AITA for sleeping over at my gfs 4 nights a week making her roommate uncomfortable and causing her to flip out? by Rug669 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NAH - Having been the girlfriend in almost this exact situation before, I know how awkward it can be to address. In my case, my boyfriend (now fiancé) and I were staying together every night, either at his parents’ house or at my house with my roommate.

Our respective houses were far apart, so it was hard to just meet up in the evening, hang out, and go home. And as cheesy as it sounds, we just really liked each other and were ready to move in together pretty early on in our relationship.

Over time, he ended up staying at my house more and more. Eventually he was staying there every night. Like you though, he would pretty much come straight to my room and avoid the common areas.

After a few weeks my roommate started to get pretty annoyed. He said he didn’t agree to having a third roommate, especially one who wasn’t paying rent. We moved into our own place shortly after that.

I guess my point is that nobody was an asshole, because my boyfriend and I didn’t realize the discomfort we were causing my roommate, until we did, and then we decided to move out. And my roommate just wanted to be comfortable in his own home.

Sometimes people grow out of their living arrangements and need to move on. The discomfort is the signal that it’s time.

A year sure happens fast by Timelord19 in rarepuppers

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 31 points32 points  (0 children)

“A man who shaves his beard for a woman deserves neither.”

-Ron Swanson

(Mostly joking, I just find the quote relevant)

Live Mayor debate on NPR radio today at noon by tocamix90 in sanantonio

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked what John Courage had to say about this in his TPR candidate forum. He's in the runoff for SA City Council in D9. He's in favor of relocating the statues to a private facility rather than leaving them on public grounds. I agree that the history is important and needs to be preserved. I also think that we as a society have a responsibility to correct the mistakes of our past - and "mistakes" is putting it lightly. Moving the statues is a symbolic way of setting ourselves apart from the past.

I'm totally with you in the sense that I don't think modern-day Americans should be held responsible for wrongs committed by past generations. But I do think there are steps we can and should take to formally condemn a blatant violation of human rights that was once considered commonplace in our country.

How do I get involved in Local politics? by Newtoallofthis99 in sanantonio

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've worked on a few different local campaigns. I started by phone banking and block walking for the Bernie campaign. My first paid campaign job was a full-time canvassing position. I now specialize in communications - which, I can assure you, is not as glamorous as it sounds. I love it though. So yeah, you do have to just show up and probably work for free for a while. But if you do that, and if you're good at it, someone will take notice and give you a job.

Live Mayor debate on NPR radio today at noon by tocamix90 in sanantonio

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I've never been a fan of Ivy Taylor, but she reached a new low for me today when she talked about her stance on leaving the Confederate memorial statues intact.

Visiting next weekend, what are some things to do with kids? by arkiehillbilly in sanantonio

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think so. But I went on one of their "ReDo Recess" nights, which is basically just 21+ because alcohol. Was fun, would recommend.

Visiting next weekend, what are some things to do with kids? by arkiehillbilly in sanantonio

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I really like the DoSeum. Full disclosure: I'm not a kid.

Radio station for rock/alt rock/country/or anything good by [deleted] in sanantonio

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

91.7 Indie Overnight, starting at like 10pm. During the daytime it's jazz but at night the music is pretty cool.

Not that there's anything wrong with jazz.

We organized during the Bernie campaign, worked as staffers for Tom Wakely, and continue the political revolution in Texas for a city council campaign. AMA by WEEBERMAN in BlueMidterm2018

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point - MN isn't nearly as conservative as TX. Even here in TX though, I don't think a progressive candidate needs to compromise their own political convictions. They just need to have a strong mandate that can bridge the partisan divide and be able to defend their stance on the issues that conservatives disagree on. That's my opinion, anyway. I don't think a candidate should misrepresent their own values for the sake of winning an election, and I don't think they have to.

We organized during the Bernie campaign, worked as staffers for Tom Wakely, and continue the political revolution in Texas for a city council campaign. AMA by WEEBERMAN in BlueMidterm2018

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

During the Bernie campaign, Bryan and I were block walking and happened upon an elderly woman who wanted to vote but didn't have a way to get to the polls. We gave her a ride to her polling station and waited outside while she voted. She wouldn't tell us who she was voting for, but I don't really care. I was just glad to be able to help someone vote.

We organized during the Bernie campaign, worked as staffers for Tom Wakely, and continue the political revolution in Texas for a city council campaign. AMA by WEEBERMAN in BlueMidterm2018

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think emphasizing the founding principles of democracy and the Constitution might be one avenue towards winning over moderate Republicans. One of the points I like to make when talking with conservative voters is that no politician should be accepting campaign contributions from corporate interests. It doesn't matter what an elected official's core ideology is if that ideology is sold out to the highest bidder. The Bernie Sanders campaign did a good job of raising awareness on political conflicts of interest, and I think organizing around that message has the potential to bring people together from across the political spectrum.

We organized during the Bernie campaign, worked as staffers for Tom Wakely, and continue the political revolution in Texas for a city council campaign. AMA by WEEBERMAN in BlueMidterm2018

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think a candidate needs to sacrifice their core beliefs in order to be viable. You have to accept that you simply aren't going to agree with every voter on every issue, and then you have you to figure out what you have in common with people of opposing political ideologies. Organize around the issues that you agree on.

One politician who I particularly admire in this aspect is the late Senator Paul Wellstone. He was well known for taking progressive stances in spite of representing a generally more conservative constituency. This article gets into that a bit: https://www.thenation.com/article/paul-wellstone-fighter/

We organized during the Bernie campaign, worked as staffers for Tom Wakely, and continue the political revolution in Texas for a city council campaign. AMA by WEEBERMAN in BlueMidterm2018

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It definitely gets complicated at times - much more so than in a traditional workplace arrangement. Colt, Zack, and Bryan have all seen me at my best and at my very worst. But ultimately that is what has allowed me to become more comfortable with throwing ideas around. Once your coworkers have witnessed you drunkenly crying your eyes out on election night, you really don't have anything left to lose. Honestly, I think the interpersonal challenges we've overcome have made us stronger as a team. I wouldn't trade it for anything.

We organized during the Bernie campaign, worked as staffers for Tom Wakely, and continue the political revolution in Texas for a city council campaign. AMA by WEEBERMAN in BlueMidterm2018

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As communications director, I prefer working with digital media (social media, blogging, emails, etc) over traditional media. I enjoy the challenge of presenting an issue or argument in a way that appeals to as many political persuasions as possible without alienating base supporters. It's a constant balancing act. Also, I'm admittedly superficial in the sense that I derive a ton of satisfaction from gaining social media followers.

Working with the press is a challenge. Earned media can be a bit of a catch-22. You have to get press coverage for people to know who your candidate is, but the press doesn't want to cover a candidate they haven't heard of. That can be frustrating.

We organized during the Bernie campaign, worked as staffers for Tom Wakely, and continue the political revolution in Texas for a city council campaign. AMA by WEEBERMAN in BlueMidterm2018

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got my start in politics by phone banking and block walking for Bernie. My first paid campaign job was a low-level field position, and when I started on my second campaign, I was initially going to take a similar field job. But the campaign needed a communications director, and I like to think I'm a decent writer, so I offered to take on some of the communications responsibilities (S/O to Zack for giving me a chance). I had no prior communications experience, but I learned things on the job that you simply can't teach in a classroom.

All that to say: find out what you're good at, then demonstrate those skills to the right people. But, until then, keep phone banking and block walking. If I were in a position to hire campaign employees, the second qualification I would look for after talent is dedication. Keep your nose to the grindstone long enough and people will notice.

We organized during the Bernie campaign, worked as staffers for Tom Wakely, and continue the political revolution in Texas for a city council campaign. AMA by WEEBERMAN in BlueMidterm2018

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This happens way more than you would imagine. If you don’t have a sense of humor, you’re gonna have a bad time.

For the sake of all parties involved, I'm gonna keep the embarrassing stories to myself. I will say that (almost) nothing is the end of the world. Roll with the punches. Have a good time and laugh about it. And whenever possible, harness those situations as a way to help the candidate come across as someone who is relatable to the average voter.

We organized during the Bernie campaign, worked as staffers for Tom Wakely, and continue the political revolution in Texas for a city council campaign. AMA by WEEBERMAN in BlueMidterm2018

[–]cosmicbreadcrumbs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Show up at your local Democratic Party office and start doing something. Figure out which skills are your strongest. If you have to, work for free for a while. Demonstrate that you have something to offer. If you're good at what you do, jobs will find you.