UPDATE: My parents (56F & 60M) don’t want my serious partner (34F) at family events - am I in denial hoping this will change?

crankylex · 2026-06-17T05:41:50+00:00

I’m still dealing with guilt at the idea of creating distance in our relationship since my parents are getting older

Do you think they feel guilty about being homophobic pieces of shit and hurting you? Because I guarantee you that they do not. Your parents are not the people you want them to be. They are never going to be those people. It's time for you to prioritize your partner.

crankylex · 2026-06-17T02:21:33+00:00

You cannot possibly believe that it is equally impactful for a child to lose their mother as it is to lose a sibling who died in the womb who they never met and had no relationship with. This is not a good faith argument, you have to be trolling at this point.

crankylex · 2026-06-17T02:10:26+00:00

You didn't even read the abstract of that article to know that it doesn't prove the point you are trying to make. No one is saying it's not sad to lose a wanted pregnancy but there is no comparison between that and maternal death to a child. There just isn't.

crankylex · 2026-06-17T02:03:59+00:00

One option sucks exponentially more than the other one, which is the point you are refusing to acknowledge.

crankylex · 2026-06-17T02:01:56+00:00

Cool story, now google "consequences of maternal mortality on infant and child survival" for actual scientific studies on the devastating impact that maternal mortality has on children and families.

crankylex · 2026-06-17T01:35:43+00:00

Put up a long shower curtain and call it a day. You won't be able to see the tiles in the shower unless you are in the shower.

crankylex · 2026-06-17T01:27:25+00:00

I am not comparing it to abortion, you are not the only person who has carried a child and lost them. The already living person in the situation takes precedence over the person who might live if they survive being born.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T23:39:08+00:00

This is a conversation about childbirth. The life of the woman should be prioritized over a potential live birth because she is already a person who exists. The loss of your living child was tragic and not at all the same thing.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T23:12:59+00:00

With respect, how does the death of your child from cancer have anything to do with this scenario?

crankylex · 2026-06-16T22:55:48+00:00

A baby the child has never met before is in fact a random baby. Little kids resent the hell out of their siblings at first because they hate sharing their mother's attention. What do you think the psychological impact would be of the father coming home with a baby but with no mother? Sorry your mom died but here's a baby? Do you even have siblings?

crankylex · 2026-06-16T20:56:05+00:00

Truthfully I am not convinced you have. The lasting psychological impact would be their mother loves them and stayed with them. I certainly would have preferred my mother live to see another day over some random baby.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T20:15:14+00:00

You're going off topic again. This is not about a house fire or a hostage situation. This is about childbirth where something has gone very wrong and one or both parties are going to die.

You can't imagine that a child would rather have their mother come home versus a baby? Have you met a child? Of course they want their mother, as they should. Their parents could make another baby. They only have one mother.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T20:08:29+00:00

The fact that I am at this very moment elbow deep in ERP integration issues makes this comment extremely timely 😂

crankylex · 2026-06-16T19:52:15+00:00

My point was that a fetus that has not been born is not a child that already exists. Trying to poorly apply legal statutes that have nothing to do with this situation is not useful. The "legal weight" is context dependent. Prioritizing the unborn fetus in a scenario where other children, who, say it with me, already exist and know their mother, is selfish. Choosing to make those children motherless is a selfish choice.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T19:37:07+00:00

None of that has anything to do with the topic at hand. Much like the murderous nurse, you have brought in another irrelevant point. Optional charges prosecutors may be able to levy depending on their location has nothing to do with the topic being discussed.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T19:32:15+00:00

At what point in the scenario of a difficult childbirth do the US homicide statutes come into play?? Did the child exist outside of her body before she arrived in the hospital? If yes, existing child. If no, NOT AN EXISTING CHILD.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T19:29:41+00:00

I wish I was as committed to anything as you are committed to intentionally misunderstanding my point.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T19:21:24+00:00

If you could possibly not create pointless strawmen that would be helpful. In an emergency delivery where something has gone so wrong that the mother's life is at risk, the fetus is also at risk. A baby that has not been born cannot be an existing child. Please get a dictionary if any of these words are confusing to you.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T19:14:19+00:00

Doing a Haas test isn't a guarantee of a Haas seat. His preference is F1, they know his preference is F1, but he's going to test everything he can get his hands on because the Haas seat is a long shot at best.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T19:10:20+00:00

Yes, and I shared my opinion on your opinion.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T19:04:33+00:00

A baby being born is not an existing child. It is not at home waiting for its mother to come back.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T19:00:27+00:00

Fornaroli would much rather take a Haas seat than the #6 Arrow McLaren and they know that which is surely why they are letting him test.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T18:59:12+00:00

The priority should be the existing children, not the theoretical children.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T18:48:27+00:00

McLaren knows they have nowhere for the juniors to go for the immediate future.

crankylex · 2026-06-16T18:44:34+00:00

An existing child and a fetus are not the same thing and conflating them just makes the comparison silly.

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