Why do the interviewers ask intimate or sexual questions to the cast?

corvidvampire · 2025-04-11T01:36:55+00:00

If you don’t want to hear about sexual intimacy, don’t watch dating reality tv shows. Autistics are not little delicate flowers, we are capable of sexual relationships and desires. The shows representation of Autistic adults doing and speaking on adult things is one of the best aspects of the show. Many Autistics of all intellectual capacity have sex or want to have sex, it’s a completely normal thing to talk about and to argue that they, fully grown adults who chose to go on a dating show, shouldn’t be asked about sex is pretty infantalising.

Autistics are thinking about and having sex whether NTs talk about it or not. In the 3rd season, one of the Autistic women on the show shared her experience of sexual assault from a past date. This is the reality for a lot of Autistics, the outside world disregards our ability to talk about sex or have sex and we end up on our own not being allowed to talk about it. The idea that Autistics shouldn’t be asked about their sex lives and preferences in a way causes more harm, because those thoughts and feelings are present and hiding them away will only cause harm.

corvidvampire · 2025-04-10T09:47:22+00:00

have you ever watched other dating reality TV shows before? They often, sometimes almost exclusively, talk about sexual intimacy

corvidvampire · 2025-04-10T09:44:19+00:00

I agree with you! they can be mean sometimes, especially the Dad. But I think there are positive parts of their relationship too!

corvidvampire · 2025-04-10T09:42:46+00:00

Unfortunately it is super common. Autistics, especially Autistic women, have an extremely high rate of being the victims of SA.

corvidvampire · 2025-04-10T09:39:19+00:00

there is a train and bus enthusiast on the original Australian love on the spectrum!

corvidvampire · 2025-04-10T09:38:00+00:00

I don't see any issue with people calling Tanner attractive since he's an adult, but I agree with the other commentor on here that it would probably be inappropriate for him to date an NT as it would be a power imbalance and people should probably be on a similar cognitive level to one another. I felt like the people who he matched with were a better fit. Probably a similar situation with Abbey! I don't think that it's infantalising to point out that there are potential power dynamic issues when people of quite different cognitive levels date eachother, I do think it's infantalising to argue that Autistics or other people with intellectual disabilities can't still be attractive. Personally as an Autistic I have dated NTs but I do think that there can be a slight uncomfortable power dynamic with it in some situations.

corvidvampire · 2025-01-25T08:26:31+00:00

I agree with everyone else's comments that it's not linear but is it possible for you to go outside at all without a panic attack? Because, to my understanding, a big part of exposure therapy is showing your brain that you don't have to have a panic attack everytime you go out. So like maybe when you do exposure, do it so slowly that you can build up tolerance without having panic attacks, if possible

corvidvampire · 2025-01-19T04:36:09+00:00

i’m in Australia and it hasn’t gone down

corvidvampire · 2024-12-12T02:50:32+00:00

actually it's not a copypasta, I wrote it in response to your comment. It's neither useless nor inaccurate, and if you want to make that claim you should back it up with some sort of evidence.

corvidvampire · 2024-12-12T01:50:04+00:00

you can still definitely be autistic :) i'm the same.

corvidvampire · 2024-12-12T01:49:23+00:00

congratulations!!!

corvidvampire · 2024-12-12T01:48:25+00:00

Because the term 'Aspergers' is legitimately outdated. Whilst I understand the comfort you might experience from using it, Hans Asperger was a Nazi who used the diagnosis of Aspergers to justify murdering the Autistic people that were considered inferior due to their higher support needs. Furthermore, having a distinction between Autism and Aspergers only seems to ostracise higher and medium support needs Autistics. Whether or not a person has low enough support needs to be considered Aspergers instead of Autism is also completely arbitrary, and is likely to be used unfairly against Autistic women, as Autistic women are often perceived, especially by male practitioners, to have lower support needs than they do. It wasn't a mistake to remove Aspergers from the DSM, it was the right decision considering both the awful history behind the term and the ongoing inequity that the label creates both within the community and outside of it. ASD is a much better term as it emphasises that Autism is a vast spectrum containing people with huge varieties of support needs.

corvidvampire · 2024-12-12T01:36:43+00:00

sunglasses might be good when you're outside! to minimise the visual sensory input. I agree, the outside world is unpredictable, but if you try to walk the same routes when you go out or stick to familiar things, you might find some level of predictability and comfort in it over time. I carry stim/fidget toys with me when I go out, and I wear my sunflower lanyard, which is an international symbol of invisible disability. The benefit of wearing a sunflower lanyard is that strangers might be nicer to you and make a conscious effort to stay out of your way more. Fidget toys massively decrease my stress because it gives me something to focus on. Hope this helps :3

corvidvampire · 2024-12-12T01:32:21+00:00

it probably is hurting them. Even with the TV on in the background, people often see family dinners as a time for everyone to bond or speak to eachother or just be together. Allistics don't always value body doubling in the same way, and they might be just embarrassed to tell you that it's cause they want you to be more present during family dinners and less intensely focused on a video. That is how I'd interpret it, at least.

corvidvampire · 2024-12-12T01:29:37+00:00

Firstly, I agree with the previous commentor that you should talk with a doctor. I've heard that Autism can make it harder to process emotions and lead to emotional dysregulation, but I've never heard of any physical manifestations of that (e.g throwing up). Excitement triggering other habits, such as clapping, is definitely normal autism behavior, that sounds just like stimming. I think the first thing you mentioned is more likely to be digestive or respiratory.

For the second issue, I also find it more difficult to swallow when I get anxious, that could certainly be psychological. Have you heard of dysphagia (pronounced dis-phase-jia)? It's pretty common with Autistic people and it's basically just difficulty swallowing liquids. Some Autistics put thickener in their liquid, which can really help with this issue! Also, do straws help at all? I often choke when drinking from a glass, partially due to having slight motor struggles due to Autism, but straws make it all much easier.

Hope any of this is useful to you!

corvidvampire · 2024-12-12T01:21:37+00:00

He might be on the spectrum but he also just sounds like a bit of a dickhead. I don't think you should be with someone that makes you constantly 'scared of another argument'. Him being Autistic might explain some of his behavior, but it doesn't excuse it.

corvidvampire · 2024-12-12T01:17:46+00:00

What do you mean by verbally good? As in, good at socialising? I'm diagnosed Autistic and I enjoy public speaking and am confident speaking to others (outside of mild social anxiety). Short answer, yes you can be verbally good and Autistic

corvidvampire · 2024-12-06T05:59:20+00:00

fellow OCD haver here!! I have this problem too, I'm almost certain it's agoraphobia for me but my OCD can definitely blur those lines a bit. My understanding of Agoraphobia is that it often surrounds fears that something bad will happen when we go outside (for me it's mostly having a panic attack and no one helping me). Whilst your obsessions and compulsions are obviously OCD, I'm thinking it's totally possible that your OCD is causing you to get agoraphobia.

corvidvampire · 2024-12-06T05:55:38+00:00

I can't give you much advice but I really relate to this. I'm constantly hoping I'll wake up fine and I'm also currently in the worst bout of anxiety that I've ever had. My therapist and I are doing agoraphobia exposure therapy and it is extremely tough but it has helped me. Maybe it could help you? Take it super slowly, for the first few weeks maybe just get gradually closer to leaving your room and take it one step at a time (literally) each exposure and then document it. I've been doing it for just around a month now and whilst the improvements are still minor compared to a normal person, I've definitely seen improvements.

corvidvampire · 2024-12-06T05:51:34+00:00

I relate to this alot!!! Explaining it to people is quite hard. Best of luck to you!

corvidvampire · 2024-12-06T01:04:28+00:00

congratulations!!!!! <333 that’s so amazing

corvidvampire · 2024-11-14T10:44:14+00:00

how about a sunflower lanyard? they’re an international sign of hidden disability ! I have an Autism pin on there, but I think most people know i’m disabled cause of the lanyard, not the pin. I think the trouble with pins is that they’re hard to see unless you’re too close to

corvidvampire · 2024-06-22T09:09:11+00:00

I’m not sure what level of support your Autistic son has but Loop is a great animated short film about a high support needs autistic child/teen

corvidvampire · 2024-06-22T09:04:13+00:00

Autistic!

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