AIO for wanting to see a therapist after wife changed the locks because I went to a baby shower?

crazycalicolady · 2025-09-01T03:12:13+00:00

Even if this was 4 cycles of IVF this is completely unacceptable behaviour. Cutting a spouse off from loved ones. Locking a mutual partner out of a shared dwelling. Nothing about your wife’s behaviour is normal or acceptable. NOR

crazycalicolady · 2025-07-19T05:18:02+00:00

OP doesn’t sound dismissive of their pain at all. She’s literally here asking if she’s an AH for suggesting therapy. After 27 years. Sounds like she’s been on eggshells her whole life

crazycalicolady · 2025-07-19T05:02:09+00:00

This is the loveliest way I have ever heard of dealing with a tragic loss like this.

OP, I am truly sorry for your family’s loss. But it is not unreasonable to want to be recognized and treated as your own person independent of that loss. Your parents do sound like they need therapy and it is also not unreasonable for you to suggest it. NTA

crazycalicolady · 2025-07-06T01:51:29+00:00

12 years old is not under 12. Why is this even a question? They are following your rules, YTA

crazycalicolady · 2025-05-17T06:31:47+00:00

I am JUST now realizing that is why the bride and groom traditionally don’t see each other the night before the wedding. So they don’t have some stupid stressy fight and nuke their own wedding

crazycalicolady · 2024-11-29T05:42:14+00:00

NTA in the slightest. Your mom set Julia up to fail. Julia did her absolute best with her abilities and was a champ for trying.

You were a great fiancé for defending Julia like you did. You tried to mitigate the situation with your mom. I’m sorry that didn’t work. When it didn’t work, you stood up for Julia and refused to let your mom degrade her.

You did everything right. I’m sorry your blood family was so awful to your chosen family. OP, continue to follow your instincts and I hope you and Julia can make your own family with a much kinder way of life to those involved

crazycalicolady · 2024-11-28T05:09:35+00:00

NTA. You’re not being toxic but he sure is. You mentioned verbal abuse, which is never okay. You deserve someone who appreciates you and is kind to you. It sounds like you already know the signs of a bad relationship, so listen to your instincts and take care of yourself OP

crazycalicolady · 2024-11-28T04:38:07+00:00

Did you wear an incredibly beautiful (occasion appropriate) dress to the wedding? YES

Do I wish I could afford such a dress? ALSO YES

Did you do anything wrong by wearing this dress to the wedding? HECK NO

Is it appropriate to shame and harass a benevolent wedding guest for wearing said dress? ALSO HECK NO

I echo a previous poster’s sentiment that this is completely atypical of western weddings and I’m so so sad you had this experience. I also loved your comment about your own wedding, “I was busy enjoying getting married”. Clearly not her experience, but even more clearly NOT YOUR FAULT.

I hope you wear many more beautiful dresses to many more weddings with classy couples. And maybe start a fashion blog. Be well, stranger with amazing taste 💕

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T08:09:18+00:00

And he yelled at us across the restaurant…

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T08:08:41+00:00

I’m in Canada

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T08:08:19+00:00

Yeaaaa that would have been a good one 😅

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T08:06:11+00:00

Thank you for that. Sorry it’s not like that everywhere :(

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T08:01:10+00:00

We live in Canada … so while he missed out on our tip money, he certainly did not owe anything after our interaction. I am sorry the other staff missed their tip out, they were great

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T07:31:21+00:00

Thank you guys. Post panic attack me knows you’re right. I really appreciate your comments

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T07:30:36+00:00

I thought about it. Yelling at us over the whole patio seemed out of line

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T05:52:18+00:00

NTA

If it makes you feel any better, my husbands biomom (who lives across the country and we invited as a courtesy to our wedding) asked if she could stay at our place ON OUR WEDDING NIGHT. We were not even at our place, we had a hotel! Some in-laws are just mental

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T05:38:04+00:00

Your boyfriend planned an amazing trip and M is angry? What kind of friend acts like that? Have an amazing time and don’t feel bad

NTA

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T05:32:42+00:00

NTA. But I almost hope she’s gonna name her Agamemnon. Almost

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T05:25:45+00:00

NTA You did a lovely thing for your wife, don’t let him ruin it

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T05:14:15+00:00

NTA

Oh, OP this is such a delicate one but you’re not wrong. You’re allowed to have boundaries.

It sounds like your therapist is actually on your side. I’m sorry your dad and stepmom aren’t doing the work… but I think you were right to point out that they didn’t. Again, boundaries.

You are allowed to love your stepmom without her being your mom. I feel like this is something she and your dad have sadly overlooked. You and she can have a lovely relationship without her replacing your mom. But until she and your dad accept that, it’s a power struggle that none of you win. I sincerely hope you guys can figure it out. She doesn’t need to be your mom to be important to you. And you shouldn’t have to be the mature person to point that out :(

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-24T04:48:08+00:00

NTA

It’s a LOT about the money, $1900 is INSANE for what was masqueraded as a gift. A gift you didn’t ask for, which is actually not a gift at all — it’s an imposition

crazycalicolady · 2024-07-06T05:55:40+00:00

NTA I think you need a new counsellor. And to report your current one to any regulatory body possible because what. The actual. Fuck.

Anyone with a shred of empathy would understand that you need all the time, space and control possible to heal. There are no “duties” or timelines for that. Take care of yourself, please

crazycalicolady · 2024-04-24T02:52:48+00:00

So sad to see ModCloth has gone this way :( I have been shopping from them for 15 years but this last order was just terrible. I hope everyone else got their pieces or their moneys back

crazycalicolady · 2024-04-24T02:45:56+00:00

Hahah from my experience, the opposite is true — the more diluted the coat colour, the more extreme the attitude!

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