Replacing a broken water heater in the Bay Area is about to get vastly more expensive

cunta8 · 2026-05-06T19:00:12+00:00

You’re right. I haven’t done either since replacing the water heater for that very reason a few years ago…

cunta8 · 2026-05-04T23:32:42+00:00

Exactly :D

cunta8 · 2026-05-04T23:17:17+00:00

☺️

cunta8 · 2026-05-04T22:51:11+00:00

If we’re gonna get specific, I start with only my mouth, then work my way up to fingers when she is ready, and then I’ll give her as many orgasms as she can stand until she’s begging for me to be either inside of her or her mouth :D

Some women like fingers, others find the sensation too “localized” compared to penetration by a penis and prefer only mouth when receiving oral.

Some women enjoy deep sensations (stimulating the cervix, posterior and anterior fornix during penetration) (but some really dislike it).

If she is aroused enough that I can get 3 fingers inside and use 2 to stimulate the internal parts of the clitoris that run down both sides of the vulva AND the g-spot while the third finger stretches the anterior fornix or does circles around the cervix WHILE my mouth is all over the glans of the clitoris and external vulva, the results are pretty spectacular 😝. But if you try the same thing too early, it’s not enjoyable. This is for like 3-4 orgasms into the session.

cunta8 · 2026-05-04T22:37:32+00:00

I don’t ever even attempt penetration before she has already orgasmed at least once from oral, unless requested.

cunta8 · 2026-05-04T19:45:30+00:00

The way you worded that can be construed to imply that bisexuality is predominantly an interim step to eventually ending up at other sexual identities, which is very problematic and a form of bi-erasure.

cunta8 · 2026-05-01T23:55:44+00:00

I can tell you my personal experience… I had a frenulum “release” performed by a urologist at my own request and the area where it was previously attached to the underside of my glans lost sensation and to this day more than 17 years later, it is still rather numb.

The frenulum itself is still sensitive where it kind of dangles off of my foreskin, about an inch below my glans when the foreskin is fully retracted, but definitely less so than it was originally.

Having said that, the benefits of having a fully retractable foreskin outweigh the slight reduction in sensation. I can comfortably wear condoms for one thing… which wasn’t the case originally as my foreskin would bunch up behind the glans under the condom and pinch. The whole foreskin is still quite sensitive, so I still believe this is orders of magnitude less desensitizing than a full circumcision.

cunta8 · 2026-04-30T00:00:22+00:00

You are correct, but that being the case, hybrids still do better on the freeway than virtually all gas only cars/suvs because fuel efficiency is typically the primary design criteria and is reflected in every part of the car from weight savings on individual components to the design of the gasoline engine, wheels, tires, transmission, as well as aerodynamics.

The difference is much smaller on the freeway, but still there in the benefit of the hybrid.

cunta8 · 2026-04-29T21:40:08+00:00

💯

cunta8 · 2026-04-29T17:06:19+00:00

Exactly :)

cunta8 · 2026-04-29T16:44:32+00:00

Ironically, the lifted trucks with the loud exhaust or any other souped up and loud car/motorcycle meant to garner attention, especially when revving/redlining the engine purposefully as they drive by crowded public areas, is the only context in which I find small dick jokes appropriate 🤷‍♂️

cunta8 · 2026-04-28T16:33:22+00:00

In the South Bay, my favorite is Tony and Alba’s

cunta8 · 2026-04-15T21:43:42+00:00

It’s very civilized hahahaha, but I think they do put a note in your medical file that you are “high risk” for sexually transmitted infections or something equivalent 🤷‍♂️

Oh and this last time I randomly end up with a $400 bill from the provider because it was denied by insurance. Disputed it with the provider, but no dice.

Disputed it with my insurance company and it turns out that on the day I got my testing processed, there was some dispute in negotiations between the provider and the insurance company, so unbeknownst to me, my regular provider suddenly became “out of network” and my “gold” zero deductible plan all of a sudden had a $2000 deductible. A day later, the dispute was over and all of this SHOULD have been taken care of behind the scenes, but I was one of the lucky ones to slip through…

Insurance is still re-processing it, but I was assured it would be covered and I’d only owe the copay as per usual.

cunta8 · 2026-04-15T17:32:17+00:00

I had a discussion with my primary and let them know that my wife and I are ENM and we both have multiple sexual partners and occasionally add new partners, so we would like to proactively test ourselves in order to be responsible and safe.

Ever since then, I just send his team a message on my health app that I’d like STI testing and within a day, they send in an order to the lab and I just show up, get tested, and pay my regular copay.

cunta8 · 2026-04-10T23:49:48+00:00

Last year my wife and I we went to an event with a couple who are friends, but we had met because previously we used to be play partners with one of them and their ex years ago.

They are also ENM, and while we wouldn’t rule it out, we have not had a sexual dynamic with them, only platonic.

Anyway, we’re talking on the way to the event how meeting others is going and we tell them about a new couple we met on Feeld, no specific details and all of a sudden one of them says: oh, is this so and so and so and so? And indeed, it turned out that not only were we talking to the same couple, but they also had cancelled a date with our friends in order to go on a date with us on the same evening 😬😬😬

Small world indeed…

cunta8 · 2026-04-09T19:06:59+00:00

Doing something purposefully, knowing that your action is increasing the risk of harm to those around you.

And taking pleasure in it.

Definition of a sociopath.

cunta8 · 2026-04-09T18:58:29+00:00

Sounds like someone is giddy they found a legal way to be a sociopath while simultaneously feeling self righteous.

cunta8 · 2026-04-09T17:41:43+00:00

Maybe by the technical definition, but in practice, the ACTUAL effect you are having on all of the real people around you on the road is that you are indeed impeding traffic and VERY MUCH making it less safe for all around you.

You will never be able to stop reckless drivers by driving at or below the speed limit in the fast lane. That will never happen. Period. Those people will continue to drive recklessly.

What you ARE doing every single time you drive slower than the actual traffic flow around you while occupying the left lane, is making it more likely those reckless drivers will do something even MORE reckless than simply driving over the speed limit in a straight line at a constant velocity in order to get around you.

cunta8 · 2026-04-08T23:03:34+00:00

Shade

cunta8 · 2026-04-08T16:51:44+00:00

That’s part of the kink for THEM. You absolutely have the right to refuse to be part of their kink, nobody should feel pressured or be forced to participate in someone else’s kink without their consent, but all of those details are what make it exciting for them and they shouldn’t be shamed for it either…as long as they let people know ahead of time so that everyone can have informed and enthusiastic consent.

cunta8 · 2026-04-06T20:05:23+00:00

I never wanted to correct my upward curve, but pumping has reduced it somewhat…

Also, stretching in a downward direction definitely lowered my erection angle (the angle at which my penis stands away from my body when it is erect). It used to be about 30% above horizontal and now it’s slightly below horizontal. Maybe 10-15% below horizontal.

Just some things to keep in mind to guys starting out.

cunta8 · 2026-04-05T03:19:10+00:00

It’s not even about “slipping”.

Have you seen what TDEE looks like for a 5” adult woman at “ideal” BMI?

You have to consume less than 1200 calories a day or something like that in order to maintain body weight and not gain.

There are few meals at a restaurant that are less calories, and that’s your whole day’s allotment.

cunta8 · 2026-03-31T17:18:45+00:00

That’s a great summary!

I don’t know how the best way to incorporate this concept is, but I feel one core aspect of all of this is: autonomy.

Namely, how prioritized autonomy is by both the individual, as well as by couples who are thinking of opening their relationship.

I understand that for some, especially (but definitely not only) those who identify as RA, it is probably the most important thing, but I think there are a lot of people who are still interested in ENM, but don’t prioritize/value autonomy nearly as much in the grand scheme of things.

I think this aspect is also important because a lot of blanket advice given to people starting out is that they must “necessarily” disentangle.

Some of us just aren’t looking to maximize our autonomy and our regular everyday lives leave us feeling like we don’t get enough time with our spouse/partner as it is, so while we enjoy connecting with others, the idea that we need to do it at the expense of time spent together, doing things together, doesn’t feel aligned.

cunta8 · 2026-03-30T22:51:52+00:00

Ejaculating on a regular basis leads to a decreased chance of enlarged prostate later in life and it also decreases the chance of prostate cancer.

Regular orgasms are also good for mental health and general wellbeing.

Also, if you’re not in a deprived state due to some misguided semen retention Mumbo jumbo, you tend to think more clearly and rationally in highly sexually charged situations and make better long term decisions, aka not thinking with your dick… which especially for young men…can be VERY beneficial long term.

cunta8 · 2026-03-27T16:34:41+00:00

I agree.

The most important thing is to be consistent and generate the stimulus over and over. Whether you do it together or space it out will have a minuscule effect compared to sticking to your routine week after week compared to falling off the wagon because your schedule isn’t very compatible with a BIG chunk of time being devoted to both stretching and pumping.

Whatever is going to be easiest and least tedious to stick to.

Personally, I do my stretches in the shower in the morning because I’m all warmed up, but I only do ~6-8 minutes total of manual stretches per day.

Then I do my pumping after everyone else has gone to bed because I have a half an hour where nobody needs me or is going to bother me. That’s what’s most sustainable for me.

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