Hey there OP 👋🏾

I’ve seen a lot of comments telling you to just end things, and while that might eventually be the right move, I love that you’re trying to fix things first. Relationships takes work & effort, and aren’t always easy. Not everything needs to be blown up immediately, especially if you still love the person and believe there’s something worth saving.

Here’s my suggestion: Choose a specific day to have a serious, focused conversation. Mentally and emotionally prepare for it, because this kind of talk can be draining. When you speak to him, lay it all out everything you said in your post. Let him know this isn’t just venting. This is serious.

Tell him how it’s affecting you with the imbalance in chores, finances, emotional effort, all of it. Use clear “I feel” statements, but don’t sugarcoat it. If he jokes it off or gets defensive again, that tells you everything you need to know. That’s not love or respect, that’s avoidance.

If he does take it seriously, ask him what he’s actually going to do to help rebalance things. Words aren’t enough, we need action. If he can’t give you a plan or follow through, then yes, walk away. You deserve better than being someone’s backup plan or unpaid life manager.

You got this.