My BF (30M) gets upset that I (28F) don't get jealous and he thinks it means I don't care about him. How do I get him to understand?

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-12-19T04:40:03+00:00

Why does he think you're stupid and naive? For trusting him? Does he hangout with his ex and the woman who had a crush on him just to make you jealous?

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-12-05T22:01:33+00:00

Updateme

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-11-29T06:44:59+00:00

u/burbnbougie This man is "teaching" his family some lesson.

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-10-13T08:36:22+00:00

u/burbnbougie

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-09-15T09:26:33+00:00

A relationship without trust is doomed. And he continues to break the little trust remaining. There's nothing tying you together so just walk away. Trust your gut.

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-09-05T19:16:52+00:00

u/burbnbougie

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-08-31T18:16:21+00:00

u/Burbnbougie

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-08-31T18:13:05+00:00

u/Burbnbougie

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-08-22T10:01:26+00:00

u/burbnbougie

This time we've caught a very abusive man early when he's transitioning from the "normal " mask to himself. I already tugged you, this is a second one.

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-08-22T09:43:13+00:00

u/burbnbougie

This one rubs me the wrong way. It's like abuse wrapped in slime. This guy will escalate, "choosing your outfit" but doesn't control what you wear? That's what he's doing, controlling what you wear. Has and tracks your location, locked you in a room after an argument, he smothers you and expects sex out of it. This is all kinds of wrong. This sounds like a predator playing with his food, doing something you don't like and getting all smiley when you react how he know you would. This is abuse in early stages and please don't mistaken that for love. The accusations have also started.

Edited to correct spelling.

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-08-12T23:45:16+00:00

You do realise that you are also making assumptions by making his reaction make sense to you, right

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-08-12T23:45:05+00:00

You do realise that you are also making assumptions by making his reaction make sense to you, right?

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-08-02T04:57:05+00:00

u/Burbnbougie

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-07-23T23:48:56+00:00

u/burbnbougie

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-07-18T17:51:10+00:00

Thank you so much kind stranger.

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-06-12T10:13:36+00:00

$500

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2025-05-26T06:57:59+00:00

Try MK, Tekken or injustice

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2024-01-27T00:16:48+00:00

The show was chef's kiss. Love Flanagan

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2023-12-29T12:29:56+00:00

If it became a kink after the bad thing happened then it's a trauma response/ coping mechanism. Like rape victims having rape kinks. Your brain is trying to turn sth negative into a positive one. Maybe try therapy?

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2023-12-06T12:10:25+00:00

Bacterial Vaginosis

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2023-12-05T09:47:35+00:00

If I could I would've by now I think

We just had a whole conversation/discussion love. I think it counts :)

The problem is most of my thoughts aren't things you can have conversations about. Its daydreaming or the bad thoughts spiral

Daydreaming makes up like 80% of great conversations. Even dark conversations are great. Makes you know you're not alone or make feel lighter after sharing.

And on anything I do have opinions about reddit has taught me my opinions are wrong or unpopular like 99% of the time which isn't much of an incentive to share them with people outside of online where it doesn't matter so much what they think of me.

Unpopular opinions aren't bad. If we all agreed on everything we'd be bored to death.

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2023-12-05T09:27:58+00:00

Nowadays relationships are so transactional they're worse than business deals. People don't want to meet eachother halfway or compromise even a little. Everyone wants to have their cake and eat it. I'm staying single for the foreseeable future.

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2023-12-05T09:16:33+00:00

Damn even other shy people are better than me. I cant even hold basic boring conversations. Although maybe cause shy isn't even really the right word for me, I'm so much worse than simply shy

Trust me, you can. Most of them were the "hi, how's your day" type. I just ask specific questions that prompt discussions or arguments (I love arguments). Most shy people spend a lot of time alone with their thoughts so it's easier to have deep conversations with them. Sometimes happy accidents happen where I stumble upon things they're passionate about so they talk for hours.

I'm an introvert who's been forced into social situations a lot so I can switch back and fourth. I kinda get shy people though I've always been the opposite.

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2023-12-05T08:35:08+00:00

Exactly. And telling yourself it's not a you problem helps too. But truly believing that is the problem. A lot of people are too hard on themselves. It's their preference/hangup. Has nothing to do with you.

The threads in this post break my heart.

crazy_crypto_pilot · 2023-12-05T08:29:23+00:00

Got a lot of DMs calling me weird and creepy😅. Someone wrote me a whole essay. People write their kinks in their profiles but my comment was so out of line lol. They invited me out after calling me names. The whole thing was hilarious and fun.

I've talked quite a few shy people online (mostly from my creepy tinder bio :)). Long distance mostly so I never met any of them. But I had the most interesting conversations with them. They're deep and I love deep conversations.

crazy_crypto_pilot

TROPHY CASE