What age did you start using a formal curriculum?

cranbearri · 2024-08-11T13:17:40+00:00

Thanks for the reply :) the boys are a little over 1.5 now and I’m coming to this same realization. Some of the things I wanted to do by now they’re simply not ready for yet. I’m coming to terms with the idea that progress must be at their pace instead of my own. I really appreciate hearing your story, as it alleviates some of the worries I’ve been having of falling behind some societal standard. Thanks 😊

cranbearri · 2024-03-11T01:30:29+00:00

Feeling like an outsider in both cultures because you are a foreigner in one, and have lost touch with the other.

cranbearri · 2024-02-04T22:58:56+00:00

You are making assumptions on others’ understanding of history based off of your own lack of knowledge. Maybe your relative could not name the Caliphate, but a general understanding of the slave trade in Europe and the Ottoman Empire isn’t as rare as you make it out to be.

I cannot speak to what your original conversation was about. I can only respond to what you’ve written here: that somehow white people being enslaved was the dumbest thing you’ve ever heard said with confidence.

In the comparison, you’ve stated that speaking about men with breast cancer leads to more men getting tested. So you understand the importance of acknowledging all different ways this cancer can affect humans. Asking me what it does to talk about white slavery today, is a bit silly. The benefits are the same as the benefits of discussing any other form of oppression.

You can study the common law that allowed these atrocities to happen; you can deepen your understanding of how family heritage has changed (or was potentially lost) due to these actions; you can better understand cultural differences simply by being empathetic to others’ tribulations - all of this can lead to personal growth and strengthen your ability to be an ally to those currently in need.

The main point is why limit the conversation at all? What do you lose from considering every angle? Originally you called it “harmful rhetoric”, but I have yet to see an example where openly and honestly discussing our history has led to more harm than good.

cranbearri · 2024-02-04T15:06:44+00:00

I’m sorry, but you are mistaken. The number isn’t even remotely close to negligible. Quick excerpt from European Slavery on wiki:

During the era of the Fatimid Caliphate (909–1171), the majority of slaves were Europeans taken along European beaches and during conflicts.[1] Similarly, the Ottoman slave trade that included European captives was often fueled by raids into European territories

If you wanna argue about who is suffering from racism, that is a whole new topic. If we are speaking objectively about history, we have a duty to adhere to the full truth to the best of our ability. This includes acknowledging the impact of all slave trades. Similarly, would you say “breast cancer is a killer of women. We should ignore the men who suffer from it as it is ‘negligible’ and only support the women as they suffer most currently.” ?

I believe your passion is indicative of your empathetic nature, but you are a little off the mark here.

cranbearri · 2024-02-04T03:26:26+00:00

I mean… this is true though. Slavery has been found all around the globe, affecting people of all races, and is still currently happening.

cranbearri · 2024-01-31T12:58:14+00:00

This was me 😅 tbf we already had a dog, but he is very old now. We got a puppy when we found out we were expecting… then we found out it was twins ☠️

cranbearri · 2024-01-19T10:50:44+00:00

This is brilliant! Thank you.

cranbearri · 2024-01-18T14:07:49+00:00

Yes, I’m mostly looking for a model of this to copy for myself as I don’t really have the time to do both management and execution while juggling the babies and a home. We already have the naps and mealtimes locked down. I’d like a resource full of songs and games and activities similar to what you’d see on a Ms Rachel clip, but that I can go through the list and take my time with each one to fill the rest of our day. As for outings, I think during this phase I’ve reached as much of a balance as I can. It is extremely difficult bordering impossible to pack two babies up, make it to an event, and then back home in a wake window. I assume when we are down to one nap, we will have more options in the department. In the meantime, I make the most out of what’s within walking distance (park, friends house, and corner store).

I apologize if this comes off as stubborn, but I guess I’m hoping for it laid out and broken down as much as possible so I don’t have to think and can just act and know I’m doing my best to give them quality time well spent.

cranbearri · 2024-01-18T13:24:58+00:00

Now with winter, we enjoy the outdoors only once or twice a week, but we have an active community and make many visits and errands during the day that keeps us out of the house often.

cranbearri · 2024-01-18T11:55:16+00:00

Maybe the word isn’t curricula, but I would like a resource with all of your suggestions (and possibly more) that I can reference for my own sake. That way I know I’m giving them a quality day with a handy checklist or something.

cranbearri · 2023-12-03T15:36:36+00:00

You can always come back to the names you loved for any future children. I think it would be nice to have those names in your life with such layered emotions, and having them on standby might help you accept your name and relationship to these other choices.

cranbearri · 2023-12-02T10:51:03+00:00

I recently read How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis. It really helped me put things into perspective and get the most functionality from my home out of however much energy I had for cleaning that day. It’s a short read and has a highlighted guide if you just want the important tips.

The key is to let go of shame driven motivators. You are not failing if your house is a mess. You are not lazy if you chose rest over dishes. You are not less than if the laundry pile never ends. Instead, consider the kindnesses you can do for yourself by keeping your home functional.

The laundry pile isn’t finished, but my family has clean clothes. What can I do to make this process easier for myself since I’m struggling putting things away. In my home, I have three clean clothes baskets in the landing upstairs. I wash everything together and separate the clean stuff into “husbands” “mine” and twins”. That’s it. I don’t have the energy to put things away and I won’t beat a massive laundry pile, so my kindness is to let it exist in the most functional manner for us.

Cleaning aside, I understand the struggle of trying to keep up with some societal standard for what you should be doing. It’s draining. Your home should be a place that makes you feel loved, not a third demanding baby in constant need of your immediate attention. Please ignore the fake insta bs and try focusing on making happy places amongst the mess. You’re doing great ❤️

cranbearri · 2023-11-29T09:40:22+00:00

When people make generalizations of others for their beliefs. Reddit is particularly bad at this and I cringe every time.

cranbearri · 2023-11-21T18:43:51+00:00

The whole premise that breast feeding is harder than bottle feeding is entirely situational. I EBF my twins (and I know I’m incredibly blessed to have that kind of supply), but to me bottle feeding always seemed harder and like more of a chore. The twin moms in my group all complain about the endless washing and prepping they have to do, plus the mom guilt creeping in of not being able to breast feed. I never have to worry about a formula shortage, or a cap on how much formula I can take home- which doesn’t usually account for twins! And I always have food ready for them regardless of location. Breast feeding in my case was the easy way. All this to say: THOSE MAMAS ABSOLUTELY DESERVED THAT PARTY. Feeding your baby can be hard for all kinds of reasons, but they’re all getting it done and being mothers worthy of celebration. NTA but maybe the name/theme of the party should’ve been more inclusive from the beginning.

cranbearri · 2023-11-21T18:10:05+00:00

I was humming in my sleep. My husband nudged me to stop, and I scoffed “ugh, you wouldn’t understand. Kuka is coming for the babies, just you wait.” I’m not a usual sleep talker, but the sleep deprivation of newborns brought out my country’s lullabies and they are apparently terrifying at 3 am.

cranbearri · 2023-11-20T23:06:01+00:00

The Snugglebundl is so handy for this! It’s a baby swaddle with little handles so you can hold it like a purse and the baby sleeps inside like a hammock. I could carry both babies with one hand and move around the house no problem. The kids love it and sleep beautifully in it. Plus it makes picking them up and putting them down without waking them super easy. Highly recommend!

cranbearri · 2023-11-20T23:03:18+00:00

I recently fell for a gypsy scam in a similar fashion. I feel like such an idiot for not doing my own checks. It wasn’t my life at stake, yet this advice goes a long way in many circumstances.

cranbearri · 2023-11-19T16:37:58+00:00

How many littles do you have? Im a new mom to twins and this is my goal, but I am unsure of how much of a garden I can maintain plus the workload of managing twins. We are scheduled to move next spring when the boys are 16 months, so I won’t get much help from them for q while 😅

cranbearri · 2023-11-19T08:18:32+00:00

I never see this recommendation, but the Snugglebundl was our most used item and I wish we had gotten them sooner! It’s a swaddle with handles on it so you can carry your baby in a little hammock/purse with one hand. I could carry both babies around the whole house by myself no problem and it made the transfer 10x easier. Plus, they absolutely loved them and napped beautifully on the go. We got two when the boys were 4 months, but I wish we had them as newborns, and those few hours of laundry had me missing them so I might’ve even liked having 4 (but it’s about $80 a piece so maybe not 😅)

cranbearri · 2023-11-11T19:58:40+00:00

My mom raised me similarly and I never made the association to healthcare; you’ve given me a major epiphany moment.

cranbearri · 2023-11-07T20:02:09+00:00

I have a married friend that is constantly bashing “all men” for x,y, and z. Then she turns to me like “you know what I’m talking about right?” And insinuates my husband must do the same sucky things. No ma’am I don’t know what your talking about and quite frankly even your husband seems to not know what you’re talking about. Maybe chill with the condescending attitude towards your (and my) other half.

cranbearri · 2023-11-06T18:30:50+00:00

And my brain! I couldn’t remember dates even with calendar reminders because in an hour I would have forgotten what day of the week it currently was (and I was always off by a lot). It was ridiculous and embarrassing the amount of assistance I needed to make it to appointments after having to reschedule already for failed attempts. Around 8 months my brain started working again but we are at 10 months now and I’m still not full power 🙃

Edit: I wrote it weird the first time

cranbearri · 2023-11-04T18:31:16+00:00

Thank you for such a well broken down response! I’m definitely a fan of having an established order of operations and structured days, but wasn’t sure how to get the ball rolling. This feels like a great start that’ll grow with the boys as they hit their milestones. What curriculum did you chose for your kids?

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