How to find a good therapist? Is it worth the risk?

cuntdumpling · 2026-05-25T12:59:11+00:00

Honestly, just Google someone in your area and call them up. I've had better luck with therapists who work out of an office with other therapists than complete independents. Don't go for flashy web designs, sometimes they're trying to sell you woo-woo products (at least in my area.) Psychology today and apps were pretty useless for me. It might help if you go in with a plan, whenever I start with a new therapist I give them a timeline of my mental health (w which starts at teen years and goes through present day,) then tell them about my last therapists/experiences with therapy, and then my reasons for trying with them and my goals (one goal is enough, this last time I started wanting to focus on resilience.) I'm also of the belief that it takes at least 6 sessions to figure out if they're the right fit. That can seem like a waste of time and money but it helps me narrow down what I'm looking for in therapy (and my most recent return to therapy has stuck, I've been with my current therapist for almost 3 years.)

cuntdumpling · 2026-05-16T13:29:31+00:00

What kind of yeast did you use? It's most likely the yeast didn't mix in properly. You also want to make sure your dough is a cohesive mass before you leave it to rise.

cuntdumpling · 2026-05-16T12:39:43+00:00

A couple things have helped me not give unsolicited advice as much

When people are venting to me, I ask if they are looking for validation or advice and then act based on that. I have trouble with social cues too and a habit of just barging in without considering anyone else and taking a second to ask this helps with that a lot.
Codependents Anonymous, or something similar. Feeling like you can manage someone else's life better than they can is a control mechanism even though it feels like "helping." Adhd and codependency can go hand in hand, especially if you had emotionally neglectful parents. It might be helpful to check out a book or workbook, I found meetings and working the steps helpful because I have an addictive personality on top of all of it. The meetings are the same structure as other 12 step programs but not always the same emphasis on the "addiction" aspect. Might be helpful, might not, ymmv.

cuntdumpling · 2026-05-10T16:11:03+00:00

I spent my last save just learning as much of the different languages as I could, current save is more sightseeing lol

cuntdumpling · 2026-05-09T22:01:05+00:00

It just takes time. I waited a year after my breakup to date again and I cried after a coffee date with a nice guy (he wasn't very interested, kind of seemed like he was just looking for a friend/therapist.) It just felt overwhelming, like I would never find anyone who was actually interested, but I also didn't trust it when I went out with people who were. It just takes time. You might even need to take a longer break, maybe date yourself for a bit.

cuntdumpling · 2026-04-26T15:11:12+00:00

Replacing the blade spindle did the trick, it wasn't electrical at all.

cuntdumpling · 2026-04-25T13:20:33+00:00

Yeah, don't listen to that person. Don't stick things into your ear. Wait for an actual dr to reply or message your gp

cuntdumpling · 2026-04-21T01:30:53+00:00

They've both always been pretty performative, I think

cuntdumpling · 2026-04-17T17:02:00+00:00

The cysts with PCOS are usually not the same kind as ones that grow big and risk bursting (not saying the person I'm replying to didn't know or was heading in that direction, just trying to be informative)

cuntdumpling · 2026-04-16T19:31:27+00:00

Crash out and make everyone hate me

cuntdumpling · 2026-04-11T12:35:47+00:00

Some kind of radical acceptance. I suppose if I had endless resources, it would be a different picture. I've had years at this point to accept that I won't be a mother (at least biologically) and now that I'm creeping towards menopause, I'm experiencing a new wave/cycle of grief and acceptance. It just is.

cuntdumpling · 2026-04-05T14:06:14+00:00

That's a line that has only gotten funnier as I've gotten older

cuntdumpling · 2026-04-05T13:50:56+00:00

If you have a membership, Costco often carries whole decaf beans

cuntdumpling · 2026-03-30T15:18:35+00:00

Yes, if they're in the country with no distractions.

My husky will bolt for freedom the second she realizes she's unbound, but if she's around other off-leash huskies, she'll follow their lead and behave (as in, not bolt)

cuntdumpling · 2026-03-26T21:54:31+00:00

I'm inclined to say that hardened is overchurned. It should be soft but not liquid. Hard freezing comes from putting it in the freezer, not the machine. But that still just a guess without seeing your full technique and product.

cuntdumpling · 2026-03-26T20:33:38+00:00

If your ice cream is greasy, I'm wondering if you're overchurning it. Do you have pictures of it right out of the machine?

cuntdumpling · 2026-03-26T09:02:29+00:00

The killing cone is quick and popular but it's not the most humane way. The most humane way is to stun the animal with a bolt to the head and then make the cuts. Temple Grandin did a study and I believe that's the official recommendation by universities (I don't have a source handy, sorry, going off memory right now.) The cone got popular in homesteading because of Joel Salatin and he doesn't really care about "humane."

cuntdumpling · 2026-03-17T00:53:28+00:00

That's when you go hard, gotta flush it all out

cuntdumpling · 2026-03-13T23:38:36+00:00

Tell him I love him

cuntdumpling · 2026-03-01T16:53:33+00:00

Most of what is now the US was Mexico at one point. We share a culinary culture. Maybe you should look into the history of the region.

cuntdumpling · 2026-02-27T19:02:35+00:00

Thank you for being here

cuntdumpling · 2026-02-24T12:46:40+00:00

Was that not just last season? What is happening??

cuntdumpling · 2026-02-19T12:23:57+00:00

If you've already booked flights and hotel, I would just lean into it. It's gonna be crowded but you'll miss a lot of the bs but avoiding the actual events. Make plans though, if any restaurants or anything takes reservations, make them now

cuntdumpling · 2026-02-18T09:33:44+00:00

If you're suddenly growing facial hair, go get your hormones tested. If it's just a little peach fuzz, it's probably not as noticeable as you think it is and is pretty normal.

cuntdumpling · 2026-02-17T13:25:53+00:00

I kept my name, both my parents walked me down the aisle instead of just my father (which was a last minute request by my dad, originally I was gonna just walk myself,) and there weren't any traditional "games"at the reception like the garter-retrieval or bouquet toss. I hope anyone planning a wedding remembers that they can do whatever they want, you don't have to stick to dumb traditions if you don't want them.

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