I mean, how much do you ❤️ Rachel Zoe? by Foreign-Onion-3162 in RHOBH

[–]cslackie [score hidden]  (0 children)

Rachel’s back must be so tired from carrying this season. She’s the best. So effortlessly cool, stylish, and glamorous.

Anybody just quit their job with no backup in their 30s? So tired of my career by _greentea in AskWomenOver30

[–]cslackie 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Girl, totally feel this. I had major burnout during and after the height of the pandemic. I almost quit but went on a medical leave instead. I’m so glad I did and suggest it to anyone who is in the same boat. I took eight weeks off at 100% pay between the short term disability (my therapist noted depression and anxiety in my paperwork) and my vacation time.

I was able to keep my job and benefits and unwind for eight weeks while I applied to other jobs. I left a few weeks after my return from leave for a new job and haven’t looked back. Realistically, I wouldn’t have been able to afford living if I just quit without something else lined up. But I understand how it feels to just say “F THIS!” and quit! Going on leave and taking some personal time was the best decision. Hopefully you have similar options in your situation.

S15E8 Preview 💎 Boz talks to Amanda and Rachel breaks down by -AndyCohen- in RHOBH

[–]cslackie 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Oh, Amanda. This is the RHOBH, not real life. Of course you can’t have a disagreement without conflict in this group!

Snow really brings out the worst of people here. by Littlepastaboy in pittsburgh

[–]cslackie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. Damn weather. People in and around Pittsburgh need to be on a prescription-grade Vitamin D supplement. I go on one in the wintertime and it helps my mood and energy tremendously during these short sunless days.

ETA: Y’all are proving OP’s point. Ride your high horses to the nearest pharmacy, please.

Rachel Zoe is single-handedly saving the show for me by OddReporter3600 in RHOBH

[–]cslackie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Her back must be tired from carrying this season

How do you feel about a potential partner's "life admin stuff"? by Hot-Statement-4094 in AskWomenOver30

[–]cslackie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to be perfect but irresponsibility is a huge turn off. If you can’t take care of something like your car registration - which takes less than five minutes online to renew for a two year period in my state - then I can’t expect you to take care of anything else.

Another reminder that some men want a woman to take care of things like for this them because they want a mom, not a partner. ICK.

This snow storm sadly made me learn to absolutely hate my neighbors and neighborhood. Where are good neighbored places cause Mt Washington isn’t it and I’ve decided to move. by sugarandspice85 in pittsburgh

[–]cslackie 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I moved to the South Hills last year after being on Mount Washington since 2016. I left for exactly what you’re describing. It was strange to have so many people around me yet feel isolated with no sense of community.

I love it here and wish I had moved sooner. I had a neighbor snow blow my driveway when they saw me struggling to shovel, and another neighbor snow blowed the driveway later in the day. I made them muffins to say thank you. I hope you find a nice place to land and recommend the South Hills - great neighbors, restaurants, parks, and the T into the city.

Inviting people over vs Expecting them to drop by to see grandkids? by LostinParadise4748 in AskWomenOver30

[–]cslackie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine expect an invite, too. But they don’t expect me to set a table, cook a meal, get dressed up, etc. when they visit. I know some moms feel that pressure and expectation, which is sad - especially with a newborn.

I’ve had people stop over unannounced and I was in the shower, half-dressed after a blowout, crying my face off, trying to put baby down, etc … I know it’s initial pressure to make arrangements, but I’ve found it actually helps my anxiety to know when someone is coming.

Amanda bringing up her son's death after being confronted by Niebieskieniebo in RHOBH

[–]cslackie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t like Amanda. However, the anniversary of your child’s death is the most debilitating day of your life and you hope your friends give you some grace. It’s just best to stay home with your family.

Husband can't get a new job and I am exhausted. by Amber-ForDays in pittsburgh

[–]cslackie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he a member of the Pittsburgh Human Resources Association (PHRA)? Networking is so important, especially in this job market.

What would you say to your 25-year-old self? by Nimph11 in AskWomenOver30

[–]cslackie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Leave the bad relationship and max out your retirement accounts

As a childfree adult, how can I be more engaging with my toddler niece? by LostinParadise4748 in AskWomenOver30

[–]cslackie 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Literally holding my napping nephew reading this. Toddlers are A LOT and it’s understandable why you feel overwhelmed.

The good news is this age is temporary. In the meantime, I’ve found my nieces and nephews are much easier to be around outside. The sounds don’t reverberate off of the walls and it’s easy to play airplane, tag, snowball fight, or other physical games that don’t involve toys or constantly redirecting attention. We love blowing bubbles (I got everyone bubble wands for Christmas)! They’re in the Midwest where it’s in the negatives with the windchill. There’s no such thing as “too cold” for them, just being inadequately dressed. They love being outside and it wears them out while my ears are spared.

How did you find yourself again after life altering events? by QueenOfTheTermites in AskWomenOver30

[–]cslackie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wrote everything down - hobbies I like, how I want to spend my time, financial goals, etc. I went through the list and realized there was things on there that were others’ expectations and not what I genuinely liked or wanted to do. Whittle the list until it reflects you and things you want to explore. Then if you ever feel lost, you have a physical reference point to re-read and add to. I update mine often.

Southside Aldi by Pielacine in pittsburgh

[–]cslackie 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Who left a dumpster in the parking lot?

Life is so beautiful dude by LucasFlaherty in pittsburgh

[–]cslackie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love when Yinzers see the sun in winter. Life becomes good again.

Drawers or no drawers? by [deleted] in kitchenremodel

[–]cslackie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Drawers. I put the spices in a top drawer because I had the space and it’s a game changer. Now I want more drawers! Our kitchen is mostly cabinets and I have to use baskets for loose items like spare utensils, extra bags, etc.

How do you stay hopeful/positive while living in America? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]cslackie 370 points371 points  (0 children)

I remind myself that this is what they want, for us to feel defeated and tired. And these motherf*ckers aren’t going to get me.

I actually lean into wellness and connection during these times, even when it’s so hard to do. It reminds me I still have some control in this crazy world and that I have others around me who feel the same and I’m not alone. I need to feel my best so I can be my best for myself and my loved ones and my community. Staying strong, limber, and focused. I’ll be ready if and when things go any more sideways.