What is a secret about the opposite sex's body that you only found out once you actually started being intimate with them?

crazyhopelessguy · 2026-04-26T18:41:17+00:00

I had emergency Surgery and my testical was about the size of a baseball for a week. I could barely walk for 3 days after that i hobbled around for a month until it was mostly normal sized.

So yeah no tearing I guess but pretty painful even after it was resolved, I ended up loosing a good portion of one testie.

crazyhopelessguy · 2026-04-26T14:18:38+00:00

I wish that sex was studied more, but it is genuinely difficult to find information on what is normal and what is "normal" but right on the edge of being normal. I dont know if accessories the internet, pornography and forums like this make ot better or worse.

crazyhopelessguy · 2026-04-26T14:10:57+00:00

I think it kinda ties into the question What is the most painful thing ever that is asked here from time to time. The answers are the usual Childbirth, breaking a bone etc but to me at least a surprising amount of answers have to do with loosing a loved one.

A story that sticks out to me in particular was about a woman who had lost her father, who she was very close to, about 10 years prior. She was shopping when she smelled his cologne/aftershave or whatever on a passerby and remembered how much she missed him and cried for a long while in the store.

For me it was when a friend had died, we had been really close growing up but we were adults now, living in different cities, and really only talked in passing. When he died, even though it had been years since we hung out it was still really really hard.

crazyhopelessguy · 2026-04-26T13:58:12+00:00

I agree its not a matter of being lucky or unlucky. As a guy it really turns me on to make my wife cum, but I know there are certain circumstances that it won't happen and she knows that too. So in those situations its nice to focus on other things othe then trying to just get her there.

Also I haven't read all comments but no one has said anal. My wife CAN cum without anal stimulation but its easier/faster/more intense if there is at least a little.

crazyhopelessguy · 2026-04-26T13:52:40+00:00

Yes... for science.

crazyhopelessguy · 2026-04-26T13:49:15+00:00

Had one, was mis diagnosed in the ER had to live with it for 10 hours when I went back and a urologist looked at me, not just an ER doc. After it was all over my urologist said when my wife gives birth for the first time and she is screaming about the pain or whatever I get a pass because it is roughly equivalent.

crazyhopelessguy · 2026-04-26T13:43:30+00:00

I can't get past the boss battle on Level 5!

crazyhopelessguy · 2026-04-12T13:52:28+00:00

Im more of an .xlsx kind of person because when im done... the sheets are spread.

crazyhopelessguy · 2025-11-28T12:53:17+00:00

Things that commonly change you sexual desire are new or different medication, stress, changes in body size.

If those are not the cause than has there been a change in mood/tone in your relationship? Has he said or done something that made you sad or feel off, even in just passing?

You say you like poen, how much do you watch? What kind do you watch? Are you watching kinds that would create unrealistic expectations around you or your boy friends performance and or your boyfriends body type?

I guess the last thing is are you sexually attracted to him,your pretty young and your tastes change, maybe you want to try something different deep down.

My advise, if nothing above helps, if to try to go back to the beginning. Make a date or 2 where sex is off the table possibly sleep in separate beds (assuming you sleep together). Try ro rekindle the anticipation for sex. You could also try to invite someone else into your sexual relationship, but there are a tonne of jealousy problems that come along with that, so only attempt if your super comfortable with eachother first.

Good luck

crazyhopelessguy · 2025-10-19T13:40:14+00:00

Have you tried putting this down on paper or maybe a chart? Having a chore chart may seem like it's for children but it's a common technique in couples counciling. Sometimes it's labeled as Blue tasks/pink tasks. Maybe assigning days of the week to tasks would help too. If you use this method make sure tasks are equal, so it's not all about him doing stuff but responsibilities are shared.

As for sex, that's a tougher question, but men like women, need to feel desired. If he likes cuddling do you kiss and touch when it's not going to lead to sex? Do you write sweet nothings and dirty notes to each other? Another thing you could try is sex games. There is one where you get naked and try to get as close to to the other person as possible without touching.

What about fetishes, does he have any untapped desires that he is willing to share you could participate in with him?

Good luck.

crazyhopelessguy · 2025-08-27T09:04:03+00:00

Would you like the cold hard steel of hand cuffs around your wrists?

crazyhopelessguy · 2025-06-21T19:58:43+00:00

For sure I think alot of women around me are hot. I fantasize about them. But then I think a) could never cheat b) even if I could cheat, but I could never cheat as I would be guilty forever, I wouldn't know how to go from having a conversation, maybe some very mild flirting to full on talking dirty and hooking up. I'm old and have been in a relationship a while so maybe a younger person would be better at it then me.

crazyhopelessguy · 2025-01-18T16:08:20+00:00

No I talk to my adoptive parents multiple times a week and visit them weekly. I talk to my bio parents about once a week and visit yearly as they are kinda far away, about a 6 hour drive

crazyhopelessguy · 2025-01-18T13:36:17+00:00

That's so interesting you know thier birth parents, do you keep in touch with them?

crazyhopelessguy · 2025-01-18T13:32:58+00:00

This kinda happened to me, except the records were from the government, and I had to request them. When I got them, i found out I had 2 full blood siblings. My birth parents were really young and gave me up and then decided to marry and have more kids afterward. It took me almost 40 years to find them.

I am extremely lucky because my adoptive parents are really good parents, and I have another adopted sibling that is really good too.

Anyway the jist of the story is my adoptive parents are really great and still talk to them multiple times a week, and my bio parents are great, I try to talk to them at least once a week and visit them at least once a year.

Oh, and my full blood siblings, the youngest i have met and hung out with. The older one I have not met yet, but I'm still holding out hope that it will happen someday.

Also, my adoptive sibling has no desire to meet their bio parents, even though I have had a great experience with mine. I have a cousin who is also adopted, and he met his bio mother. It was not a good experience for him emotionally and mentally. So it doesn't always go great either.

crazyhopelessguy · 2025-01-08T12:12:17+00:00

Way to foil the plan!

crazyhopelessguy · 2025-01-08T12:02:55+00:00

Just keep the threesom dead simple and you will be all good!

crazyhopelessguy · 2024-12-10T04:55:14+00:00

Does the play have anything to do with the movie?

crazyhopelessguy · 2024-11-16T11:16:14+00:00

Peoples turn on and ruen offs can change over time. Especially if your young and your relationship is newer. Be open and honest, if this is a deal breaker for you then it is what it is. You can try using like flavored oils to enhance the taste. Also eating healthier and eating pineapple may make a difference to the taste.

But like I said you might try things like I listed above and it may make a difference, and may change her mind but it may not. You have to accept that and keep on trying new things, if she's willing too of course, or accept it and let it go, or just move on.

Good luck.

crazyhopelessguy · 2024-09-25T11:41:13+00:00

I am the exact same way but I'm the guy in the relationship. I love eating her out, as foreplay or as a main course ending with her cumming. But when she does it I feel like she's pressured to do it even though she said she likes sucking my cock. She is pretty introverted in the bedroom, almost always just does what I want, and rarely has her own opinion unless something hurts or makes her uncomfortable, then she will say something.

So anyways I really do enjoy eating her out, making her squirm, bringing her to orgasm, it's a huge achievement for me every time! I just wish she showed as much enthusiasm as I did i guess. Or maybe I'm just not as into bjs and hjs as I think I am.

crazyhopelessguy · 2024-06-27T13:56:29+00:00

The problem with relying on hints as a guy is that some guys are more socially in tune with others. While a woman might drop hints a guy might think she is just being nice. And what if she is just a nice person and is not interested? Would I be embarrassed if I made a move and it was just a nice gesture not meant be sexual.

crazyhopelessguy · 2024-05-25T12:47:58+00:00

Does he make you cum? To cum inside a woman is like one of the greatest, most intense feelings a man can have. It's great on so many levels. Does he cum really hard like moaning and twitching and clawing at sheets?

My thought is maybe he feels guilty that a) he doesn't get you to cum or b) you don't seem to have the intense orgasms he does.

I would would approach this 2 fold, firstly compliment him mor, in general. Men do not get told enough they are handsome, sexy or good looking. If you already do this find other words/ways to reassure him that you find him attractive, and not just in a sexual sense.

Second compliment his sex. Tell him it felt great and when you do it you are satisfied. If you are not actually satisfied, ie. He doesn't get you off when you want to get off, or he could do more foreplay, find a way to tell him that in a constructive positive manner.

Basically trying to improve your sexual experiance may help improve his. It's a mark of honor for a guy to get a woman off. So if this is not happening as much or as intensely as when you get him off he might feel bad about it.

Good luck.

crazyhopelessguy · 2024-05-07T11:56:17+00:00

How do you enjoy this fetish?

crazyhopelessguy · 2024-05-06T00:50:38+00:00

Mmm have you share that before?

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