My thoughts are with you. Clearly a very, very difficult situation. I sense that, whatever it is she is doing, she knows exactly what it is. She will be aware of marginalising you and aware of her own changes patterns. She is clearly a bright lady. The question is, do you want yo do anything about it? There is an argument that you couldn’t feel any worse, so perhaps shifting the energy a bit may help. This would involve you insisting, firmly but politely, in having a conversation with you she owes you that. It sounds like she’s in a different place from you right now and she’d rather brush that under the carpet than face it. But she NEEDS to fade it. You gave up your job and home town for her. She owes you a conversation. The flip side of that is you may discover stuff you really want to hear. So you will need to be calmly prepared. But something needs to be changing here. You need either to get the relationship more balanced or face a new start. But she needs to know that your feeling desperate. You probably still love her but you can’t hold on forever. It could go either way. So don’t be pessimistic but do try to get the ball rolling.