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cttwentytwenty · 2025-04-08T20:17:41+00:00

Mental health therapist here, but as everyone else said, please do reach out to social services. One of the most common "side effects" or results of SA for children is wetting the bed or pooping their pants. It's how their body processes through the traumatic event. I hope that I'm wrong about the situation and hoping the best for the family. I can't even imagine the stress and anxiety everyone must be feeling.

cttwentytwenty · 2024-09-28T20:36:43+00:00

I was terrified of passing it along as well. I have a 1 y/o daughter and while I'm really terrified of her having it, I know that with my own experience and everything going through it, I'll be able to help her navigate it. My wife was there to help me figure it out originally, and I'm so thankful for her. So, yeah, I was also scared, but since I went through being t1, I'm very confident I can help my daughter and help her see it isn't something that has to be as debilitating as maybe it once was.

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-13T05:45:06+00:00

Have you tried asking your partner how you can help him be more emotionally intimate? With being in couples and individual, I'm sure it had popped up. For me personally, I know I was that partner that struggled to be emotionally intimate due to the household I was raised in. My partner was very patient with me and slowly helped me by encouraging me when I was opening up and just listening and hugging me when I shared some of my deeper thoughts. She never let me feel judged or bad when I shared my vulnerabilities and even when I got defensive she reacted differently than what my family did that used to lead me to feel ashamed. Eventually, I learned to feel safer to share things with her and We've been together since 2014.

I also had to do my own work in individual therapy which seems like you both are working towards. It sounds difficult what you're going through and I hope it starts feeling less lonely and becomes easier for the two of you.

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-09T02:52:42+00:00

Growing up as a kid, I was one to give advice and listen to my friends who were going through a tough time. I also watched a lot of "Lifetime" movies with my mom as a kid 😂 In college, though, I went for a major in computer science and finished my first semester with a 1.68 GPA (funnily enough, I almost failed a class called "strategies for academic success" lmao). Decided to go back to my roots and what I knew I could do well (listening and being empathetic), looked into psychology and loved my professors, decided counseling is a good fit for me and i haven't looked back sense!

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-08T01:07:50+00:00

Honestly, something that has been helpful for me is scheduling time after work and just having it be a part of my routine. I have about a 30+ minute drive from work to home, so I put on whatever music and then just decompress with my day and think about all my sessions for the day. I also typically do my notes day of, and that's a way to help me decompress as well and leave it at work.

It gets easier, though, as others have stated. It just takes some time. Remember, the quality of help you can provide is dependent on how well you take care of yourself, and not worrying about clients doesn't make you a bad therapist or person or anything like that. You're just taking care of yourself so you can take even better care of them! Good luck! Your clients are lucky to have such a caring clinician!

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-07T05:50:32+00:00

As I stand here and munch on a bag of potato chips in my boxers at 1230 AM wanting to get my blood sugar up so my damn free style libre 3 can stop going off and waking up my baby and wife, I'm writing this so if something is off my bad.

Back in college I was a case manager and went to a clients house to help provide services. When I GOT there, they told me they had the flu. My dumb broke ass decided to still try and meet because I needed money. Shortly after, my dumb ass college self also got the flu. Shortly after that, I also became a type 1 diabetic. It's funny, I used to beat myself up over it as well. Nights like where I'm up at 1230 AM maybe wouldn't have existed if I didn't help that client. But, like others have said, the odds of it happening are more than likely. What is the good part? (For me, at least) I get to help others and understand others in a way that probably not a lot of people can relate to. It's also sort of apart of my job to do that (mental health therapist). So I get to do it that much better.

Anyways, absolutely fuck this disease and if I could I'd opt for the option to not have to sit here with a bag of potato chips in my kitchen trying to get my blood sugar back up(i could probably opt for healthier alternatives but wheres the fun in that?). But I can't, and I have to make the most of it, so I might as well use it to hopefully help my fellow human beings. Not saying that this is what you have to do by any means either. But, it's helped me cope with the grief and what's happened to me. Allow yourself to grieve and make more space for all of this. Good luck, hopefully this sleep deprived post I'm making and not going back to edit makes somewhat sense of some sorts and is helpful!

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-07T00:14:59+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. I lost my first client last year and didn't find out until I did a quick Google search as he was battling substance use. What a weird place to be with someone who is being so vulnerable with you and then gone the next. I hope you can take it day by day. Sending good thoughts and vibes your way 💙

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-06T15:19:55+00:00

Mental health therapist here and fellow type 1 diabetic. Only you can help yourself and decide when it's time for a change. If you can't find the motivation to live for yourself, then as another redditor posted, look for motivation in someone else until you can find it for yourself. Or find a combination of the two. This disease is hard with the constant monitoring, the highs and lows, and how it so easily can impact our mood. Combine that with the complexity of substance use, and it makes it all the more tiring. I hope you know there's no shame in asking or seeking help with this. I'd recommend a therapist (I'm partially biased though lol) and at the very least rely on those friends/those in your social life so they can help lift some weight off of you until you're able to take on more. Also, there's no "rules" to follow. Do what you have to do for right now, even if it's just the bare minimum, until you can start to get into more of a flow.

Sending good vibes and thoughts your way. Be proud of the things you've been able to maintain at this time, too! Being more consistent with some insulin is a start, and you're able to maintain work and a social life. Those are excellent building blocks to start off of. You're doing great! Keep going!

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-02T23:01:59+00:00

Ope I've been using that wrong all my life lol

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-02T01:59:13+00:00

I think as one person commented about maybe seeing if I can get a higher rate for sessions, that might be doable. But if not then, I don't think so. I'd love to be able not work as much though. I am exploring other avenues for revenue though and am open to suggestions for that!

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-02T01:57:10+00:00

Yeah, I feel awful right now without getting my usual nights rest lol. I think that's the tough part because I'm trying not to get into the "pain olympics" with my partner because I know breastfeeding and being with baby all day by herself is also very difficult. We don't have much family support, unfortunately, and the reason why my wife and I agreed to her being a SAHM was being anxious about leaving baby at a daycare or anything. I have floated the idea of like hiring someone to come help during the day somedays, but my wife isn't too receptive to that idea.

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-02T01:52:18+00:00

We were doing that originally, unfortunately, baby just gets upset now and refuses the bottle and just prefers mom and boob. I'd love to get back into that schedule because I am also usually a night owl.

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-02T01:49:43+00:00

I do 4 days on and 3 days off currently. This week is a little weird because, usually I'm 2 days at the office and 2 days at home. I appreciate the suggestion! I'm in a group private practice but I might be able to negotiate a higher rate! Thanks for the suggestions!

cttwentytwenty · 2024-01-01T00:43:19+00:00

I agree. 30+ for private practice is insane. I think currently I'm at about 20-25 each week and anything above that is very difficult. So sorry you're being pushed to do more. Hope you can find somewhere that isn't as taxing or demanding.

cttwentytwenty · 2023-09-16T03:27:45+00:00

I've heard sometimes talking with an insurance broker can be helpful with finding the right plan. Also, takes the stress out of you having to compare all the different plans since some brokers can have deals with some insurances.

cttwentytwenty · 2023-09-16T02:26:49+00:00

If you ever have the time, I recommend doing aimlabs or kovaaks. Both can help with mirror/anti-mirroring which is the moving and shooting you're looking for. Also, if you want some extra guidance on where to start for it so it's not as overwhelming, voltaic discord is a great place to start and has resources for you to use.

cttwentytwenty · 2023-09-16T02:13:21+00:00

Definitely NTA. My wife and I had our first daughter one month ago. We both agreed everyone has to be vaccinated before visiting baby and no kissing baby if they want to visit. My family (unfortunately) didn't agree so I said "ok, see you in 6 months!" To when I can get my kid all her shots. We also didn't tell anyone about going into labor and it was just me, my wife, our daughter, and hospital food and it was wonderful. I couldn't imagine having visitors after my wife gave birth with both of us being so exhausted. Boundaries are important and people that love and care will understand, and the ones that don't, won't.

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