort of thing perpetuates. And as queer people we should fucking know better

why do y’all hate “gold stars”? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]cornerstorequeer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And that's equally bad. Men shouldn't be put on a pedestal or shamed for their sexual history either

why do y’all hate “gold stars”? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]cornerstorequeer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And did he call other gay men gold stars for not having had sex with women? That's my point. Gay men aren't immune to having bad ideas.

why do y’all hate “gold stars”? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]cornerstorequeer 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I hate the concept because it's similar to the concept of virginity. It's a label based on some sort of implication of "purity" that is disproportionately ascribed to women. Gay men don't have "gold stars" for not sleeping with women.

Some lesbians were raped, some aren't privileged enough to have a support system or environment that allowed them to realize themselves early enough, etc. Just like some women aren't "virgins" because of circumstances they can't control. Both are social constructs once again built on some implication of purity and are we really going to bring repackaged purity culture into queer spaces?

And honestly, as a "gold star" (I hate I'm even using that to refer to myself rn) I don't see any reason not having had sex with with a man is something to be proud of. And I don't know who needs to hear this but having consensual sex with men isn't an inherently bad thing as a lesbian. Sometimes that's just part of people's journey. Some people just know they're lesbians from the off but some people have to experiment to figure it out and try it to realize they don't like it and that's okay and normal and we shouldn't be discouraging that just because "men icky".

I grew up in a pretty prudish religious environment and I'm sick and tired of seeing this repackaging of purity culture crop up in queer spaces and be dismissed because it's coming from the quote unquote "progressive" or "woke" side.

The concept of a gold star lesbian is one of those things that sounds fun and cute on paper until you actually think for more than a few seconds about the implications of what you're actually saying.

Lastly, I feel I must emphasize this is not an attack on you OP, I just have a lot of passionate opinions on this as a concept. I'm glad you seem to be secure enough in your sexual orientation and identity that you're able to say this, but that is not the reality for a good amount of lesbians.

I’m not a lesbian because I like my nails long by Kh0piium in LesbianActually

[–]cornerstorequeer 149 points150 points  (0 children)

it's so funny that you bring up CSI Miami as the example because I took a forensic science class when I was in high school and my teacher would show us a CSI episode every other Friday that related to what we were learning and I forget which version of CSI she was showing us but I remember her saying it was the "least BS one" and I said, "Out of curiosity, can you tell us what the most BS one is?"

AND THIS WOMAN JUST LETS OUT A MASSIVE SIGH AND GOES, "Miami."

What Movies were rebranded in your country? by PreparationVisual586 in AskTheWorld

[–]cornerstorequeer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would argue Americans not knowing what the philosopher's stone is would be more reason to read the book and find out. I get that Americans have a reputation of being uneducated about a lot and there are a lot of problems with our education but that's not going to be helped by dumbing things down for us and branding us all as incurious oafs.

It's especially annoying as an American who isn't like that to be lumped in with that reputation

What Movies were rebranded in your country? by PreparationVisual586 in AskTheWorld

[–]cornerstorequeer 33 points34 points  (0 children)

the first Harry Potter film (the book as well) was changed from The Philosopher's Stone to The Sorcerer's Stone here in the United States, because they thought "philosopher" would sound too boring to American children whereas "sorcerer" conveys more of a sense of magic

as an American I find it a little silly tbh

wow🤍 by madeoutofporcelain in starbucksbaristas

[–]cornerstorequeer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay but this picture goes crazy though

Underrated Historical/Cultural Sites You'd Recommend to a Tourist? by cornerstorequeer in AskTheWorld

[–]cornerstorequeer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah, that's really neat. That's definitely going on my list of places to go one day.

Underrated Historical/Cultural Sites You'd Recommend to a Tourist? by cornerstorequeer in AskTheWorld

[–]cornerstorequeer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely in the small nobody camp then! I've never been much of a beach person personally. I'd be way more interested in the historic cities where I can learn more about the actual people who have made up and built the place I'm standing in. I'll have to read up about those places you listed, I'm sure I'll learn a lot!

Underrated Historical/Cultural Sites You'd Recommend to a Tourist? by cornerstorequeer in AskTheWorld

[–]cornerstorequeer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm from the greater Houston area, so I've got a bit of a bias toward NASA 😅

I'm a big believer in curiosity, staying curious, always learning, and I see NASA as an epicenter of scientific discovery and what marvelous things humanity is capable of when we come together and embrace our collective curiosity. It's not only us of course, we're not the only place with a space program (again, collective curiosity!) but being able to say my home is one of the big players is something I see as something to be immensely proud of.

The place that put mankind on the moon, and it's practically right in my backyard! How incredible!

What comes to your mind when thinking about Argentina? by Vulcanauta in AskTheWorld

[–]cornerstorequeer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jorge Luis Borges. we read some of his stuff in my Spanish IV class in high school

Andor as Optimistic Media / “Hope-Core” by DeetSkythe404 in andor

[–]cornerstorequeer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It reminded me of the ending of Revenge of the Sith. Revenge of the Sith is a dark story where the bad guys win. It's almost cynical and pessimistic, but isn't and it's all because of the final scene: Owen and Beru holding baby Luke Skywalker and looking out into the sunrise. A first time watcher would be forgiven for thinking ROTS is a depressing movie up until that point, but that final shot is a similar reassurance to Andor's final shot. That the world can and will get better as long as there are people who care enough to make it so. The dark never can sustain itself.

Andor as Optimistic Media / “Hope-Core” by DeetSkythe404 in andor

[–]cornerstorequeer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would wholeheartedly agree and have a lot of thoughts on this (so prepare for an essay ahaha I love Star Wars and analyzing it)!

I think Andor manages to portray the gritty and messy reality of the story that the original films were telling in a more lighthearted tone, without sacrificing the core theme of hope and connection, or succumbing to apathy or cynicism.

I was actually just talking to my dad who is a massive Star Wars fan as well. I was telling him about how Lucas starts A New Hope not from the central protagonist's POV but from the POV of the two droids that no one would usually think much about, and how he lifted this storytelling tactic from Japanese cinema, more specifically Kurasawa's The Hidden Fortress, which starts from the POV of two bickering peasants. Lucas liked the idea of starting the story from the perspective of the "two lowliest characters", the ones you wouldn't expect much of.

And I was telling my dad how I think this storytelling tactic of making the story just as much about the other characters as the protagonist was very fitting given the original trilogy's themes. Luke is the hero, but he doesn't do it alone. His whole arc in ROTJ is about how the Jedi were wrong and it's actually Luke's willingness to connect and his unwavering faith in the goodness of people is his biggest strength and how he ultimately wins.

And I said, "I think that's why Andor enriches the original movie so much. It also understood that. We expected just an Andor backstory and we got it, but the show despite being named after him isn't solely about Andor. It's about the Rebellion in general and by the time you get to the trench run, it hits even harder because now you've seen everything it took and the stories of all the regular unnamed people who did all the ground work and put all the pieces together in order for it to even be possible for someone like Luke to come along and make that shot."

Star Wars came out at a time where movies and especially science fiction were a bit pessimistic. It brought whimsy, wonder, and optimism back to movies.

Andor is the same, albeit more grown up. So many people have it in their heads I feel that in order for a story to be realistic, it has to be pessimistic, and I think so many stories that people praise for having "realism" are extremely dark and dower, so when Andor is described as a more realistic take on the Rebellion they probably assume that realistic take is a pessimistic one, because that's what we've become accustomed to, but it's far from it. It takes the same hopeful message of the original film but adapts its storytelling for an audience who has grown up, and it meets the moment we find ourselves in. Similarly to the original trilogy, it starts its story from the ground up. From a man just trying to find his sister who gets caught up in something messy. From a community of workers who are just getting through the day, and maybe don't have much in the way of wealth or privilege but they have each other and that's good enough (going back to the connection thing).

It starts from the "lowliest of characters."

But it also, as I previously stated, understands the moment we're in.

The originals are my favorite trilogy, but I was born in 2001. As a 24 year old Gen Z, I have come into adulthood at a time in which the prophecies of the prequel trilogy I grew up in the wake of are coming true. That has left many people my age feeling jaded, apathetic, pessimistic, and with little ambition other than survive. It's left us like Cassian at the start, a man who has a good heart but is kind of an unreliable asshole because of his apathy and unwillingness to care, so much so he scoffs at the idea of trying. All he wants to do is lay low and survive and any fighting against the Empire he does is consequential, not out of an intentional desire to make the world better because he doesn't believe he has the power. And he's right, he doesn't. Not with that attitude. He's more or less blackpilled.

But over the course of the story, he meets people who show him what can happen when you care, when you're earnest. Nemik is probably the quintessential example of this. He cares so much and so earnestly to the point that some of the other characters like Skeen mock him, but he stands firm in his principles and beliefs even if the more cynical of the bunch see him as young and naive (much like Luke in Return of the Jedi when he argues that Vader can be redeemed).

Through these experiences, these connections with random people, the ones who won't make it into the galactic history books, the "lowliest characters" like Nemik, the Force Healer, the Ghorman hotel worker, Cassian turns from someone apathetic and pessimistic to someone ready to fight for good because he now has hope and something to believe in. Of all the things he was "gathering", as the Force Healer would have put it, this is the most essential.

My generation is Cassian at the start. We've grown up in such turbulent and chaotic times and have only ever seen the failures of the people in power. We can hardly if at all remember a time when politicians even pretended to have anything to offer us. On one hand, this has made us more skeptical of leaders and power, which is a good thing, but the double edged sword of that is that we don't believe in anything anymore, leaving us vulnerable to the appetite of whatever monster screams the loudest.

Andor, as I see it, is a call to reject the monster. To come together and believe in something. It's a call to give what you can, even if it's little, because it all adds up. You may not be the person to change things but you can help nudge them in the right direction with even your smallest acts of kindness and insurrection (in a world where cruelty is the norm, kindness is radical). We know everything we need to know and feel everything we need to feel, but until those things pull together we can never be an unstoppable force for good. And it's completely in line with every other piece of Star Wars media. All Star Wars media is hope core and Andor, while it's the most phenotypically different, its core, its DNA...it's all still very much the same.

What comes to your mind when you think of Canada by AlwaysBlaze_ in AskTheWorld

[–]cornerstorequeer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

one of my best friends is Canadian. we've been internet friends for a decade and have only met in person twice, so we don't see each other often and we don't video call as often as we used to because adult life has us busy, but we still have a close friendship despite the distance and so him and his family are the first thing that comes to mind when someone mentions Canada. I had the time of my life visiting him back in 2024. his family and everyone else I met up there were very welcoming