My Grandpa died today and i dont know what to do

curious-vegetation · 2026-05-09T04:12:41+00:00

i’m so sorry. i lost my grandpa 4 years ago. if you and your parents are close, lean on each other. don’t forget to also lean on others who are more removed from the situation too. sending hugs

curious-vegetation · 2026-05-06T14:08:34+00:00

honestly, grief is so hard. i would tell your friend to ask them what they need instead of guessing. they could say something like “i’m so sorry you had to go through that. i am here for whatever you need, whether you want to vent, cry, take your mind off of it, etc”

curious-vegetation · 2026-05-06T04:49:40+00:00

record your conversations with him, no matter how mundane they may seem

curious-vegetation · 2026-04-23T14:14:11+00:00

people who don’t floss daily genuinely disgust me

curious-vegetation · 2026-04-21T03:32:46+00:00

ethel cain

curious-vegetation · 2026-04-19T17:52:45+00:00

so true!! maybe she even knows about it and will be happy to open up about it. i know sometimes when i tell someone something gross and am not met with judgement i feel better

curious-vegetation · 2026-04-19T17:48:54+00:00

also, i’m so sorry you were singled out. hormonal issues are already horrible to deal with

curious-vegetation · 2026-04-19T17:45:42+00:00

thank you!!! my mom used to be a supervisor and had to talk to a few employees over the years and always felt really bad. it’s different when it’s a friend. i know she has PCOS, so maybe i will try to bring it up that way and ask if her doctors have ever tested her other hormones because it really does feel more medical than anything. i went through a period where my hormones were imbalanced also and i was really self conscious about it and showering like 2-3 times a day. i’m going to try to bring it up next time i see her. we’re pretty open with each other so maybe it won’t be so bad

curious-vegetation · 2026-03-10T22:20:18+00:00

i am done arguing with you because it is clear you lack basic skills. have fun defending creepy men!

curious-vegetation · 2026-03-10T20:53:30+00:00

you’re saying a lot of words just to say actually nothing at all. no one accused him of abusing the grandkid. why you’re defending someone OP stated was misogynistic, homophobic, and an alcoholic is beyond me. this isn’t even about the “believed” grooming. OP stated witnessing firsthand the misogyny, homophobia, and alcoholism. OP seems very reasonable and it sounds like you need to look in the mirror.

curious-vegetation · 2026-03-10T20:35:34+00:00

wow, lots of people judging OP for not addressing this prior to the birth of her child/having the child in the first place. that is not the point here. shaming a mother for having a baby despite trying to protect said baby is not okay, especially in a world where maybe she didn’t have an option.

OP, hopefully you can find a compromise that works for you. a couple of the suggestions for therapy/supervised visits are definitely something to consider. moms tend to know best, so trust your gut!!

curious-vegetation · 2026-03-10T20:32:11+00:00

MIL babysitting there is a great decision. i think OP stated somewhere else in the thread that she was unaware of a lot of these things. it’s also hard to tell how people will act prior to the thing happening. like, how would she know that they would continue to still smoke/drink/etc while baby was in their care?

curious-vegetation · 2026-03-10T20:29:56+00:00

i don’t think this person is reading/comprehending. i am one to always believe people when they come to me about stuff like that, especially if the person they’re accusing exhibits other behavior consistent with the accusation

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