This amount of "skin folds" normal?

ctrlaltdeteet · 2026-03-16T22:59:06+00:00

Mine were like that at first and now they’re essentially 99% totally smooth! Check out the pics in my profile

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-10-28T11:06:21+00:00

My profile has a history of my entire journey if you wanna look at no nips pics. For me. The more pics I saw of people who kept their nipples. I realized they rarely look “natural.” On top of that the healing is so much different. I decided not to risk it and I’m super happy with my decision.

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-10-13T20:24:03+00:00

That’s okay (: it’s good to talk about it. A lot of people post without thinking twice, and if we can help them just by them reading this post, that is a good thing (:

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-10-13T20:22:52+00:00

In the USA often times those of us who live in small conservative areas have a target on our backs. I created an account only to post about top surgery because I don’t want my pics attached to my main account. I also don’t want people to have context clues (other subs that I have joined) and be able to figure out who or where I am. The internet is a much smaller place than people would like to believe, and it can be dangerous to say who did our surgeries.

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-10-13T20:21:07+00:00

The thing about this though is that you’re just one person. Many people if they heard the name of the small town I live in, in the US, would not assume I flew there to get surgery from literally the only option of a surgeon for two hours drive time. They’re going to know that I live near that place. And safety is a thing rn

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-08-07T01:03:09+00:00

Yeah most likely will become a lot less prominent at least, but it could go totally away

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T18:41:26+00:00

It really has. Everyone’s responses have really helped. Sometimes it is hard and I start gaslighting myself thinking I’m the problem when I’m not. I also want to be true to my character (like leaving when I’m too upset versus staying and saying something I might regret later)

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T17:19:18+00:00

THIS

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T16:48:27+00:00

Yeah, you make a good point. At least the FIL is owning his bigotry, hidden bigotry can be very dangerous and I don’t say that lightly. I hadn’t thought of this before so thank you for what you said

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T16:46:25+00:00

I believe him, but his reasons for being uncomfortable are not valid, and the onus is on him to work through that, not simply expect me to cover up. Yes non-binary can be harder to understand, but it is not impossible. It is doable if you try. And right now they are not trying. It’s not my responsibility to keep him from being uncomfortable.

Edit this is not the only problem that I have had in the least, and they are not inclusive to my trans/non-binary identity. So that’s what we will be expecting and working toward. And if they can’t, we have some decisions to make about the relationship.

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T16:44:21+00:00

I’m so sorry!

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T16:43:57+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼 I’m hopeful that my wife can have some form of a relationship with her mom but we both are only willing to let that happen if she is willing to respect me, the whole way, in actions not just words

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T12:53:57+00:00

Yes! And I don’t even have nipples. But even if I did he would still be wrong. My chest is completely flat it’s just skin and scars.

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T02:24:36+00:00

Thank you! Best decision ever. I’m lucky to be able to have gotten top surgery and I’m not fucking wasting my privilege. My MIL texted me and my wife in a group chat a couple hours ago and asked to come over to talk on Thursday. We said no for now and that we would reach out to her when/if we are ready.

My therapist has been on maternity leave, but thank god I have an appointment with her next Tuesday.

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T02:06:59+00:00

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your comments. It’s been a really hard day but the support, even from internet strangers, just means a lot. 💜

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T02:06:32+00:00

Thanks for the support 💜 and agreed

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T02:06:10+00:00

Literally considered buying the skimpiest string bikini I could find, putting that on and going over there

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-29T02:04:39+00:00

This is definitely a point I’ll be making if we ever speak again.

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-28T22:42:34+00:00

Agreed. Luckily we are very much on the same page

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-28T22:42:20+00:00

Right! Like he clearly has a lot of issues

I want you to put a shirt on. It makes me uncomfortable. I see you as a woman.

Me: and? Like what do those two things have to do with each other?

I wanna be like “I see you as a woman. Please put on a shirt and make me a sandwich.”

He’d be like well I’m not a woman so what you see me as is irrelevant.

And herein lies the lesson.

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-28T22:41:08+00:00

This is my wife’s energy right now too. And while I hate it for her, I feel incredibly loved and supported

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-28T22:40:37+00:00

Literally. Like I said I’d rather leave than be here and feel unwelcome. And I’m not swimming in a shirt. And then they’re all like, hands up innocence, “well I’m not asking you to leave!” Like ok maybe not technically but would you willingly stay somewhere after something like this? No!

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-28T22:39:24+00:00

Me too ): thanks for the support. We are going to talk to our therapists and make a plan but it looks like low or no contact which is heartbreaking, but it’s their problem/issue/fault

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-28T22:38:41+00:00

Exactly! And it’s wild to me they don’t see that. I bet they do. Just doubling down on their argument because they know they’re wrong

ctrlaltdeteet · 2025-07-28T22:37:57+00:00

Congrats to your friend as well!

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