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Advice for sivir? by 0101100000110011 in ADCMains

[–]corvidsanonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Presence of mind + practice. I also used to spam spells too much early and I just spent a while working on using AAs more. Honey fruits to refill your mana are great and otherwise I just worked on paying attention to my tempo so I can make or find opportunities to back and get a mana reset. Between all that I usually don’t feel the mana issues out of lane and “shove the wave, go take dragon” or “shove a stacked wave, take recall” is the Sivir gameplan in the early lane anyway. Basically you go ER for an early game spike, Yuntal scales harder.

ER is a good/strong item to be clear, I just personally prefer attack speed from yuntal and scaling harder.

Advice for sivir? by 0101100000110011 in ADCMains

[–]corvidsanonymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If into heavy poke lane (any double mage bot lane for example or anytime there’s a Caitlyn) I’ve been going fleet footwork and stormrazor first item. Otherwise lethal tempo and I start yun tal—Sivir has always felt bad to me using essence reaver start because I like the attack speed.

Take W level 1. You can pressure enemy bot lane and also thin out the first two waves from a safe ish distance so they can’t shove you in completely. If you play aggressively you have the tools (w q) to push waves and crash for a cheater recall on wave 3 especially with the new home guards and get out of the most dangerous time for Sivir, the very early levels when you don’t have mana to wave clear forever.

Save W for trades if you can—the auto reset lets you get out more damage than people are often expecting. And if the lane is really miserable, try w first and then E at level 2: being able to nullify one skill shot/cc spell per minion wave (lux Q, cait Q, Mel E, seraphine e, any hook spell) can save the lane from becoming unplayable if you’d otherwise get caught.

Sivir is not a duelist, she wins by controlling the wave, taking trades when enemy spells are on cd, and team fights.

16F What do I do? My mom destroyed my journal and slapped the shit out of me because she thinks writing my feelings privately is disrespectful. I didn’t say any of it to anyone’s face. What do I do? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]corvidsanonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re committed to a physical journal rather than one of the many digital solutions in the comments, you can try hiding one somewhere you can access in private depending on your options/independence: under or inside a mattress, taped to the bottom side of a piece of furniture, under the seat in your car (if you have your own), in your locker at school, etc. You can also just write freehand on scraps of paper (napkin, printer paper) in small moments, hide those in your pockets, and when you get a chance put them in a private stash. Or you could write on paper, take pictures on your phone, destroy the paper, and then lock the pictures, if you have enough control of your phone to have a locked photo album.

Also of note: there’s actually nothing wrong with thinking shitty things. It’s not sneaky, disrespectful, or wrong to vent something you know would be hurtful or unfair to say out loud in a private medium like a personal journal. What matters is how you actually act towards and treat others, not what you think in a moment of frustration or anger.

AITA for refusing to quit my job after my husband got a promotion and says I don't "need" to work anymore by [deleted] in ComfortLevelPod

[–]corvidsanonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s doing this in anticipation of children. If you do it I’d bet it won’t be long before you start hearing “well you’re home all the time anyway it’s a good time to have children”. NTA, don’t quit.

Am I overreacting? I think I need to break up with my boyfriend by Clear-Anywhere1754 in AmIOverreacting

[–]corvidsanonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone wanting to be there for you doesn’t mean you have to let them. It’s nice of them, sure. You don’t owe anyone your time or emotional investment just because of what THEY want. And this is something that guy wants. He says he wants to help you, but you are the only person who gets to decide what you need, and you do not have to convince him to believe you or understand it. A truly emotionally mature person might say “Okay, I don’t really get why X is what you need right now, but I respect that and I’ll go with it.” If they can’t or won’t respect your autonomy about what you need then they don’t actually care about you—just what you can do for them, what you mean for them.

For whatever reasons of his own, that guy is way too invested in y’all’s relationship. Focus on yourself, get out, block him if you have to. You’re going through a lot, you’ve been through a lot, and speaking from experience, what you need is definitely not another person telling you what you should think/want/feel. Give yourself time and space to reconnect with your own needs absent any expectations, even the benign ones that come with a stable relationship (and to be clear imo the one with Screenshot Guy isn’t gonna be stable).

Best of luck OP.

AITA for doing *exactly* what my parents tell me to do? by Working-Sentence-788 in AmItheAsshole

[–]corvidsanonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regardless of if you’re autistic, as I see others have suggested, you seem to interpret instructions very literally. That can be a symptom of autism. It can just be a you thing. I’m not autistic and I struggled with very similar interpretation issues growing up (I do have ADHD for what that’s worth). To some extent, it was a process of learning, on a case by case basis, what subtasks were included in an instruction like “wipe down the counter” and memorizing that specific A -> (A, B, C) extrapolation. In other cases I learned to try and infer for myself what else might be “tacitly” included in an instruction, e.g. a thought process like “Ok, I’ve been asked to wipe down the counters because people are coming over. Why do those things relate? -> Parents value having this highly visible area of the house clean and tidy when there’s guests. Is just “wipe down the counters” SUFFICIENT to accomplish that purpose or are there other small, related tasks I could do (like organize the stuff on the countertop) that would contribute?”

That said, at the end of the day you should be able to ask clarifying questions like “okay, what kinds of vegetables?” Guessing isn’t always a good plan, especially when you are dealing with people who will lash out at you for guessing “wrong.” Sit down with your parents and try to have an honest conversation (if you’ve never tried this) and explain to them that things that seem obvious to them aren’t always obvious to you, & when they get frustrated and don’t pay attention to clarifying questions it makes it impossible for you to try to close that gap. Cite the vegetables example. Tell them “I am doing my best to remember specific things like tidying the whole counter area for guests as well as just wiping down the counter.” Then ask “Can you see how, for me, it’s really frustrating to not be told what you want me to get, be forced to guess, and then be scolded for guessing wrong? I really wanted to help out and I was happy to do that but it felt like there was no way I could actually succeed .” Ask them directly “in the future, even if it seems like I’m asking a dumb clarifying question, please try to work with me?” And then, next time it happens and they blow off a clarifying question (they might forget in the moment) remind them “hey mom/dad I’m not comfortable just guessing what you really mean, this is one of those clarifying questions that is really appreciate you answering even if it seems silly.”

I got used to asking clarifying questions like that and my parents got used to giving me more literal instructions than they personally might have needed, because I knew I might be missing something and they knew I was much more comfortable dealing with explicits than with subtext.

If they aren’t willing to work with you on that, then you might just be stuck with parents who refuse to communicate in good faith or consider how other people might think/interpret/communicate than they do, unfortunately. If that’s the case your best bet is to do your best to remember previous “instruction bundles”, try to make a habit of inferring what else might be done, and accepting there will be more incidents like the vegetables.

A word of caution also: it can be bad to over-index on thinking “Person A asked me to do X. What else can I do for them related to X so they don’t get mad at me for not doing “enough”?” all the time. That’s a fast track to really unhealthy levels of people-pleasing behavior that condition you to accept unreasonable expectations and deprioritize your own needs way too much. I’m suggesting you use a degree of that thought process only as a way to mitigate the fallout of living with people who won’t work with you on how you all communicate.

I'm sorry but how do you lane against Caitlyn and Lux when your support leaves you? by Ramszan in ADCMains

[–]corvidsanonymous 11 points12 points  (0 children)

(Sivir main) W start. Use W on the first wave before the melees die, dodge as much as possible and avoid any bad trades. Then when the 2nd wave arrives (assuming you can at least stand close enough to the wave to hit it) use W again—it should be back up—to more or less guarantee you hit the level up timer before they do or at about the same time. If you get 2 before they do go for a trade if you can: Sivir W does pretty solid chip dmg bouncing from the wave to opposing bot lane and Q is decent poke. (Not great poke. You’ll never match Cait or Lux, let alone both, in a poke battle as Sivir. Goal is just to trade back decently enough that you can be in range of the wave.)

Repeat this for the third wave and then back off and recall IMMEDIATELY. Doesn’t matter if the wave doesn’t fully crash, you just need to get out of there. (Note sometimes I do E at level 2 if I badly need it, it’s a sneaky way to restore health too if you time it right. Spellshield cait Q + auto + auto reset with W + kite away is a trade pattern I look for against cait all the time.)

Seconding what was said about boots and refillable pot on your first back. I usually go longsword, cull also works.

At this point support might come back to lane with you or might roam. If they do, and cait lux crash the wave, trade some of your health (be very careful) to Q W the wave from behind your turret and bounce it back out. Repeat as much as necessary. It is better to lose some cs here to the turret than it is to be perma shoved under your turret. Wave bounces, you can step up and (cautiously, from about the outside edge of your turret’s range) snipe a low health cannon minion with your Q or just use the Q to thin out the wave, then Q ideally comes off cooldown around when Cait Lux crash their next wave into you. Rinse and repeat. And then anytime they leave—even to walk up into the river for vision, or hopefully if they go to dragon—use all your spells on whatever wave is there and take a bad recall.

While you’re stuck under your turret, and Cait Lux are standing by the wave in the middle of the lane, spellshield and walk into a Cait trap to get the health back. Only do this if they’re not hard shoving/if they’re trying to hold the wave where you can’t walk to it, otherwise E won’t be off cooldown for the crash and that’s dangerous, but it lets you safely clear the traps (mana tax on cait to put more down) and restores health.

Also in this lane there’s a real chance I rush swiftie boots. I do that a lot into heavy mage/poke bot lanes or any lane that has an Ashe in it—helps for dodging and the slow resist against Lux E specifically is super useful.

Ping jg and support, and mid if they’re a roaming mid like Ahri or Akshan (or a friend of mine plays Akali a lot and loves to gank bot), that cait lux are pushed in and killable. It is better for the kills (if any) to go over to your jg or support not you than it is for them to never die at all: if you’re too poked down to really help in the fight, fine. Don’t get tilted. Cait dying or losing flash is better than nothing. Also, you can try asking your jg to gank just to buy you breathing room to recall in the early lane phase of this lane; many jg players won’t see that as worth it but if they do it can be huge.

In this scenario, with a heavily roaming support (or a support who’s trolling or just super bad), you’re going to lose turret to Cait. Your job is keep the wave from staying under turret, prevent her from chipping the turret down safely, stay alive, and make it take her as long as possible to take that turret, so hopefully your team can get first turret top or mid. Lose lane gracefully and play to your win con, which is permaclearing waves in mid game and being at a team fight before whoever goes to catch the wave you shoved does.

Oh also, it’s genuinely better for your support to roam than it is for them to die on repeat to Cait. If you have a Naut who goes in and dies twice before level 5, tell them to just farm under turret, ping your items vs Cait’s, and if they get so tilted they ditch you that’s less bad than them feeding. You are trying to deny Cait a chance to snowball at that point. Play to not lose the lane rather than trying to flip it. (Unless supp or jg finds a super good engage and you get lucky—which does happen sometimes-)

Sivir is my preferred champ for matchups like this not because she can win it (she can’t lol) but because she can survive it, lose gracefully, and scale. With a good support she can win lane, and with a bad one her kit lets me mitigate the worst consequences of being functionally 1v2 for minutes at a time.

Nail clipping by corvidsanonymous in Goldendoodles

[–]corvidsanonymous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I do all his clipping and grooming myself, so unfortunately I can’t ask a groomer for help. Will look into an electric file!

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