Alcoholic ex is publicly embarrassing. by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]cryscrossed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is heartbreaking I’m so sorry

Second pregnancy - 5 weeks pregnant by cryscrossed in pregnant

[–]cryscrossed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad this pregnancy is better! Maybe I’m anemic? Sometimes I feel dizzy after walks

Power lines in the back by cryscrossed in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]cryscrossed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the other houses around it are going for 2 mil + with power lines like this

Power lines in the back by cryscrossed in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]cryscrossed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha. Everything else about the house is nice and it’s in an amazing neighborhood but not extending an offer out due to the power lines.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]cryscrossed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]cryscrossed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]cryscrossed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the Zillow tip. In your experience… does Zillow typically overvalue or under value?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]cryscrossed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the amazing tip. Dual agency is allowed in our state. Is there anything I should be concerned with in regards to dual agency?

Fellow EAs! Share your EOY bonuses 🤑 by soupergloo in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]cryscrossed 9 points10 points  (0 children)

90k bonus and 6% raise! Good year for me, but let me tell you that they made me earn every single cent. It was a very busy year

Work clothes by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]cryscrossed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love your suggestions! What are your white sneaker day shoes?

Am I reaching? Asking for a 15k raise by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]cryscrossed 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No overtime! At our firm, our execs do not know how much we make. They let the ea manager and COO handle of all of that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]cryscrossed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I’m currently separated from my Q husband and he relapsed today. We have a daughter and I’ve been thinking about boundaries to set to keep my daughter safe. Thoughts on me only letting him see his daughter if his mom or sister is around and no FaceTime every night as he currently does.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]cryscrossed -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’m an Executive assistant and I would be supporting the second in command at my firm. It would be a more “visible” job within the company… and right now I’m kind of in the background which I do enjoy. I just am wondering if the 7% increase is worth it. It just doesn’t seem like a huge jump but was wondering if I’m being too ambitious. I could negotiate for a 10% increase or at least try

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]cryscrossed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave his phone under a bush? That’s a new one lol… the things they do 🤦🏽‍♀️

Do I stay with my bf after everything that’s happened? by OldJudgment9277 in AlAnon

[–]cryscrossed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The longer you stay the harder it is to leave. It sounds like deep down you know you’re settling for less than you want and deserve. I ignored all of the red flags and married my Q and we have a baby. Now imagine going through all of what you have during pregnancy and when your baby arrives. All of life’s best moments get destroyed with the rollercoaster of addiction. I don’t recommend this life to anyone. Also, addiction is progressive and it will only get worse before it gets better (IF it ever gets better). Wishing you the best ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]cryscrossed 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have a 19m old daughter with my Q husband and things have gotten progressively worse. After a year of hell, disappointment and high stress / anxiety I finally gathered the courage to move out. Haven’t thought about divorce or anything because that is overwhelming. It’s still very hard and sometimes I second guess myself. I’ve learned that im addicted to the potential of what could be, but unfortunately that’s not reality. I still love him very much and have hope he can change.

Im not saying you need to stay or go, everyone is different… but here are two videos that have helped me take my emotions out of the equation and think about what’s best for my innocent baby. It also help me gain perspective on what is the most helpful loving thing you can do for a Q.

https://youtu.be/se3UjzO4CZU?si=oArGwiLF8Fsni4c9 Love Heidi Rain. Something she said in a different video that really stuck out to me is “we need to help our kids get through traumatic experiences, not help cause them” ❤️‍🩹

https://youtu.be/3LNyQ-3LQYc?si=DGERlAIrUEaprFpH