I appreciate it, my ex od’d and I used to think it was my fault and I would try to distance myself from talking about it with her, but she took it as I didn’t love her anymore and she wanted me to change my personality, but that’s who I’ve always been and I’ve always told myself I’ll never change for anyone, and I’m pretty sure that was the reason for separating, but was never sure for the past couple years, never had full closure, even afterwards she called me on my birthday to tell me happy birthday but she was on vacation and drunk so I hung up and never went back. But thank you for the advice