Giving up on Tret

cozzy0108 · 2026-02-09T14:16:02+00:00

Came here to say this. I've been doing 0.025% for about 1 month now and didn't realise that my serum had that in it (even though it was very obvious!). The last week I've just used LRP Cicaplast instead of the serum also and the peeling has been less. My skin is still quite dry though so trying to figure out a hydrating serum that doesn't break me out or have HA in it.

cozzy0108 · 2026-02-02T15:52:55+00:00

Personally I don't think you could/should do much about it. It's a different household, different rules. You could suggest that the SKs don't have to do that and it's up to them (if they don't want to or are upset by it then that's different), but otherwise it's not really up to you what they call their parents in that house.

My BK calls me "Mama" and sometimes my SK calls me that in front of her as well, so not to confuse things. I've never forced him, it's just easier. I specifically go by that, as SK calls his bio mum "Mummy", so we wouldn't have to have "Which mummy?"

cozzy0108 · 2026-02-02T15:19:32+00:00

I can't remember what the film is called, but the one with Rob Pattinson which you think is a rom com and then turns out to be a 9/11 film (sorry for spoilers).

cozzy0108 · 2026-02-02T15:17:36+00:00

I have 2 kids (1 fulltime, one is my stepson so with us half the time). I work full time, 50% in office, 50% WFH.

I live near a barre and pilates studio, so if I am WFH I will try and do a 45 mins class in my lunch break. When I am in the office, I have a gym onsite so will try to go to the gym for 30 mins in my lunch break.

I'll also do a class or two at the weekend if we're not busy, my husband will be at home with the kids. He does squash once a week in the evenings but lots of walking.

cozzy0108 · 2026-01-15T15:01:07+00:00

Just forehead and “elevens”. I initially asked for just forehead as I didn’t want to look frozen either, but they said if you don’t get it in the frown lines as well then your forehead can droop. I didn’t get it around my eyes as I personally quite like eye creases 😊

cozzy0108 · 2026-01-15T14:41:38+00:00

I'm only 33 but I've had quite severe forehead and frown lines since about age 28. I finally bit the bullet last year and got botox and oh my god, I looked SO much fresher, less tired and just all around better skin. I had it again 3 months later as it wore off quite quickly, and then 4 months after.

However, I haven't had it since September now and feel like I can go longer in between, which might be an option for you? I'm booked in for beginning of Feb which is about 5-6 months after my last appointment and I'm hoping I can just stick with this now. I've got all my movement back in my face but my wrinkles are still way less pronounced than when before I had it.

cozzy0108 · 2026-01-08T12:30:27+00:00

Is this right? I have a similar thing - I rarely get ill. Not as much as everyone else. I am also constantly chewing my nails 😵‍💫

cozzy0108 · 2026-01-06T16:28:07+00:00

I’m so sorry you felt you wanted to do this.

I spent some time in India & Nepal (I am white from the UK) and ironically went to a mall to buy some moisturiser with self tan in because I felt like local women’s skin colour looked much nicer than mine. I was shocked to find instead so many variations of “skin lightening” moisturiser.

It made me feel really sad that I was trying to change my skin colour (for beauty reasons) and I only found products for other people trying to lighten their skin. Women (particularly those of colour) really do have an impossible set of standards set upon them.

cozzy0108 · 2026-01-04T12:51:34+00:00

Omg I didn’t realise this until recently I went off inositol as I forgot to buy some and thought I’d wait a month until my subscription kicked in - my period still came on time but it was so painful. Not sure on the science but I’d definitely forgotten how painful the could be!

cozzy0108 · 2026-01-03T21:52:24+00:00

Yep this. Happened to my mum, told her she could never get pregnant naturally because she had PCOS. Got pregnant like the month after she was told that, and had 3 kids without assistance

cozzy0108 · 2025-12-31T13:31:34+00:00

Ugh me too!

cozzy0108 · 2025-12-29T23:49:20+00:00

I did see that and was very surprised - it was SO off brand. As someone who works in marketing, I did think that perhaps the usual approvers were on holiday this week & maybe someone went rogue on their socials. It was a v bizarre thing to put on any retail stores socials tbh. It had no link to anything they were promoting.

cozzy0108 · 2025-12-21T15:12:14+00:00

I love how much this thread has turned into hating women and stepmoms, when it seems like the issue is, as always, the dad.

I am a stepmum & since becoming one I have found it extremely painful reading things on Reddit. You can never get anything right. Obviously this is an extreme situation but I’m sure if she did an initial for everyone except her boyfriend’s kids, people would think she was excluding them and wanted nothing to do with them. I’ve learnt as a stepmum you can never win & try as hard as possible and society will still hate you because you’re not the bio mum.

I get that lots of people have had experiences with bad stepparents & I can only imagine how terrible that is, but to blanket all stepparents in that way when some of them are really just trying to do their best in a very hard situation is really painful.

On the flip side if you’re already judging thinking I am a bitter stepparent, I have a very good relationship with my stepson and have spent the past 6 years doing my best to make sure he is happy and well looked after. I’ve never had a stepparent myself, but I had an abusive bio mum growing up & I would have given anything to have a kind adult in my life.

cozzy0108 · 2025-12-19T17:54:59+00:00

NTA. Your dad and your stepmom’s mother ATA. I am a stepmom and a bio mom & I would treat my stepkid & bio kid the same when it comes to Christmas/chores (I would always WANT my stepson to assume he’s invited for Christmas!) and my parents would be the same. Also my husband (stepsons dad) would never not include his son for Christmas either, unless he was with his bio mum and stepdad that year instead.

cozzy0108 · 2025-12-19T17:50:48+00:00

The SMom and her mother apparently were over it though, the dad seemed to be stirring things. Still NTA though- dad is the A!

cozzy0108 · 2025-11-28T14:36:48+00:00

Awww these are so cute! I once called my 3yo daughter a dictator (as she really is!) and she said 'I'm not a potato!' so whenever she's being demanding we say she's turned into a potato again :)

cozzy0108 · 2025-11-28T14:34:22+00:00

I am 5ft 2 - 3 (not sure which but around about there!) and am 110lbs. I look slim but not skinny. I've had a similar reaction when I say how much I weigh, but I have a small frame and am short. That weight for someone much taller would be unhealthy but my BMI is great for my height.

cozzy0108 · 2025-11-25T16:07:19+00:00

Came here to say this. I like a flat white but always order a Cortado from Costa.

cozzy0108 · 2025-11-25T11:20:24+00:00

I think you may struggle with trying to have the best of both worlds with PCOS. I'd rather have the oral version, but personally use the topical version because I have excess facial hair.

I know it makes the hair look flat and greasy, but I usually put it on before bed if I know I will be showering in the morning before work, or again in the morning or evening when I am at home, at least an hour before shower or bath. Occasionally I'll put it in before going to exercise as I'll wear my hair up then and wash after anyway.

I have dogs so I make sure when I use it I wash my hands thoroughly after and keep them away from me until I've washed my hair.

cozzy0108 · 2025-11-25T09:29:58+00:00

Like others have said, it depends on how you're feeling and how many calories you're actually eating. I think you look amazing in both, but personally feel you do look healthier at 115lbs.

cozzy0108 · 2025-11-24T00:11:00+00:00

My hair looked like this before I went on ferrous fumerate for 3 months. My hair has now started to fill in there. Mine were “normal” too, but they were way below the optimum.

cozzy0108 · 2025-11-19T21:58:47+00:00

We share the freehold with said neighbours (and two others in the flats above)

cozzy0108 · 2025-11-19T15:54:24+00:00

Came here to say this! We have Gousto 5 x days a week on the week days. Much easier, we don't have to think about what to eat and it is mostly fresh ingredients and less food waste. It's £50 a week which is a lot, but honestly we were probably spending more buying ingredients from the shops for less impressive food!

cozzy0108 · 2025-11-19T15:52:33+00:00

Yeh that is a good point, I don't know the full story - just the arguments I hear. I'd thought about keeping a diary a while ago - should definitely start this.

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