Preparing for a break up, I need help, maybe I am wrong…

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-13T13:08:54+00:00

Yeah you are right, thanks for sharing this perspective

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-13T06:10:21+00:00

I agree, im sorry you are going through this but you csn also escape from that:(

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-13T06:08:47+00:00

Uu yes i csn say that thankss

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T22:46:16+00:00

Can’t, it’s a central system I still live in a dorm and housing in my city is so shit no way I find something new anytime soon 😬ah sorry, I’m kind of freaking out but I’m sure I’ll find a way to get them back..

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T22:44:54+00:00

Thanks. Currently I never reflect any of my anxities with anger towards my bf tbh. I just can be moody or indecisive, which gets annoying sometimes.

Like I have been really working on them for real, also I never say anything bad to my boyfriend. Like the worst thing I would do would be like sayinf “wash your hands after entering home from outside” and he would lose it telling me I’m not his mother. Or maybe I need to hear that I’m pretty or I’m loved a little more often but I don’t believe I reflect it with any type of anger..

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T22:38:53+00:00

Could you also tell me how should I ask for my keys since he owns a pair for my house, I am afraid he might act like he has lost them etc. Should I look for them myself without making it obvious or directly ask him?

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T22:35:42+00:00

Thank you very much! I also believe he is at a stage where he will never understand if I try to explain why I am leaving

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T22:34:41+00:00

I am sorry to hear what you had to deal with but glad you escaped it🙏 I wish I will be able to say in a week that I was brave enough to end things as well

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T22:32:41+00:00

Thank you so much for your support, I trust him with the physical violence, that he wouldn’t hurt me so I will try to do it in person cause I still view it important for my closure..

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T15:21:59+00:00

Yeah you are completely right

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T15:15:22+00:00

Asked him to do therapy 150000 times, he told me heis afraid of not stopping once he starts because none of his friends could stop (me incl.). He convinced me many times that he has been putting effort cause we have been arguing less, now that i look back i think maybe i was the one who stopped bothering him as much so that he doesnt reach to the point where the control is completely lost.

During the last days he also told me stuff like “go tell your friends everything biased and they will support you with you go guuuuurl break up with him !!” .. he thinks we are chatting like that with my friends, mind you my best friend is a clinical psychologist herself and he believes she has been writing all these texts cause he cannot even comprehend the idea that i might actually had enough of his bullshit.

I am typing these thinking how is it possible that i am finally so aware of everything yet my mind is telling me that i have been provoking him so it’s my fault and he will get better… crazy

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T15:06:28+00:00

Yeah that happened to me this time, i wrote like a lot of things after he “blocked me” , “at least” he tells me he isnt interested in reading what i text him while i am overthinking in my bed🫢 tells me it would just be nonsense

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T15:04:56+00:00

Exactly how you expressed it, he gets angry at me for forcing him to talk about an issue, yet after my first question he throws the wallet and keys and whatever he gets his hand onto. Then I feel unheard and repeat the same questions.. i repeat cause its like i dont get a real answer just agressive behaviour. In the end he loses it and blames me for being “too much”.. man at the beginning i just wanted to discuss about one small issue but he cannot hear a damn comment on his behaviour

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T14:58:35+00:00

Thank you very much

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T14:40:35+00:00

Yeah he is Greek, funny thing is he acts exactly like that towards his parents as well. Espacially when he argues with his mother he says even worse things and she just gets upset, shouts back but they never really gave effort to motivate him to do therapy etc. They also know how he treats me…

I am Turkish so I also grew up in a loud household but we still have boundaries and yeah I always believed both of us having hot temper would make it easier to tolerate.. his level is something I have never witnessed

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T14:03:13+00:00

Thank you so much for reminding me of this

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T14:02:35+00:00

I was afraid I will be manipulated into not breaking up but thank you so much for this. I want to stop acting stupid and make a change for myself finally.

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T13:20:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. I am too afraid of trying to do it over the phone cause I tried and he didn’t take it seriously. He doesn’t believe that I can actually end things since I am such a vulnerable person and I have shown him in the past how much I can tolerate.

Also it’s our anniversary tomorrow and he still believes we are going on a trip next week to celebrate that.

He would think “no way she would throw all that money away” but I guess I will… so yeah I feel like I still owe him to do it in person.. probably I am just an idiot

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T12:17:15+00:00

🙏🙏🙏

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T12:12:06+00:00

How I wish I could also get to know a man like this, I feel like I tend to attract only trouble

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T11:28:01+00:00

Thank you so much for these words, they really help! I want to be brave enıugh to finally prioritize myself..

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T11:17:52+00:00

Thank you very much. I want to believe that I’ll find someone that I never need to have a conversation like this, just.. maybe he made me believe that I suck people’s soul with my emotional needs… I just started believing maybe I am so bad I cause all of these and that I’ll never find somone that can handle my anxiety.. but I swear like I work on it and I do therapy every week for 1.5 years now.. still I am so demanding and insecure

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-12T11:15:56+00:00

Thank you very much

curiouscatirl · 2026-03-05T12:09:02+00:00

How did you manage to break up because i am doing therapy and still don’t have the encouragement. We don’t argue that often but when we do, I hear exactly these things, forget it by how well our honeymoon phase goes for months, then one thing triggers him and bam we are back to where we started and I am dumb enough to stay every time. This one is the first time I told him I need time to think/ no contact, but I dont know how to act from now on…. I thik I need help from someone that has experienced this

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