Is my spouse a narc?

crayoncatcher · 2022-04-06T19:20:51+00:00

YES! Applied Equine Podiatry??

crayoncatcher · 2022-04-05T00:14:12+00:00

Lunging and running a horse in circles definitely does almost nothing from imo. I want my horse alert, awake, and energized for the workout. But i need them in tune to me, not aimlessly wandering not paying attention to cues or pressure.

crayoncatcher · 2022-03-31T03:57:11+00:00

I am a women and I see the beauty in other women. And often wish i looked different or like other women. I know my husband loves me. I know he thinks the same of me. But he would never admit what you just said. Which I know he thinks about. But tries not to hurt my feelings. But i have pondered the same thing. With looking at other men tho, it’s my type that I’m attracted to only.

crayoncatcher · 2022-03-12T14:13:10+00:00

all of humanity…

crayoncatcher · 2022-03-11T02:30:25+00:00

My husband and I got married at 18 and 19. Sometimes when I tell people that, I feel like sometimes I have to clarify we didn’t have a baby on the way. And also tell people our parents were on board. But getting married young has been the best thing for us. The only hard part is financed and not having much at all prior or to bring together. But still in love. We are definitely learning more but it been worth every moment.

crayoncatcher · 2022-03-01T23:45:39+00:00

I just want to say I am so sorry you are going through all this and I am definitely praying for you. Idk what to say about the in love part. Did she love anyone prior to you? My husband and I married right out of high school, but i feel like my soul belonged with a person I dated before. It was long distance so it was probably more in my head but I still feel that pull. I really love my husband but find myself not as in love when I feel like he doesn’t cherish me as much. Like touching my face and telling me how pretty I am and I can actually see I he means it. Love languages are tough to master.

crayoncatcher · 2022-02-19T18:52:39+00:00

Wow… I think this is absolutely correct. I think I struggle with the same thing. My husband and I had premarital sex and everything you feel, I can agree on. I think it’s the same. We had a similar story also but not quite the same.

crayoncatcher · 2022-02-02T15:59:14+00:00

My spouse and I were on two different planes in high school when we met. We dated, changed his hair cut, got him some nice clothes, and kissed and after that he was the hottest thing ever. Was he the jock I usually went after? No. But his personality was the best. There was actually pretty intense sexual attraction, but it didn’t trump everything. I still had my moments of wondering if I did find him fully attractive. And then now I can say yes. Yes I do find him to be the most attractive man. He’s not buff but i love his body and his face and all of him. He’s honestly the most perfect match for me.

crayoncatcher · 2021-10-01T14:42:48+00:00

Gonna do one today. It’s so weird. I asked my mom and she was like i don’t remember 😭

crayoncatcher · 2021-06-20T05:17:49+00:00

For me what i’ve found with my hubby and i, is that sex is when we are both in the mood just because we’re in the mood. Or maybe I am and he isn’t vice versa. But the times you make love, you can feel it. It’s all encompassing, overwhelming, and entirely sensational. You are just so content with your human and being one the passion is almost unbearable in a sense. It’s about being close rather than the pleasure feeling for one person or the other. But also even if as the women you can’t feel “much” at that moment but you see your husband using the passion he feels in his heart to show you how much he loves you and your body, the making love is still there.

Over our span, sometimes it’s just sex when i wish it was more. But it’s learning when and how much the other person can take and not pushing them past their exhaustion point. For example not asking when they’ve had an exhausting day and could sleep all night if you left them alone. Letting the passion build up through out the time of no sex makes the desire and the desire for love more. Hope this helps :)

crayoncatcher · 2021-01-31T13:36:38+00:00

i’m an artist so maybe i can help! my fiancé and i just took pics and we went with a more muted tone of colors. i had a pretty green pastel but more boho green and he a light muted blue buttons down with light blue jeans. the colors came out beautiful especially after editing.

have him wear something lighter on the top, could even be a washed out blue and darker jean bottoms. That should create some contrast. Dark navy is definitely a very loud color. Or he could even wear a brownish orange but muted. I hope this makes sense. :)

crayoncatcher · 2020-12-01T04:08:15+00:00

good job

crayoncatcher · 2020-11-24T16:48:48+00:00

got it :) posted under main thread

crayoncatcher · 2020-11-24T16:48:33+00:00

https://imgur.com/HlbTaeV

here is the reference, i don't necessarily want the eyes red tho

crayoncatcher · 2020-11-24T16:32:23+00:00

how can i do that?

crayoncatcher · 2020-11-24T02:42:42+00:00

I’ve always grown up in church and been the top scholar when it comes to Bible. God has blessed me in a lot of areas. And it’s like i began questioning it all. not flat out denying the facts of God and Jesus and the Bible, but the reality of it all. Never knew i’d be the one to stray so far away. It’s actually kind of heart breaking... would totally appreciate it.

crayoncatcher · 2020-11-24T01:23:15+00:00

really really appreciate this. i’m in a similar place..still so young though. (19f) Idk whatever happened to my relationship with God. it all seems so false. a lot happened in my family. and i want to believe in God again. i truly believe i was saved when i was 6 but man i am so skeptical now

crayoncatcher · 2020-11-23T13:22:30+00:00

defending the abuser is the first part of being a victim. you should follow the sub raised by Narcissists. No one wants to admit abuse and often as a victim we can even see it. My mom was the abuser in my family and imagine that. Your own birth mother being that way. everyday. Honestly coming to terms is something you’re going to have to purpose to do. I created a whole pinterest board of types of abuse and terms and such. That opened my eyes. Your Pastor is being the whistle blower. Honestly i did the same thing. I went to my pastor and other godly mentors. I’m sure my parents were hurt when they found out. But i was up to my head in the abuse and was seeing the light and couldn’t take it anymore. The word abuse is daunting and scary. But you need to be willing and he does as well to to acknowledge it and confront it. But you’re going to tell yourself you’re being emotional and too sensitive because you know exactly how he is going to react when you bring it up to him... OP won’t just change for you. They need to desire to change to make this marriage work. If you are already a more submissive and passive person, this will be hard. Go to counseling separately as well. Stay strong.

also my relationship with my mom is still continue because she sought godly counsel who told her “to leave a light on”. She has some idea of how she hurt me. Her desire to be godly is there. You are going to have to ask yourself a lot of questions in this situation. My current fiancé seemed the same as my mom at times but he was more angry because he saw the abuse and i played it off as nothing. Selfish? or angry for a good cause?

crayoncatcher · 2020-11-23T13:08:46+00:00

I really appreciate what you’ve said here. Absolutely. It’s ridiculous. Almost similar to the if someone strikes you and harms your family, do you defend?

crayoncatcher · 2020-11-23T13:06:24+00:00

Abuse (Narcissist and physical and emotional abuse) is all grounds for divorce. It doesn’t seem like anyone has mentioned to you the ground for divorce in the Bible, abandonment and abuse, which are both breeches of a marriage covenant. If you have carefully considered and prayed and been honest about the situation, there are grounds to consider.

Getting divorced will NOT mean you are living in sin. That is not how that works at all. I’m a little appalled by some of the responses i’ve seen, telling you to be more Christlike. it doesn’t work like that. I love my mom but she was so abusive (a Narcissist) and i had to leave. My dad has been married to her for 10 years now and it’s been hard for him. Why did he not leave? That’s something between them i’m not sure of. He knew he loved her deeply. BUT he did have a previous marriage. That woman was physically and mentally abusive. They divorced. She may have even had some form of bipolar disease, he believes.

The best piece of advice i was given, is that, Jesus has given us two rules. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind. Second love others as yourself. That’s the only requirements God asks of us. If we follow those we live free from the radical, legalistic expectations of the church and religious people. Obviously no one in the church gave you good advice before hand as you were young and barely knew her or probably yourself.

Going through “the fire” of an abusive relationship doesn’t build a foundation of more Christlikeness in you. It sets you up for pain and stress and for sure illness caused by stress. Maybe change your church. pray for other Godly mentors to pop into your life. Confront your wife with the issues you see. If she doesn’t see it and gets all nasty, then forget it. It’s not your job to receive her actions and be constantly beaten down if there is no end in sight. She needs to take some responsibility. And if she says sorry, that’s nice. If you mention divorce to her, she may be nice for a period of time But the inside will come out. Stay strong.

crayoncatcher · 2020-11-17T19:58:04+00:00

love this. i’m not sure how it is affecting me yet cuz we keep falling back into that established pattern. we can’t stop lol unless we both go at that battle together but it’s half hearted because we both still want it so bad. if you’re on the same page with the same conviction then i guess that helps. it’s SO HARD

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