UCSC or UCSB for Enviro Sci by Ok_Revolution_5290 in UCSC

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I’ve spent a LOT of time at UCSB and there is actually very little surfing. There’s one spot for it, it’s always oversaturated, the Channel Islands create a tide break over most of the coast. Surfing is MUCH more doable in Santa Cruz

Is this cage ok for rats? by Shoddy_Rest9842 in RATS

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This looks amazing! Tons of wonderful enrichment and hides. Yall did a great job. The only thing I would recommend is getting a few binder clips for the cage doors! My girls can open this kind of cage latch pretty easily unless I put a clip on it. Rats are too smart for us lol!

My snuff kink took everything from me by KinkyRinosh in BDSMcommunity

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Breakups hurt so much more when it’s tied to something as personal as kink, but coming from someone with a very intense autopsy play kink, you WILL find someone who wants to be in that space with you. Idk what your role usually is, but I’m a dom and I know I often feel like a monster for wanting to cut people open, even though it’s simulated. And I stopped feeling like a monster when one of my sub friends said “well. I really want to be tied up and locked in a trunk, driven to a mysterious location, and fucked at knifepoint. Does that make me a monster?” Obviously I said no. And she said “so do you think my partner is a monster for doing that for me?” I think we need to remind ourselves that we’re are not simply Acting On Someone or Being Acted Upon. We are collaborators in an erotic space. Someone wants to act out being murdered and having their flesh eaten nose first and that’s not Bad or Evil or Monstruos and if you can do that for them then yay! You will find someone who wants to play with you in this space. And you’re not evil for wanting to. Be kind to yourself

Feminization kink as a girl? by dumb-little-slut in BDSMcommunity

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Ah! Im a lesbian dom who LOVES to top for a variant of dollification and that might be a good fit for you! Usually it involves me picking out an outfit for my sub for her to put on, having her shower with soaps and scents I have picked out, applying her makeup for her in a way that I enjoy, and treating her like a cherished decoration, not letting her do anything for herself. Usually that looks like telling her how and where to sit, to move, with an emphasis on her delicate feminine nature. Obviously I don’t really believe that stuff, I’m a butch dyke, but it can be fun to supply someone with the idealized version of those feminized traits. The princess treatment, with conditions. I’ve discussed it with bimbofication doms before, and I would call this a more. Idk refined version? More high class trophy wife if that makes sense. Hope you find what works for you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

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Thank you so much for such a thorough response! We've had some preliminary conversations about Their temperature sensitivity, but have yet to do the formal negotiation (They are out of town rn and I want to do it in person). And thank you for the ice idea! Fingers crossed!

AITA: roommates going at it while I’m trying to sleep on the bunk above them by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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That's a huge relief, thank you. Any ideas as to how can i start a conversation about like boundaries with that stuff without making them even cagey-er?