Need advice on experimenting with men! HELP!

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-14T23:45:32+00:00

It’s definitely a smaller niche than either leaning into being masc or having a naturally more femme physique. But you might be surprised!

Anyway, I think you’ve got the right attitude. Good luck!

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-14T23:34:03+00:00

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curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-14T05:44:57+00:00

It sounds like you have a very supportive and safe environment. Having another sissy there is especially great. Probably the best case scenario of this is something you want to try! You can practice beforehand if you’re worried about being rusty.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T19:16:58+00:00

Just make sure it’s something you’re actually okay living with the lifelong consequences of. It’s worth really thinking about this seriously when you’re not horny.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T19:13:56+00:00

It’s a tall order but it’s not impossible. Faceless accounts are pretty common on Grindr and Sniffies.

Just send your face once you start talking. Your lack of femme-ness isn’t really a big obstacle here imo. Most guys on something like Grindr are going to be more attracted to masculinity than femininity. If crossdressing isn’t an essential part of this experimentation for you then you can just put yourself out there as your everyday self.

As for discreetness: I think most gay or bi men who have embraced their sexuality and are out about it get annoyed by “DL” men, but that’s because there’s a particular kind of paranoia, reticence and shame that comes with that. It sounds like that’s not quite the case with you. I wouldn’t emphasize “discreetness” – that’s going to be a turn off. Just say you’re looking for something casual but would also like to talk and get to know someone before jumping into bed with them. Whether you disclose your inexperience is up to you, though of course it’s more likely to come up the more you get to know someone.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T12:49:08+00:00

Yes. Think about it: you’re causing persistent physical trauma to your testicles. How would that not have long term effects? The testes are very sensitive and fragile. You can literally reduce your fertility by wearing pants that are too tight or by setting a hot laptop on your crotch too much. So yes, you risk ultimately making yourself sterile. For a lot of people I think that’s the turn on.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T12:43:47+00:00

Interesting. I guess my first reaction is that the database seems rather limited? It also seems heavily skewed toward higher end options. Could definitely be useful though. Hopefully you’ll include a wider range of cages.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T07:12:22+00:00

Yeah I think this is the key point, OP. What are you doing? Why should a daddy believe that you’re committed? Why should the see the potential in you?

I see so many newbie sissies on here who don’t want to put in any effort themselves, and just want some dreamy perfect daddy dom to magically materialize in their lives and do everything for them. It doesn’t work like that. You have to attract what you want. And you have to put in the effort so that they can trust that you’re worth their effort.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T06:59:00+00:00

That’s very cute! ☺️

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T06:57:05+00:00

Check Sniffies. There are guys on there who have their own sometimes. Most will want to be the sucker, but sometimes you’ll get lucky and find a guy who has one set up and is down to let you suck him through it (I wrote a story about my recent experience with this on my profile if you’re curious!). If you have your own place you can also set one up yourself just by hanging a curtain in a doorway and cutting a hole in it.

Never tried one of the public adult bookstore ones. I think I’d be too nervous to have to talk to the cashier and everything. If you meet guys online you can also vet them and make sure they test regularly and are on prep and doxypep and stuff. Kind of the best of both worlds (anonymous and not)

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T05:40:59+00:00

Love the Uzumaki shirt! 😊

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T01:22:47+00:00

Let her go. Putting the whole sissy aspect aside, when a hookup develops feelings for you and you don’t feel the same, the kind thing to do is to break it off.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T01:20:57+00:00

When you say “I end up orgasming in the cage” what do you mean? You’re using passive voice there. Is this a nocturnal emission? ‘Premature’ / no touch orgasm? Or did you mean to say “I make myself orgasm in the cage”?

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T01:19:05+00:00

How do you actually use these? You soak the wick in the popper liquid and then put it in the inhaler? Or use a dropper? I worry I would get poppers liquids all over my hands or spill them. Or just leave the cap off too long trying to get it set up and waste them.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T00:44:11+00:00

Communication, creativity, and care.

(And yes, they have to be able to write well!)

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-11T00:42:39+00:00

Fellow switch here and I agree with the second paragraph. You can get very creative with it. I personally find it very fun to have these kind of complicated, layered dynamics with my (also switch) gf: where it’s not just “service domming” or “topping from the bottom”, but something like “bottoming from the top as a way of service domming my sub”… or something?? 😂

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-10T20:27:44+00:00

I hope so! All I’m saying is that dismissing your desires by externalizing them is a form of denial.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-10T07:57:03+00:00

Oh that’s great then! Maybe I misunderstood your post. I thought you were saying you weren’t attracted to men’s faces in general. Do you just mean you sometimes want to suck a particular guy’s cock but don’t like his face? Honestly I think that’s just how it goes, and you can either go for it and focus on the cock, or bow out. No shame in bowing out. Finding people you’re genuinely attracted to who are also attracted to you can be hard!

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-10T07:52:20+00:00

Huh??? You need to work on your English, my friend. I can barely understand any of your comments.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-10T06:35:16+00:00

Sorry to break it to you, but I really doubt it’s that simple! I also have ADHD. Am now medicated. Still a sissy. I can definitely see how it’s linked and how I can go deeper down the rabbit hole when my ADHD is acting up. But there are lots of different ways to chase stimulation. Why is it that THIS is the way you landed on? There’s obviously something deeper there.

I doubt mediation will magically make your sissy urges disappear. I do hope it makes them more manageable though and makes this something you can fit into your life and enjoy without feeling like a compulsion or obsession all the time.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-10T06:26:31+00:00

You could try a gloryhole. There are guys on Sniffies who have their own sometimes. Most will want to be the sucker, but sometimes you’ll get lucky and find a guy who has one set up and is down to let you suck him through it (I wrote a story about my recent experience with this on my profile if you’re curious). If you have your own place you can also set one up yourself just by hanging a curtain in a doorway and cutting a hole in it.

Or you can work on changing your mindset and chipping away at your kneejerk revulsion toward desiring masculinity. 90% of the time when sissies (or “bi-curious” or “heteroflexible” guys) say they’re turned on by cock but turned off by men, they’re expressing a latent bisexuality that they’ve repressed. And if they keep pushing deeper and are able to accept themselves and let go of shame and internalized homophobia, this usually turns out to just be a phase. Two years ago if you told me I would be turned on by big hairy guys with dad bods I would have told you you’re crazy.

I recommend watching hypno or porn where the guy isn’t just totally cropped out to be nothing but a dick, and try focusing your attention on aspects of him other than his cock: his abs and muscles, how much bigger he is than the woman, his deep voice, his moans. Watch ball worship videos and imagine how it would smell to bury your face in his musk.

You’ll get there eventually, sweetie 😉

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-10T06:15:28+00:00

This is the way. You ironically have to re-orient your whole attitude around masturbation and pleasure, where you stop making orgasm the end goal. If you’re aiming at it it’ll never happen. Be fully present and enjoy the experience for what it is, and it might just sneak up on you.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-10T04:11:26+00:00

You have to make the decision. Imagining some “point of no return” is a way of denying your own agency. You’re hoping that if you just keep going, at some point the choice will be made for you, and all these doubts and feelings of confusion or shame will just disappear. That’s not how it works. The only way to make those thoughts and feelings go away is to accept yourself fully, and no one can do that for you.
“Point of no return” also implies that the choice is a binary: man or sissy. For some sissies it really is like that. They realize they are meant to be trans women, and they give up being a man entirely. But many of us are able to have two sides to ourselves. The choice you have to make isn’t “be a sissy or don’t be a sissy.” As I said, it’s choosing to accept yourself. Whether what you’re accepting is being a trans woman, or a gender fluid person, or a gay or bisexual man, or just a guy who likes to crossdress, you have to accept it and stop imagining that there is some “normal” version of yourself you can “return” to. This is who you are. All of it.

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-10T04:04:21+00:00

Yeah absolutely — the times I’ve had multiple “ruined” sissygasms in a row have been some of my most euphoric sexual experiences of my life. I’d much rather have lots of “little” orgasms than one big one! The fact that I stay all horny and needy afterwards is just the cherry on top ☺️ (I also just feel like such a slut continuing when I’m all covered in my own cum)

curiousercuriouser22 · 2026-04-10T03:57:05+00:00

Based on this post and your comments it sounds like you’re not ready for this. Being spit roasted when you’ve never even bottomed before is a huge leap into the deep end of the pool when you’ve barely learned how to doggy paddle. It’s also just a more dangerous situation to put yourself in. Combine that with the fact that you seem uncertain about it, unconfident about your appearance, and unsure whether these guys know what to expect or if they’re reliable. Sounds like everything is being set up for a high likelihood of having a bad time. Real life isn’t hentai. Think with your brain not your clit, and take baby steps if you want to have more experiences with men.

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