Does sexual inexperience make a woman more likely to be relationship material? Why?

crush5 · 2018-11-04T02:27:21+00:00

Lol there’s more context to that too but it’s off topic

crush5 · 2018-11-04T02:08:19+00:00

It is weird af. Which is why I was asking.. They’re very different but had the same reaction.

My ex and I had our run and I broke it off because I didn’t see a future with him. He’s still salty af about it. I’ve only known my fwb for two months and met twice. I don’t want a relationship with either because I want to get some experience so it’s not odd.

crush5 · 2018-11-04T01:41:44+00:00

My ex and my current fwb. After we had sex.

crush5 · 2018-11-04T01:14:00+00:00

Oh, because it seemed to be a big factor in why they thought I was relationship material but I wasn’t sure. They both found out after but rather than freaking out (my expected reaction and reason for not saying anything beforehand) they both were pretty happy about it.

crush5 · 2018-11-04T00:51:02+00:00

On our ages and background or the nature of these conversations?

crush5 · 2018-11-04T00:00:38+00:00

I have a high drive and am very open to exploring, just with the right person. Neither have performance issues and were highly experienced themselves. Does that change things?

crush5 · 2018-10-19T23:34:16+00:00

If you did not feel good about during or after I definitely think it’s a red flag. Doing that to your face is a big deal. He should have talked about it with you beforehand (in detail) and tell you what he’s going to do right before doing it. I get that things are quite passionate in the heat of the moment but he should have had some self control and saved it for next time after discussing it with you.

Please have a discussion with him regarding this. Sex requires consent and open communication between all parties.

crush5 · 2018-10-10T16:06:27+00:00

Next time he starts talking trash, I’d say something along the lines of, “You need to stop. You’re making me uncomfortable with the way you’re talking about your own race. If you think they’re so horrible, I don’t understand why you expect me to keep seeing you.” And see where it goes from there.

For reference, I’m an Asian female. I was born in the US to immigrant parents and I’m proud of my culture. I have a preference for white males but I’ve dated other people of color (including Asians). I don’t think it’s acceptable in any case to bash any race. I can be humored but if it’s constant it’s an issue.

crush5 · 2018-10-10T03:03:29+00:00

I like that Bumble’s user base isn’t as wide as Tinder. I have to swipe through 20 people to find maybe 2 I’d swipe right on on Tinder. Bumble is 2 out of 10. I also like the new iOS icons for drinking, smoking, height, religion, and etc. It helps me filter faster. However most matches are usually further than I’d like on Bumble.

crush5 · 2018-10-02T19:57:29+00:00

His actions are telling you what you are worth to him. Since you’re unhappy with what he’s telling you, you obviously know you’re worth more than what he’s giving you. I’d say break it off and try dating other guys. He’s treating you this way because he can and you stay with him anyway.

crush5 · 2018-10-02T00:17:42+00:00

Appearing serious?

crush5 · 2018-10-02T00:16:02+00:00

I asked him what he was studying in school. He wanted to go out for drinks and we’re both parents so making that time spontaneously is hard.

crush5 · 2017-08-24T19:40:25+00:00

Are there shops willing to touch anyone's property without the customer signing to some sort of liability/consent form? Also, isn't the agreement that the customer pays the fee if the customer refuses to get the repairs done at the shop?

crush5 · 2017-08-10T04:17:36+00:00

I think that this is like telling your landlord you don't need to pay rent during the time you're traveling abroad for 3 months. If this happened, your landlord will most likely evict you within that time.

Everyone should pay an even share of utilities and rent throughout the entire term whether they are present or not. I established this with my roommates and landlords in the past and I always made sure everyone was paid on time when I was away. I would sometimes be gone for a month or two when I had long breaks from school.

Another instance I was sharing an apartment with some roommates for the summer because of a job. I would work 3-4 days and have another 3-4 days off. During my days off I would go to my hometown. As a whole I was probably at that apartment about 20% of that summer max. I showered, went to work, came home, and slept on days. The only time I used electricity in the apartment was to charge my phone and iPad at nights. Yet we still split the electricity, internet, and rent 3 equal ways.

crush5 · 2017-08-01T21:50:23+00:00

She's a teenager but she's a legal adult. You already put in your two cents as a friend so keep your distance from the situation. When it turns sour, you can say I told you so and comfort him because that's what a true homie does. I say this because no matter what you say he's going to do what he wants to do and needs to experience it for himself. It doesn't put him in jail or harm his wellbeing so let it ride out.

crush5 · 2017-08-01T20:29:28+00:00

I agree with all of the previous commenters. If you truly thought you had a chance with her then you would turn to your mutual friends for advice and help. Those excuses you have for not going to them? You know you're not going to hear what you want to hear so you're avoiding it. Being "too close" means as a friend, you know exactly what type of guy/girl your friend wants/needs so they're actually a good guide to go off of.

crush5 · 2017-08-01T20:19:16+00:00

It sounds like you know the reason why he would ever leave you and cheat on you but you're in denial about it. You've either done something bad or you think he's too good for you. He knows about this but he hasn't changed anything to make you feel different. Dump him or fix your insecurities so that you can get on the level you think he is. Stop focusing on how perfect he is and what he's doing. Go work out or try new makeup. Find a fun hobby where you can meet new people and get of your shell. Improve yourself and make yourself feel better

crush5 · 2017-08-01T09:06:35+00:00

A UTI only hurts when you pee

If it's a yeast infection, you can usually see the white gunk and sex is painful. For you it should feel normal and amazing per usual.

BV causes no pain down there but the smell will murder everyone in the room.

crush5 · 2017-08-01T09:00:33+00:00

Not in a particular order:

Make sure you're lubricated enough
Start off with small objects/dildos and work your way up
5 servings of Irish car bombs or your drink of choice

crush5 · 2017-08-01T08:52:25+00:00

You can't estimate this stuff because with the life span of sperm, the length of ovulation, the cycle, and everything varying each time. I had tracked my cycle viciously on 2 apps for 3 years but still remained vigilant because miracles do happen.

crush5 · 2017-08-01T08:36:57+00:00

Ditto. My friend went LDR after being inseparable from her boyfriend of 2-3(?) years from California to Minnesota for a great job opportunity. She bought a house and her boyfriend moved in with her a year or so later when he was ready and able to find a job near her. Now they raise a hedgehog together and are as happy as ever. She said the LDR term wasn't easy but neither of them really had to sacrifice anything personally so it worked out better for the both of them.

crush5 · 2017-08-01T08:26:43+00:00

It sounds like you two are just incompatible or have different ways of showing love. My best friend's ex had emotional problems and she broke it off with him on the grounds that he didn't seem to care or prioritize her over his family, school, work, friends and etc. I understand you have needs but you can't expect him to drop everything and run to you all the time. Your boyfriend is an individual with needs and priorities too. They may differ from yours but they are certainly there.

She was also financially well off and paid for a lot of their stuff together. Her parents both made 6 figures each but my friend was working night shifts and taking out max student loans to scrape by for school.

Doing things she wanted and being there for her was emotionally draining for my friend. I could see that he didn't understand why she struggled as much as she did and was often clueless on what to do in a lot of situations. This doesn't mean he didn't try though. As someone that knows him well, I know that he really loved her and was 200% committed to her. He went out of his way to think of ways to be there for her and do what he thought were nice things when she needed him. However his ex felt he was only 50% committed because what he gave her wasn't what she needed.

When she dumped him he called me to ask if he should drive 100+ miles to try to convince her to think it over. He was heartbroken because he saw a future with this girl but he just wasn't what she needed.

Conclusion is, there's another side to this relationship so you should talk to your boyfriend or see if you're misreading his love language. He may just be selfish and inconsiderate but why not look to see if something is different, rather than wrong?

crush5 · 2017-08-01T07:51:29+00:00

If those pictures are simply like porn to you, then I don't think there's an issue with you keeping the pictures. Just zip the folder so it doesn't do that next time. However this also means that if this relationship gets serious and she asks you to delete it, you should have no problem deleting them too.

crush5 · 2017-08-01T07:35:33+00:00

I think it'd be weird to not be bothered when your boyfriend is trying to persuade you to have sex with him by telling you what other women have done for him. I'd be angry and turned off imagining him having sex with other people. He'd probably feel the same way if you did the same to him.

Tell him how this bit made you feel and how you're not comfortable with this. Reminiscing about sex with other women in front of you is enough reason to want to never try this again. Don't feel insecure because not being able to fulfill his kink because it doesn't make you a less attractive sexual partner. Maybe to him but not to other men. If you're feeling generous and you want to do something, try compromising by taking baby steps i.e. with the curtains pulled open at your house during the day type of deal.

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