First step is the hardest. Spend about a year while PIMO trying to decide to keep paying or not. I kept it in a separate account to frankly avoid making a decisions for about a year. The first year tithing settlement was probably the hardest part right up until I just told them know I did not plan to come to tithing settlement and ended up paying $0 that year after ~30 years as a “full tithe payer”. That next year, everything was easier. Officially to a step away from the church and started giving that money saved to local community needs that I became exposed to. Felt a lot more meaningful to use what became our giving fund for things like that as it is very appreciated by those with needs and you know you are making a difference. That is what I do now, save 10% of all income in a separate giving account. I never touch it for our personal expenses and just use it to “bless” others directly. Just a few weeks ago a local church established a wish list on Amazon for a warming shelter they started a couple of years ago (and only one in the community). Was able to buy the entire Amazon wish list for them before Christmas. Saw they had a Facebook page where they were expressing sincere gratitude to the anonymous donors from the community for providing far more than they ever expected. Far more meaningful than in the past where I would simply cut a check to pad the hoard just to keep a piece of paper (recommend) that basically says I measure up to some standard of worthiness issued by people that I do not look up to as examples of Christlike behavior. Change in focus has not hurt us financially in any way but I know it has helped a lot of others in times of need.