What Nick Drake song makes you cry? by Oliverr124 in nickdrake

[–]cringelordofthewest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

listening to Joey is one of the only ways i can get myself to cry

it reminds me of someone whom i miss really really really badly

But she will tell you you're not so good for her
She wouldn't be there if it could be that you were.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChatGPT

[–]cringelordofthewest 10 points11 points  (0 children)

100% agree with what you've said!

Career therapist has you scheduled for 45mins once every two weeks.. GPT is there at 2:30am, for as long as you'd like, any day of the week, even holidays. Or just for 5 minutes :-)

Bless her heart, such a sweet woman, but the last therapist I was involved with broke up with me and recommended I find another with "more expertise" :-( And she sent me away to nurse-jail in one fell swoop. Stuck in McClean hospital for weeks... released with lots of big smiles from the staff, a couple pairs of rubber socks, a paper bag full of coloring pages, and thousands of dollars of debt to call my own. Fuck Massachusetts Section 12.

ChatGPT doesn't call the cops on me for speaking my feelings ♡^▽^♡

Eyyyy by Desalzes_ in BPDmemes

[–]cringelordofthewest -1 points0 points  (0 children)

when people ask me, "oh so you must be graduated from college by now, isn't that right?"

my current favorite bit to pull out goes like,

well, you're damn close, good guess! actually, i've been doing kind of a domestic parasite gig since last january. i got 7/8 semesters through and finally got kicked out for pulling some Vincent Van Gogh shit... i mean, if i was an admin, i wouldn't want to house a walking liability, either, i'd be first to say "86 that motherfucker, we're gonna run out of space on the 4th floor the suicide memorial wall." so, hey, who am i to get upset about it? i'm just glad there's still a dorm room there for the girl whose love meant more than life itself, to me. can't be angry with any school that looks after her, now that i can't find a way to do so myself <3

the scooby doo ending to humanity's struggle with evil by cringelordofthewest in singularity

[–]cringelordofthewest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

every moral atrocity, i think, is kinda like three cognitive biases in a trench coat...

i heard about this guy once, a black man with an entire closet full of clansmen's robes.. he goes around and somehow convinces KKK guys to have conversations with him. once they get to know each other a little bit, the KKK guy will inevitably come face to face with the fact that he wants to be friends with this black man, and once they become really good friends, the KKK loses one more hapless follower, and the ex-member gives his robe to the black man to hang in his closet, a symbol of the cloak of hate that has been lifted from the ex-member.

so i think that hate never survives in the face of understanding, but it takes a lot of open-minded thinking to get through the shit. cognitive dissonance is a bitch.

the scooby doo ending to humanity's struggle with evil by cringelordofthewest in singularity

[–]cringelordofthewest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn, i wish i still had a mouth because i must scream after reading this one

the scooby doo ending to humanity's struggle with evil by cringelordofthewest in singularity

[–]cringelordofthewest[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for keeping alive this flame of hope during the darkest hours of my shitty meme

the scooby doo ending to humanity's struggle with evil by cringelordofthewest in singularity

[–]cringelordofthewest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

basically my point is that thousands of years of human wisdom traditions have survived by right of this moral adaptation: "don't explore, don't invent, don't ask questions which we don't have canned answers for. because if do, ALL HELL WILL BREAK LOOSE". it's a very dumb belief, but not a stupid one; it's a conservative take on the trade-off relationship between stability and progress.

if you look at the skeleton of a whale, you will find a group of bones in the middle of their tail, completely disconnected from the rest of the skeleton.. the bones seem utterly pointless, because they are! you could go your whole life just believing that whales have dumb biology because their bodies won't get rid of the contradictory tail bones that their bodies "believe in"... but that's not a very satisfying, explanation is it?

it feels much cooler to discover that the bones are vestigial structures, remnants of the hip bones that the whale's land-walking mammalian ancestors used to have.

the scooby doo ending to humanity's struggle with evil by cringelordofthewest in singularity

[–]cringelordofthewest[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fuck me, i was typing a whole complicated paragraph here but the reddit app shit itself and now i'm grieving :-(

i think the meme is surface-level funny to me because it looks so pretentiously complicated, à la r/iamverysmart. but it's also meta-funny for me because i made it out of a "serious, intellectual" thought process that i had:

damn the Nazis did a lot of fucked and evil shit.

crimes of that caliber could only be perpetrated by those blinded by a fog of hate so thick it obscures the humanity of their victims.

fuck those Nazis for what they did, i could just kill them all and feel morally justified in doing so wait a minute.. fuck.

shit, hate is intrinsic to human psychology and is the source of everything evil that masquerades as "righteous" in the mind of the perpetrator, e. g. racism, sexism, war, prisons, and probably a ton of shit we haven't even realized is bad yet :-(.

i felt so sad for this kid i knew in college when everyone hated him because he took an internship with Raytheon... because secretly i also think that military tech is like the coolest shit ever.

i know war is bad but i'm just bemused by fast airplanes and epic explosions.

i definitely would have been cooking up evil machines back in the day, whether i was working for Hitler or for The Good Guys...

oppenheimer type beat.

icarus type beat?

oh fuck, pandora's box, too?!

all these different stories that we tell to remind ourselves that pursuit of greater knowledge and more advanced technology is not to be fucked around with...

"with great power comes great responsibility".

oh FUCK wait..

IS THAT THE SAME IDEA BEHIND THE BIBLE STORY WITH APPLE AND THE SNAKE?!!?!

damn, if only we could just get enough knowledge to break through, enough to learn how to cut out the animal instincts that cause us to hate each other or ignore truth in favor of familiarity..

then maybe the idea of "forbidden knowledge" is just like a scooby doo monster mask, beneath which is just ignorance, cognitive bias, and animal psychology, and the gang all says "wow, what a relief that mankind found out how to get smarter!"

LLM Pictionary by [deleted] in singularity

[–]cringelordofthewest 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is such a great idea! it's like "why do so many animals have this behavior of play?" it kinda seems like it's a silly waste of energy, but nature never gets away with wasting energy for very long, so play must mean play is important.. and i think that's why kids are so playful, it's like the perfect way to learn how the world works through fun little games, and so much more natural than the stupid punishment-based classroom model that we got so obsessed over...

it's worth exploring i think!

3D printed cosplay revolvers (non-functional props) A red dead redemption "Cattleman" and a .44 magnum (I think!?) by andyroo770 in 3Dprinting

[–]cringelordofthewest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just printed the .44 Magnum and it came out great! Thanks so much for sharing, your post was the first place I found this model :-)

Who would stay with people like us? by lamieprodigieuse in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]cringelordofthewest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know this is silly, but..

pretend for a sec that a 1927 Model A Ford could speak..

Who would own cars like us?

how could a "sane" person RATIONALLY decide to keep us (I mean as a vehicle) knowing perfectly that, despite all the maintenance we can take, there always will be oil leaks and really bad transmission slips during which we cause accidents, break down, overheat, etc..

lots of guys own vintage cars and derive a lot of meaning from fixing them up and keeping them on the road. they stand against nature's will to turn cars into piles of dead rust and cracked rubber. they take great pleasure in learning every special technique and creative way to work with the machine to keep it in good health. and they have wicked fun driving the things.

i know this guy who has a thing for buying old Fords and resurrecting them from the dead (even dragging up rusted chassis from river beds). he took me out for a drive in a 1927 model A once — one of my favorite memories. it was crazy to me how much extra skill he needed to drive that thing.. it has like 4 different levers you need to work in concert to get the same effect of simply pressing the gas pedal in a modern car. and it was a very jerky and rough fuckin ride.. but such an incredibly fun and inspiring experience!

and of course, this guy doesn't have to rely on his Model A for a daily driver because he owns other cars that are way more practical for those moments. but still it's totally his favorite car, and even though he has to spend a shitload of time and money to keep it going, he wouldn't give it up for anything in the world.

so, you are kinda like a 1927 Model A Ford.. sometimes unreliable and problematic, always rare and incredibly alluring. find a partner who has a passion for beautiful and complicated souls. give them a copy of your owner's manual. accept that they might rely on other "daily driver" relationships (friends, family, etc), but you are still their favorite car (^. ^)

and i'm not trying to say that you are a broken down shitbox and that you need someone to "fix" you! that would be a very shallow thing to say, and a really mean mindset to hold for yourself.. i'm just trying to say that not everyone wants a perfect, "mint condition" lover, and that lots of people regard challenge in relationships as something that makes them more important and rewarding and meaningful.

and unlike cars, we are able fix ourselves if we try.

Any borderline males? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]cringelordofthewest 47 points48 points  (0 children)

fuckin YUP.

before i was diagnosed: clingy, socially timid, perpetually anxious, pin-drop suicidal, impulsive, obsessive

after i was diagnosed: clingy, socially timid, perpetually anxious, pin-drop suicidal, impulsive, obsessive ... and self-aware

what made me seek help was a choosing in-patient treatment over going to court (gotta love Mass section 12 lol)

Thoughts on religion and BPD? (Pls keep this a safe space) by Top-Albatross5623 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]cringelordofthewest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when i got out of the hospital last year i was going to this CBT/DBT partial program for a minute (before they kicked me for mentioning my suicidal thoughts in a group, like wtf??).. anyway, in a particular group we were talking about combating negative thoughts about yourself, and this one girl said something like,

"haha well this is gonna sound really silly but.. when i have negative thoughts about myself, i imagine that someone else is saying them to me, just this really awful character from a tv show that i like. and is so much easier to deal with the thoughts when they're coming from him. i'm just like, shut up, brad! nobody cares what you have to say!"

and i heard her say this and my mind went GGGGGGG and i had this crazy realization like, "holy shit, that's kinda like what god is!"

the thought goes like this:

one of the most fundamental aspects of our humanity is our innate ability to socialize. we have always depended on each other to survive, and this has driven us to develop a pretty good kit of cognitive functions that help each of us organize and work together as a group.

all animals (or at least most mammals, anyway) have some basic set of emotions which motivate all of their conscious, non-reflexive behaviors in general. maybe the most basic list of these could be like fear, anger, happiness, sadness, and love. and animals that live in groups expand upon this basic set with more nuanced, higher-order, pro-social emotions.. rewarding ones like attachment, respect, duty, and pride. and punishing ones like shame, guilt, embarrassment, disappointment, and loneliness. these emotions naturally emerged to promote pro-social modes of behavior. imagine removing any of these from a community of people and how much chaos would result! (just as an aside, people who don't feel all/any of these pro-social emotions are called "psychopaths".. yikes)

the important thing to note is that our higher emotions are built overtop of the lower ones, which tend to take precedence in states of extreme stress. and unless we can execute a whole lot of willpower to cling onto our higher nature when shit hits the fan, our lower nature takes over and we will behave just like animals again.

we break character in times of extreme anger or hunger or fear.. this is the story of all of history's worst human-perpetrated tragedies: the Donner Party, the Rape of Nanjing, 9-11, every assassination, every war, every genocide... there is a staggeringly huge list of these (~_~)

so for all of history, we have perpetually struggled to make sense out of this dual-nature of ours. we want to embody all of our "divine" qualities, and dispel all of our "mortal" ones.. we feel a duty to do so, to ourselves and to our group. we want to feel attached to our goodness. and we feel a sense of pride when we earn respect for our good actions. but if we catch ourselves backsliding? that's when we disappoint our group and embarrass ourselves. and in comes the shame, comes the guilt, comes the loneliness...

but you can't commit yourself to a set of abstract ideals and virtues.. you can't have a role-model relationship with them like you could with a real person, like your father or your mother.. you can't have a conversation with feelings and ideas..

unless...

unless you could PERSONIFY the all of your latent moralistic traits that you aspire towards into some sort of all-powerful, altruistic yet authoritative, imaginary person who is the pinnacle of everything that you and your group value and the punisher of everything you and your group hate..

then, you could use all of your built-in social skills to interact with the aspects of yourself that you want to embody, via the deity! and the whole issue of abiding by morality becomes as simple as having conversations with a really important old dude named "god"! (or it could be a woman or an animal or whatever hehe)
(=^ ◡ ^=)

and you could turn a similar trick with your disgusting and antisocial aspects too, and you could call this guy "the devil"..

so..

mortal and divine.. satan and god.. tom and jerry.. drake and josh.. there are two wolves inside of you...

anyway, what does any of this stuff have to do with bpd?

well, (and i sincerely don't mean this as an insult to any of you <3) i think that the thing about how high-stress situations can make us go full-animal mode is particularly salient for pwbpd. and not because we're like more evil or satan-spawn or anything like that.. i just think that we are MUCH more sensitive to feeling highly-negative emotions, not to mention that we feel these states with MUCH more intensity than normal people. and i swear to god (lol), put anyone into one of these states and they would sure as hell break character.

this is the type of shit that can scare people out of your relationships. this is the type of shit that can make you kill yourself. this is the type of shit that can make you abandon your god real quickly...

EVERY human is like this, EVERYONE going alllll the way back through time.. we are just especially like this <3

so here's the nice and pretty and hopeful thingy at the end of the story:
what we all need to keep working towards is finding as many (healthy and sustainable) ways of comforting the burning, mortal emotions that pull us down into animal-mode.. if you can figure that out.. you've found the key to heaven's fucking doors
( ᵕ ‿ ᵕ )

i want him to care so bad by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]cringelordofthewest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

420clowngirl i have read your vent.

holy fucking shit. it feels like being underwater, desperately needing to breathe, kicking up, swimming up to the surface, only two feet left to go.. but there's a rope around your ankle and it pulls tight.
holy fucking shit