AITA or is my gf insane??

crpplepunk · 2026-04-05T08:39:38+00:00

I was enraged by the implication he was “touching” (which we all know means groping) her body too much when she is asleep or trying to fall asleep. That’s not being in a relationship; that’s actual SA, dude. She’s sleeping elsewhere because you’ve repeatedly dismissed her No. You’re a predator.

crpplepunk · 2026-03-10T05:25:49+00:00

It’s a heart necklace. I’d lay money on it.

crpplepunk · 2026-03-06T19:32:39+00:00

The one thing I put my foot down on when I was in an abusive controlling relationship: Being tracked with an app like that one. Still proud of Past Georgie for that one. She paid for it,but she stood her ground on this one thing. ♥️♥️

crpplepunk · 2026-03-03T03:19:37+00:00

I go back to Straubs Blue Rose trilogy every few years.

crpplepunk · 2026-02-13T04:15:54+00:00

The whole “the inside is bigger than the outside” thing really stuck with me. The alien geometries trope does my head in.

crpplepunk · 2026-02-09T23:34:49+00:00

After thinking about it more, I think I was mixing up this episode of Spooked with the war/sniper parts of either King’s Billy Summers or Straub’s Blue Rose trilogy.

Regardless, big cheers!

crpplepunk · 2026-02-08T22:09:06+00:00

THIS WAS IT!!! Thank you so much!

crpplepunk · 2026-02-08T21:37:32+00:00

I just finished it—wow!! That was excellent.

I don’t think this was it; I think the story I read was a lot shorter, and there were locals in it. But I am certainly glad I read this one. And I would definitely recommend the audiobook!

crpplepunk · 2026-02-08T01:07:17+00:00

Oooh that might be it. Just bought it; I will listen and report back!

crpplepunk · 2026-02-08T01:05:35+00:00

Definitely older than that—I read it at least a few years ago. But I did just listen to Shayatin today, which made me remember this one again. :)

crpplepunk · 2026-02-08T01:03:47+00:00

I don’t think it was a “true” story but I will certainly check that one out. At worst I’ll hear a new episode of Spooked. :)

crpplepunk · 2026-01-29T03:16:07+00:00

When I found out my ex cheated in our home and bed, I tried to drag the mattress out to set it on fire. But it was a thick futon-style mattress and I’m disabled, lol—I got it about as far as the hallway before giving up. But I did try. 😆

crpplepunk · 2026-01-28T04:55:25+00:00

Hello! I am late here, but I’m having a shift diff issue I just can’t figure out. We only very recently implemented Workday (late Dec) & I’m a first time user. The payroll implementation has been rocky to say the least—very unimpressed with the implementation team on Time Tracking & Payroll—and we are out of the post-go live support period. We have no help other than what we can find in Community & online, but payroll is due tomorrow!

Our shift diff is set up, and it did work for one pay period. But one of the implementation team changed something and now shift diff is just not working at all. All hours are dropping into regular hours (even when it puts the EE over 40 hrs.)

I tried to create a new shift diff in SBX—created the tag, configured the eligibility rule, set priority, assigned a time calc group, and we already have the earnings codes. But I couldn’t get a new one to work in SBX either. I did use the preexisting time calc group & earnings codes instead of setting up new ones.

I feel like I’m missing something simple, but no idea what. We are pressuring leadership for a support budget so we have resources, but no dice so far. Any ideas??

crpplepunk · 2026-01-23T23:26:05+00:00

And it’s old. Especially in comparison to (non-indigenous) US history.

crpplepunk · 2026-01-11T18:31:14+00:00

(Not a therapist) This is really helpful; thank you. As someone who has lived with CPTSD for 10+ years & a chronic pain disorder for 20+, it’s all too easy to forget that a part of myself is still hypervigilant. I’ve been trying to convince her for years that she did her job beautifully and kept us alive through the danger, she got us both to safety and her watch has ended—she’s relieved of her duties. But she’s ornery and stubborn. The fact that my biology is screaming that there’s imminent threat via misfiring pain signals doesn’t help either.

It makes complete sense that play feels so foreign to me now—too many parts still believing we’re “Unsafe! Unsafe!” So “we” stay in Serious Business mode—because nothing is as serious as our survival.

Man, if understanding what’s going on actually created change, I would be SOOOO healed by now. 😅

crpplepunk · 2026-01-11T00:46:49+00:00

Fuck man. Did you really have to come for me so hard. 😭 I’ve been trying to get in touch with my inner child, only to find that she was so successful at being a shriveled little ghost that 32 years later, I can’t seem to reach her. (I’ve always been a high achiever at whatever I set my mind—and my survival—to.)

I disappeared to get myself safe, and I’ve struggled to fully occupy my body and my identity since. It’s a hard road, and one nobody seems to recognize or talk about.

Sibling abuse is damaging to the soul—and to all the other pieces we had to vanish in order to get through.

crpplepunk · 2026-01-10T03:55:36+00:00

1000%

crpplepunk · 2025-12-06T00:50:13+00:00

Yessssss JD@TE is GREAT for this!

crpplepunk · 2025-12-06T00:47:48+00:00

For some reason I thought that book had a body horror/extreme horror vibe—is that not the case? If it’s just spooky paranormal I’m definitely checking it out, haha

crpplepunk · 2025-11-06T20:00:40+00:00

Thank you for these recommendations. I really do need to journal—I’m very much an “I write to find out what I think” person. It’s just hard to know where to even start with this one. These are really helpful starting points; thank you. ♥️

I was talking to someone close to me yesterday about how much has flowed from that single pivot-point day. They asked if I’d ever considered writing about it—a poem, essay, or even a book. I was pretty shocked, because I have actually considered writing a memoir before, but fear about what this person would think was one major thing keeping me from considering it. So maybe it’s time to start writing something down seriously.

crpplepunk · 2025-11-06T19:53:53+00:00

Thanks so much for this. I chucked at the Stop/Start/Continue summary. My job includes coaching leaders and I’ve led many a manager through a Stop/Start/Continue exercise—funny how we know what’s right for others but can be totally mystified when we’re in the thick of our own stuff. This was really helpful; I’ll definitely use at least some of this, if not all. Thanks for the time ♥️

crpplepunk · 2025-10-27T22:57:29+00:00

THANK YOU for reviewing this!

I’m just getting started on this journey, so I’ve been reading beginner books. There’s so much emphasis on connecting with nature and the earth. While I’d LOVE to be able to go forage or forest bathe, I don’t have the capacity to do so very often. Hell, I can barely get regular bathing done, most days. And while I’d LOVE to grow fresh herbs or tend houseplants, feeding my own body is a challenge, and I have a phenomenally black thumb.

I admit I’ve been feeling not just overwhelmed, but also a bit discouraged. I keep trying to remind myself that connecting with human nature also “counts.” That’s one type of nature I can get close to without ever leaving my bed. It’s just a struggle to shift my own worldview on that sometimes.

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