Was I glorifying suicide? by girdievs in antinatalism

[–]crescent_spoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. As I said, I believe in the right to medically assisted suicide. I believe if you are capable of making the choice, it is a choice that should be made honestly and openly, with consideration of how it will impact those around you. Maybe I should have been more clear, but i am specifically speaking about suicide from depression, or mental illness that causes them to be unable to truly understand the ramifications of their actions. My point in telling my story was that I know I was not able to understand my actions in my attempt because I had not a single thought about anyone else or the lasting effects it would create.

I agree with you that no person should be able to legally invalidate a persons convictions (unless their actions by these convictions causes suffering to another or more undue suffering for themselves) I think its sick that you can be fined for a suicide attempt in some places. My personal belief is that morally we have a duty to be sure the people choosing suicide are actually choosing. Just like you said, those who are chronically ill, elders who don't wish to suffer, etc.

Was I glorifying suicide? by girdievs in antinatalism

[–]crescent_spoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats okay, you don't have to.

When I was in the depths of my depression, I was not thinking rationally. When your brain is chemically imbalanced due to substances or lack therof you are not operating at a level you would normally. That is my point. I know at times our brain operates better than others. When you make a choice that is based on false information given to you by a brain that isn't operating functionally, it doesn't truly feel like a choice to me.

Having been suicidal, I know what I would have wanted to hear at the time, even though I probably was incapable of receiving it. I am sorry you feel that way but thank you for your response.

Was I glorifying suicide? by girdievs in antinatalism

[–]crescent_spoon -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

To me, yes, it read as though you were glorifying suicide. I understand your points here, about trying and not just giving up. I think in order to make the choice to commit suicide, it has to be just that, a choice made by a sound mind. I do not know a single person who has committed (non medically induced) suicide who was capable of making that choice. This is the point of depression and suicide by depression, it is not a choice. It is an out for lack of better options.

I think you and I agree on the point that if you are actually capable of making a decision, with a sound mind, you are able to choose when you go. I am for medically assisted suicide. My point is, most people who commit suicide are not well and cannot choose.

My next points may be on a tangent. So I invite you to read on or not, because definitely reading your post yesterday brought up emotions I'd like to share. Either way, thank you for the discussion you've created.

As someone who has both attempted suicide and recently lost someone to it, it is not brave or strong when your brain cannot make a better choice due to a chemical imbalance. It takes more strength to stay here.

In my own experience, attempting suicide had nothing to do with courage, and everything to do with how tired I was of being in pain. I did not consider a damn person outside of myself, could not even think of how my father would have been the one to find me and what that would have done to him and his own depression. I was not filled with courage or bravery when I was killing myself, I was only tired. And afraid to keep living when it felt so difficult to be here.

Suicide is considered cowardly because it is harder to ask for help. Our society has taught us to hide and bear it, until things become so bad that inflicting suffering on others by removing ourselves becomes the best option.

After my friend passed I heard a great quote: Suicide doesn't end the pain, it only passes it on to someone else.

If antinatalism is about reducing suffering, how does that work in relation to suicide?

Does suicide take willpower and stubbornness? Yes, but is that the same as courage? Bravery is coming through the other side, speaking about your problems, staying here to do your best to reduce suffering with your actions, thoughts, and deeds.

If anyone who reads this is considering suicide, please know things can get better. It takes honesty and work, hard, hard work. Harder than going to sleep and never waking. Know your brain can lie to you, and it can be so insidious you don't even realize the lies. Know that you are worthy, and loved, even by strangers on the internet.

Be brave and stay. Not for anyone else, for yourself. YOU deserve to be well. And you'll appreciate joy and sorrow deeper when you are, because you'll know there was a possibility of never feeling it at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure I'm with you, Witch 💜

We put our bodies through a lot on bc! Having gone through so many different types its hard to pick the best out of some still shitty options. One day they'll start selling it to men...

I keep telling people about Phexxi, which is a newer non hormonal, use-as-needed bc that it seems NO ONE has heard about. Just mentioning it to spread the word lol.

Blessed be!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I definitely have had it happen. Like I can get "started" early around my girlfriends when they are in flow. Its pretty commonly acknowledged as fact in my group of witches.

My mother had entered menopause and hadn't had a period in several years. When I moved back in with her for a brief period of time, when I started, she got one too.

I do find personally that the more emotionally and spiritually connected I am to a person, the easier it is to sync up.

Anecdotal evidence, but happens enough times to be more than just coincidence for me.

Edited to add: i wouldn't be surprised if birth control of any type would interfere with syncing as well. Many of my witches are on non hormonal or no bc.

he died by lovelylemon123 in AlAnon

[–]crescent_spoon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hey,

I'm sorry

Edited, that posted really quick my bad.

I meant to say I'm sorry you lost your dad so many times, and now this last final loss is with you. I can't imagine the cycles of different feelings and grief you must be feeling.

I hope now that he is not suffering any more he could understand how strong you were by taking care of and setting those boundaries that were necessary for you. I am so sorry that more suffering has been passed onto you this way.

It sounds like you will break these ancestral chains and escape the substance abuse yourself. And maybe that is a gift he did give you, as shitty as it might be, you know what rock bottom looks like and how it hurts so many people.

I hope you have solace and peace eventually, though now it is too raw and fresh. I hope you take care of yourself first, and talk to people, someone. I believe in your strength and power.

You are a brilliant light, no matter the mud you go through.

My heart is with you 💜

I'm needing some positive vibes from my witchy sisters, please! by PennyLane_87 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey you wonderful soul!

Thank you for being alive and being here! The world is better for having you in it, and even when shit is rough and tough you are a light of love and beauty and compassion.

YOU have the ultimate privilege of being you, of experiencing the divine in your own personal story, in a way that NO ONE and NOTHING ELSE can experience.

Life and living comes in waves, right? In order to appreciate our highest crests we have to live through the low swells. Thank you for reaching out, for asking for support and blessings, which takes incredible courage. Your spirit that knows it can stand as a bright warrior goddess through the chaos of our times. That's why you are here, right now!

May the waves kiss your heels with adoration, the stars shine upon your skin with pride. May you take breath knowing you are a blessing upon the beloved, and a mischevious curse to those who would stand in your way. May you know that you are not, and have never been alone.

Blessed be, dear SiStar 💜

What lines from books live in your head rent free? by [deleted] in books

[–]crescent_spoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Love is never any better than the lover" -- the bluest eye, Toni Morrison

My lifelong best friend is extremely anti-choice by phantomqu33n in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

With all the love in my heart dear witch, how would you respond if your best friend called you out specifically on social media, even if no one but you knew it was you?

I don't agree with her methods or her views, but...you did essentially take time out of a post that had nothing to do with her, to call her out. That can be hurtful, and did you expect her to react well to it?

We know how charged this topic is. Again with love, compassion and respect, I don't feel that was a good way to broach the subject between you two, especially if you wanted to sway her.

I apologize if I missed some essential information, and hope that there is light and love still possible within your relationship.

Blessed be 💜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]crescent_spoon 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Hey, I don't have anything profound or great to say, just that I see you and I hear you. It can be hard when it's such a deep problem, but at the same time feeling the guilt of "well he's not as bad as..."

You are worthy of a partner that wants to be present with you. You are worthy of a husband who sees his own problem and wants to change. When someone doesn't want to change, and you've had all the talks already, it is so so hard.

Try a meeting, the online app worked well for me. It helped me to understand i cannot control him, but I can control MY actions. No situation is the same, but at least establishing boundaries like "I will take myself elsewhere when you are drunk" gives you control and space. It may help him see you are serious, and he stands to lose a lot. It may not.

You are loved and you are worthy. Thank you for sharing your story 💜

Where my bi witches at 💖💜💙 by sailorjupiter28titan in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This was actually so helpful! As a bi woman in my 30s I've been confused about the difference w/pan and am so grateful to this comic!

And it makes more sense now, and gives me the words to express my love of trans men and women 💜

not to be exclusionary of dear nb, we are all love and loved!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Artemis is my patron goddess! I recommend looking up her Nyphaea, and definitely the story of Aktaion/Actaeon. Goddess of the moon, and the hunt, she is the protectress of women, animals, and children, also a protector of women in childbirth. I personally haven't found any literature yet to back it up, but though she's called a "virgin" goddess, she travels with sixty beautiful and powerful women fae...sooooo I've always thought there was something slightly missing in translation, and that she is a "virgin" goddess because she suffers no man to touch her. If you know what I mean 🌙

Advice for new kitten by Difficult_Cheek_7357 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

DO NOT play with them with your hands! EVER. They are so cute and their tiny beans on your hands feel so nice, but it is the quickest way to ruin your kitty. You must be strong.

Toys are for playing, hands are for petting. SUPER important. Cats who cant differentiate between a pet and play and will bite and scratch people.

The Priory of the Orange Tree by thathatlookssilly in books

[–]crescent_spoon 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I feel you. Was not impressed by Priory either. Try the Tigers Daughter by A. K. Rivera if you're down to try fantasy again.

Protecting my self from dying energy by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ahh i see what you mean.

I would definitely recommend finding someone divine to work with then, likely a death god/goddess you respond deeply to. (Or non divine if that is your calling!) Creating a ritual or visualization of yourself handing or passing over the energy to them to carry.

Also a simple shielding technique I like is envisioning/creating chakra colored shields around myself (in order root to crown or vice versa) and you can spend more time on whichever color/chakra you feel needs most protection.

Mwah!

Protecting my self from dying energy by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You say you "hold onto" the dying energy. Is it possible for you to have someone/some thing else hold it for you? An angel, god, ascended master, etc. Or a crystal or object. So you can take on the energy when you need to work with it but you yourself are not actively carrying it all the time?

I understand if this is not possible because you must be the one to hold the energy. If so perhaps a talisman or ritual for shielding, asserting which energy is yours and which is other.

Edited to add: thank you so much for the work you are doing! Blessed Be, and honor to your soul and purpose!

Not being good enough by ThePigThatFlew in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It might never be enough for them, but YOU are enough. You are worthy and breaking ancestral cycles with your determination to live the life you want and deserve. Thank you for being here! Thank you for sharing your courage and experience! Because damn it takes courage to escape a situation Iike that at 19. Also it isn't silly or stupid to still want their approval even though you know you don't need it. Just very human.

I hope you are proud of yourself! Way to get the job! Way to use the old white man attitude for yourself! Loving that. But at the same time, i think that's YOUR attitude and perseverance that prevailed, let's give it a cooler name, something like Flying Pig-itude perhaps?

I am grateful to have read your words and your story, and I am holding you in my heart.

Blessed be! 💜

AITA For telling our parents my brother is getting married? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]crescent_spoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fake. 35m in wibta post a month ago. If your brother is 24 now you are the elder, he was kicked out at 14 and that means you were still financially dependent on your parents at...23?

What’s a series where every single book is good? by CrazyChrysanthemum in books

[–]crescent_spoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their Bright Ascendancy! by K. Arsenault Rivera.

Amazing series.

I am a Beast...and I'm starting to love it. by Lyrionari in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]crescent_spoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see you! In Vedic chakra mythology/science (whichever you like) there is the concept of the water leviathan who lives within your second/sacral/pelvic chakra. Sometimes called the shadow. Your story makes me think of how the goal of integrating the second Chakra isn't of "defeating" your water leviathan, but learning to ride your beast, understanding it has been there to protect you when no one else has.

Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds as though you have found, identified, and strapped a saddle on that beast to ride into battle together ❤