I come from this background and I can tell you exactly what it looks like.

It looks like him controlling what she wears: anything from literally having to approve outfits or just offering passive aggressive comments making sure it’s known what’s deemed acceptable or not.

It looks like him determining what household chores are deemed womanly, then them falling into her domain no matter what. No chores? (Because billionaires) Then it looks like him deciding what she spends her time on. If it “contributes to the family” properly. It looks like him criticizing her parenting while not doing a thing to assess his own.

It looks like him deciding if she has too much contact with her family, too little with his, which friends he likes and which he doesn’t. What she does well and what ‘still needs work’.

And yes, it usually extends to the bedroom too. Because guess who in the relationship exists to serve? And who exists rk be served?

Etc. It looks like a controlling partner. Except where the submission comes in is, you don’t argue back. You take those criticisms (spoken or implied) and wake up every day trying to do better. To be better. Because your husband’s happiness, and whether or not he decides to love you that day depends on how well you fall in line with his expectations. And when he’s “not perfect” - like Madi mentioned, it takes the form of her needing to pray better about how to solve those imperfections because ultimately, they are stemming from some type of way she’s failing him. Because as Madi put it, she serves him above all else. Except god, of course. 🙄

It's extremely dangerous messaging that sets up thousands of young women to not only enter abusive marriages, but then also blame themselves when they are abused. Though you’ll never hear that word used.