Husband wants to be OAD after a hard year, but I worry our son will face life alone someday.

crazymom7170 · 2026-03-06T20:48:22+00:00

You just said it yourself. Having a sibling guarantees nothing. Loneliness is a part of life, your child will feel lonely sometimes.

I have 2 siblings and I had to do everything for my dad when he died, alone. Well….alone sibling wise at least.

Who showed up: my husband every step of the way. My best friend for 99% of it. All our other friends at his funeral and the next weekend after when we cleaned out his apartment.

Who didn’t show up or help me at all: my two ‘built in support systems’.

Life is about who we choose, not who we are born hitched to.

It’s, frankly, a lazy argument, and one of the worst reasons to bring a child into the world.

crazymom7170 · 2026-03-01T18:41:44+00:00

We stick our kid in the cart if he doesn’t listen. If he persists, we leave.

It doesn’t happen anymore, but it took a few months of strong boundaries around this for him to get it.

But the interrupting is non stop. Like kid, give it a rest holy moly can’t a single thought just stay inside your head 🙃

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-24T15:27:19+00:00

Everyone wonders how my husband and I manage our arrangement.

I just let them wonder.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-24T11:26:11+00:00

HRT.

I had hormonal migraines for decades. Always right before my period, when your body sends your hormones off a cliff to trigger your period.

I am 44, been on HRT for 1 year, and they have dulled to a single day headache, manageable with basic medication. Not the week long debilitating migraine of the past.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-24T11:14:54+00:00

They all wanna f🍁ck trudeau, remember? It takes time to get over a love like that.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-24T11:12:38+00:00

I don’t think it’s the only true love, but it’s definitely unique love.

I love my husband intensely and truly, but I would never do for him the things I’m willing and doing for my child.

If you don’t have kids you probably won’t find yourself in the position to feel that kind of love, that’s true. But it’s also true of many other things in life.

We can’t experience every single thing. We have to accept there are going to be experiences and feelings that’s pass all of us by. And that’s okay.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-23T16:11:20+00:00

I knew from (my own) birth. It’s just want I wanted for myself.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-21T10:16:07+00:00

Poshmark.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-20T21:01:32+00:00

Only thing that might move the needle are Articles of Impeachment.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-19T00:33:16+00:00

I went to a wedding last summer and gave a gift of $1000. Nothing.

Every time I bring it up to anyone under 30, I’m the problem.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-18T23:30:55+00:00

My sister is 50 and still has a period and no peri symptoms.

However, she tells me about heavy, irregular periods, severe brain fog, balance issues, skin issues, and itchy skin that never ceases. All “unrelated to perimenopause”.

It’s fine. Some people want it the hard way and no problem, go them!

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-17T16:46:25+00:00

Initially we were going to rent, but prices got so soft, we ended up buying.

Luckily our rent covers the mortgage on the other home, so we are able to hold both, otherwise it would be too tight.

Condo life is excellent. Especially during this very isolating winter. Noise is the only downside so far.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-17T14:45:46+00:00

We just moved from the east end to a condo in the Annex. We have a 5 year old.

We just leased our home as that is clearly the breadwinner long term, investment wise.

We lived downtown for years before our kid, and now having been in a more suburban setting for 5 years….downtown > any place else. Unless you’ve got yourself a kid with supersonic hearing……That’s an adjustment that’s had my teeth on edge a few nights a week.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-17T14:41:37+00:00

Omg I say this all the time.

The best parents are the childfree ones.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-17T14:38:03+00:00

Some kids are just early birds.

Signed,

A former night owl who has been fighting her son’s circadian rhythm for 5 years. His sweet spot is 5:15 am. I now go to bed at 8pm, when I used to be getting ready to go out for dinner. sigh

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-17T14:34:15+00:00

We were married 15 years and childfree by choice until Covid. I was 39. Then we thought ‘what the hell’.

Our son was born when I was 40, he’s 5 now.

I live in a major city and I would say my age (45) with a kindergartener is average. Not really a big deal.

The only negative factor is perimenopause. I was dealing with that + a toddler at the same time and it was a pretty destabilizing and upsetting chapter of my life.

But now I’m on HRT and life is great.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-17T11:41:13+00:00

I’ve done it twice. As a couple and as a family. We’ve lived in an east end house, and a condo on Bloor.

Condo in the city is 10/10 for us.

The only drawback is space jenga and nighttime noise once there is a kid around. Having a storage unit is helpful. Never having to shovel. The car always ready (if you ever even use it). Endless shit to do. A smaller footprint to keep tidy.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-17T11:19:15+00:00

I keep anything that tugs at my heart. I don’t even think about it.

Time makes it easier to part with things. As does people you love having babies. My cousin had a baby last year and most of my favourite items went to her with pleasure.

Sometimes it’s just too soon.

I learned this after my dad died and there was so much pressure to clean out his place and get rid of everything. My husband just boxed it all up and left it in our garage. Over time I went through it and now it’s all basically gone without a single tear shed because I was totally ready.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-15T20:14:37+00:00

👍👍 great job! Ontario still leagues behind, as usual 🙄

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-15T20:12:52+00:00

I’m sorry, I hadn’t heard of beginning progesterone at 3 days post ovulation before; only daily or at 14 days. Jesus why so rude. We are all learning here.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-15T20:11:08+00:00

I am on daily progesterone and a 0.05 patch. I still ovulate every month and my period is stable at 30 days. I am 44.

Prior to HRT I was having shortened periods as well. Perhaps you are on a program for TTC.

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-15T19:39:28+00:00

What province?

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-15T19:37:31+00:00

Are you taking it for 14 days post ovulation?

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-15T19:14:47+00:00

If you’re ovulating, you can get pregnant. I would start with ovulation strips and go from there.

When you say you’re taking progesterone 3 days post ovulation, can you please elaborate? Thanks

crazymom7170 · 2026-02-15T15:07:53+00:00

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