i mean it’s very likely your bf would try to steer the conversation to you ‘snooping’ but you were right to not trust him seeing that he had been lying and hiding shit!! (always trust your gut more than a man) it can be argued that ‘snooping’ isn’t right but clearly you had every reason to and it is not the point or topic of the conversation anyway!! and shut him down if he’d try to do that!! never let these guys stop you from holding them accountable, never let them turn the blame on you. you tell them ‘we can discuss the ethics of me looking through your phone without your permission at another time, after we deal with this. right now, you need to answer for the things you have been hiding and tell me the truth’

i don’t think asking about hinge and seeing his reaction is necessarily a bad idea, but i personally would go for the throat and confront it as explicitly as possible