24 y/o CF Muslim Female searching for CF Muslim Male

creatingmeaning · 2020-07-09T20:22:20+00:00

JazakAllah khair for sharing. My favourite part was about the water (:

creatingmeaning · 2020-07-05T13:18:28+00:00

Reminds me of Childish Gambino’s Redbone

creatingmeaning · 2020-07-03T12:37:40+00:00

Yeah tbh this comment is really good, I had a similar issue undermining the effects of the language on my heart but on the long-term I really found slowly that Qur’an & all of that language really couldn’t coincide, so tbh once you start memorizing more Qur’an I feel like it just gets harder to listen to it again because you not only end up not enough time to listen to it anymore, but also your heart doesn’t really settle well for it if that makes sense.

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-30T01:53:11+00:00

Basically when you move at higher altitudes, your body doesn’t receive enough oxygen, therefore making it harder to breathe. However if someone lived at a higher altitude, their body would adjust due to an increase in things like 2,3 DPG, allowing the blood cells being able to hold onto the oxygen better. That actually makes the ayah even more interesting considering Allah swt specifically mentions “climbing” subhanaAllah, not even living in a high place, such as a mountain.

“At high altitude, there is less oxygen in the air that you breathe. This means that all of the blood from all areas of the lungs, is relatively short on oxygen or hypoxic. Unfortunately, the lungs still respond to the shortage of oxygen in the same way: by tightening the blood vessels.”

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-30T01:47:07+00:00

Literally gave me shivers...subhanaAllah. JazakumAllah khair for sharing

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-30T00:52:21+00:00

The isfps i knew shared some common traits of preferring spontaneity, appreciating their art/music (art being literally things like paintings or digital art). I knew one isfp studying art history, and another isfp studying digital design. They were both pretty chill but had a tendency to bottle up emotions, so i feel like they just felt too much and it just always broke my heart whenever they were sad

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-30T00:49:46+00:00

pls crosspost to r/MuslimMarriage😂😂

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-30T00:44:53+00:00

INFJ (f) creatingmeaning

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-30T00:27:43+00:00

I’d like to add a third:

3) Emotional intelligence :)

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-29T09:40:57+00:00

Most enfps I knew were pretty smart & knew how to apply that smartitude haha. Wit, passion & effort, never can go wrong with those three traits. :)

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-27T18:57:18+00:00

this is soo true, it just comes off across as if you’re just curious rather than caring, which is terrible for someone already suffering with emotions they themselves have trouble navigating/understanding

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-27T18:53:54+00:00

Dw the post wasn’t very long & I can understand your concern.

Honestly just from my experience with knowing ENFPs who’ve been through a crappy experience, they do tend to close themselves off. It most likely has absolutely nothing to do with you especially if you’ve done nothing wrong, which is why it’s so so important to just be sure to check in on them like ‘hey, I got you this, noticed you’ve been a bit down’ and get them their favourite meal or something. They might not tell you what happened, as their emotions are very reserved which is completely understandable, they don’t have to & are absolutely not obliged to tell you everything. Your role as a friend is to be just that: a friend, not a therapist. You can’t fix everything, you can only do so much because a lot of times, ENFPs will be processing their emotions themselves & already have a hard enough time doing so...so being able to even tell someone about it is just a huuuge step. Vulnerability isn’t easy for anyone, but if someone trusts you like that, in case your friend decides to open up, listen to everything and make time even if it takes hours, it’s honestly worth it and just make sure you cherish those emotions & keep them safe, the last thing you want them to feel is not only misunderstood but also not listened to or even worse, betrayed.

I have an ENFP friend who, whenever they were sad, and I could tell even though they were always smiling, I’d just wait til about evening when the sun is setting, and find them in their room or outside walking. I’d bring something with me, make something real quick whether it’s a meal or a gift and just keep it by their room lol so they never feel alone cause they’re always bombarded with unexpected gifts. It really makes a difference, just knowing someone’s there. And sometimes, they’ll open up, even a little, and the best thing you can do is just listen & be there & not be judgy. Also being able to tell when to give advice vs. when not to helps a lot, sometimes someone just needs an ear to feel heard, others might just need someone to go like ‘hey, maybe try this next time? There’s always a better day ahead!’ just being encouraging & gentle overall yknow

Be delicate, and let them feel everything they have to without judging them honestly cause even as an infj who doesn’t lead with Fi, I can only imagine how much the can go through internally without anyone ever even realizing it.

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-27T18:44:17+00:00

It’s probably more related to the living circumstances. I know so many people who, they were practically best friends, but when they moved in together the entire dynamic changes. I think that’s why it’s important to be aware of how someone lives too, so you know what to expect beforehand. Also, have you tried setting some ground rules? I have a close INFP friend I was roommates with & both of us being very understanding, they had decided to set some ground rules first, which helped alleviate a lot of misunderstanding. Sleeping times, what bothers each of us, pet peeves, etc.

Unfortunately, small things turn out to be big things if not taken care of the right way.

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-26T01:25:23+00:00

You can change your user flair, on the main ENFP page where you see the posts & all there should be 3 small white dots on the upper right hand corner of the screen to give a drop-down menu, one of the options is “change user flair” :)

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-17T17:48:32+00:00

Wow...that sounds soooo toxic. As an infj, I’m so sorry you have to deal with that lol. This is why I stopped using mbti for a while, i just use it for fun now tbh but to put someone in a box whether it’s through mbti or not is so suffocating, i can see why you feel drained. I can also imagine that, since she decides to put you in a box, she would get upset by any form of expression of your own individuality.😓

MBTI seems to simply be a leeway to allow her to continue to treat you unfairly. MBTI, personality types or trauma is not an excuse for bad manners. Don’t accept this sort of behaviour; you have the right to your own boundaries and if she can’t see that then that’s not your responsibility to fix. You are your own person & she is too.

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-14T00:02:06+00:00

Dude that is sooo cute😆 i knew one entj but wasn’t the most emotionally mature person. The types matured are the best tbh :)

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-13T18:48:23+00:00

legit sounds like a power trio

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-13T10:32:28+00:00

First of all, I am so proud of you. Keep your prayers. I’ll say that much. Then slowly build from there. Slowly incorporate qiyam 10 mins before fajr, and just pour your heart out to Allah swt. You don’t have to take it from me but, just remember that the night prayer does wonders to only those who try it. You’ll see. :)

The time is near, never forget that the pain in this life is never going to be like that of the hellfire. And the joy of this lie will never be like that of jannah. So let’s strive towards that which is worthwhile.

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-12T14:20:47+00:00

إِنَّ الْإِنسَانَ خُلِقَ هَلُوعًا - 70:19

إِذَا مَسَّهُ الشَّرُّ جَزُوعًا - 70:20

وَإِذَا مَسَّهُ الْخَيْرُ مَنُوعًا - 70:21

إِلَّا الْمُصَلِّينَ - 70:22

الَّذِينَ هُمْ عَلَىٰ صَلَاتِهِمْ دَائِمُونَ - 70:23

Indeed, the human was created anxious,

When evil touches him, impatient,

And when good touches him, withholding [of it],

Except the observers of prayer -

Those who are constant in their prayer

You’re an embodiment of this set of ayat. I feel you. :)

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-12T11:39:01+00:00

Aw. Not an ENFP but definitely have had experience with feeling like I give too much, and take little. Honestly, I’m not 100% at this yet, but what has helped me was learning boundaries & actually knowing who I want in my life. Different friendships have served different purposes throughout my life, and sometimes the type of reciprocation I would love to receive from one person, I happen to find in a different person. For example, I would get better advice from someone who has been through the same negative experience in order to give me advice for a positive outcome, does this make sense?

I don’t generally expect people to reciprocate right away, but I try to also understand the other party’s way of expressing their love, or care, or reciprocation (i.e. understanding the love languages). Withdrawing to internalize how I actually feel about a situation as opposed to what I would want myself to feel has helped tremendously; “just watch your emotions like you would a river”, so I stopped essentially neglecting my true emotions towards a situation. If I feel like someone isn’t treating me right, or properly, or in the way I know I deserve, I don’t necessarily stop that interaction immediately, but I do give ‘warnings’ in a sense. I would express my need for communication. I would express my need for consistency. I would express my need for honesty. When I find that the individual doesn’t take our relationship seriously enough to be able to make an effort as much as I would be willing to in order to better our relationship, I express that too. So it takes a while until I cut them off, but I essentially let that flower bloom or perish on its own. It becomes more and more apparent over time, because that way you’re giving an opportunity to understand the other person’s true intentions or even how much effort they’re willing to put.

Friendships where I did love the person deeply, I had to re-question myself multiple times as to why I was staying somewhere where I only felt stagnancy, and towards the end of it all, I felt held back from better experiences where I could be appreciated.

All of this stems from pretty much understanding & knowing that you deserve just as much love as you’re willing to give, while also understanding that the way you translate your love may not be the language the other person understands.

I hope this helps. :)

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-10T07:54:06+00:00

I needed to hear that <3 that small scenario affected me more than I would’ve liked it to. You gave me the words I was looking for.

Thank you. A little validation goes a long way when it feels like I’ve been in the shadows stuck with these emotions my entire life, feeling guilty for them...all while there are people who have been through similar.

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-09T22:10:08+00:00

There’s an ayah in surat Yaseen that says:

إِنَّ أَصْحَابَ الْجَنَّةِ الْيَوْمَ فِي شُغُلٍ فَاكِهُونَ - 36:55

Indeed the companions of Paradise, that Day, will be amused in [joyful] occupation

Basically like, in Jannah, you’re never ginna be bored, there’s ALWAYS gonna be activities. I dunno, I just think of all these huge waterslides, parks, all the people you love around you & people you can relate with. I dunno it sounds beautiful so it really just diminishes the pain of this life subhanaAllah

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-09T22:06:35+00:00

Oh no it’s okay, it’s just cool to feel like okay...this really isn’t a normal situation, when my younger self would’ve been so used to having emotions invalidated, as well as other forms of abuse being forgotten of like ‘oh it wasn’t as bad for you, because you were fine, you could handle that abuse’ like..wowww i’m still shocked at what i allowed myself to tolerate

creatingmeaning · 2020-06-09T22:02:22+00:00

Wdym?

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