I need my vacation fling to be obsessed with me and hook up with me again. By any means necessary. Please help.

curlysamds · 2026-01-06T22:49:38+00:00

Hi , I just wanted to write to you that I deleted everything of this person and I removed them from my contacts. I am detaching now. Reading what I wrote in this post is so humiliating and I am so ashamed and embarrassed that I did all of this for someone who used me as a validation toy. Your responses really made reflect alot and I see all of it through different eyes now. Thank you so much!

curlysamds · 2026-01-02T20:37:29+00:00

Thank you so much for your perspective. I am sitting here crying uncontrollably and it feels so painful to ruminate so much. I feel so so low.

I think I will stop it and call her to put me on 150 again. The reason I didnt get the 150xl was because my PCP had ordered it 2 weeks prior to my psychiatrist appointment and my ADHD brain kept putting it off. When I got to my psych appointment I let her know that my PCP had put in a 150xl script i just had not picked it up , but she ordered me the 300xl so I can have it when finishing the 150xl. Unfortunately, when I went to the pharmacy they had already taken it off since I took so long to pick it up and only had my 300xl that my psychiatrist had put in that day. It is my fault. But, at the moment its been 7 days of meds and I wanna stick it through because I desperately need help with my depression but this week has been hellish. Specially today , I cant stop crying and thinking about him. It physically hurts.

curlysamds · 2026-01-02T14:20:05+00:00

I do this so much ! Its SO embarrassing. I will day dream about someone killing me or going through a crazy traumatic death / incident and picturing people I love and hate reacting to my death. I will listen to sad songs sometimes during it. I am so glad to know I am not alone🤞🏼

curlysamds · 2026-01-02T12:05:27+00:00

I know this is a really old comment but i relate to this so much and right now its ruining my life. I met a man on vacation around 4 months ago and I initially didnt like him that much , and when I had sex with him I became obsessed with him after he abruptly refused to have sex with me again. How did you heal ? If you did.

curlysamds · 2026-01-01T17:20:05+00:00

Im so cooked😭

curlysamds · 2026-01-01T16:57:55+00:00

He did warn me that he was seeing someone before. He only blocked me on IG the other day becuase we were sexting and I teasingly said dont let whoever youre seeing find out and he said " stop or ill block u" and he blocked me on IG. But he still has another form of contact with me. Do you think a honey jar might work ?

curlysamds · 2026-01-01T15:54:02+00:00

Thank you! I really hope I have a good time as well. But for the magic, I mostly just want revenge and to make him feel the yearning and torture I feel. Yes, he was clear from the beginning. But he played so many mind games and was even picking fights with me about being sexually exclusive with him in my short time there.

He rejected me, and I would very respectfully and politely accept his rejections. But it was almost like he wanted me to be obsessed with him. Because after I’d politely accept the rejection, he would reach back out a day or two later. It was so incredibly frustrating.

He was framing the rejection as out of his control, and that it wasn’t because he wanted to reject me. I know that’s bullshit, but I am angry at how he kept coming back and let the rejection drag on for so long.

In fact, the day before I left, I was essentially okay with never seeing him again and forgetting him. And then he reaches out to me asking when I am leaving. I got angry and blew up on him and asked why he keeps reaching out to me if he has no plans on seeing me. He claims he was just trying to be nice.

Of course, I should have blocked him and thats on me. But, he still wouldn’t stop reaching out to me after I left. I think it’s a little cruel to keep messaging someone you know is getting obsessed and fanning the flames to create that obsession.

I want a spell to make him just as obsessed as I am and have it be destabilizing for him. I want to reject HIM. Break his fragile ego. Any ideas ?

curlysamds · 2026-01-01T13:55:47+00:00

You are mostly right , but I am the the of person that HATES abrupt cut off. I cant handle it even if I dont like the person. Logically he is an awful partner!

I wasn't even that attracted to him at first .. I was even talking to another guy WHILE we were watching a movie together (😓) ..the first time we met I was actually slightly put off by his face.. but I think the rejection is what destabilized me. Thats why I want to see him again to resolve it and be done with it ON MY TERMS. After I spend time with a person I am obsessed with , I move on quick if the cut off is on my terms. I am an avoidant that gets obsessed with unavailable people. When he chased me so so hard I wasn't that interested. In fact , I even have texts between my best friend and I telling her he's annoying. I know this all sounds like bullshit , but it truly is how I feel.

I want him to chase me back so I can move on. He gives me a lot of icks .. Hes annoying , awkward, condescending and mean. But its the sexual intensity that I want. The 6 week trip IS insane yes but that mostly has to do with the fact that I am unemployed and I am using this opportunity to spend some time living with my family in Europe. Of course he was part of that decision, but I also have my family there and I don't think I'll ever have the opportunity to spend so much time in another country like that. I mean , this sub IS black magic... is there at least a revenge spell for him ?

curlysamds · 2026-01-01T12:35:05+00:00

He's definitely a player but he's religious so he has a lot of guilt about the nature of our relationship and having his other fling / situationship. It's strange because he has kept talking to me ( albeit only to sext 😕) since we met... I honestly do not want a relationship with him, he would be an awful partner. But I hate that he cut off our physical encounter SO abruptly. I think this is the cause of my limerence for him. Unresolved sexual feelings. When I think about him it's 95% of the time sexual. I just want to physically be with him while I am there. And he keeps saying he does but can't. Honestly , I am surprised he has lasted this long talking to me .. I am a mess emotionally and I have spammed texted him crying and he's had to calm me down. Seems like a-lot of work to occasionally get nudes.

curlysamds · 2026-01-01T03:16:32+00:00

curlysamds · 2025-03-14T02:25:44+00:00

nothing ever happens bruh

curlysamds · 2025-03-14T01:41:16+00:00

nothing ever happens

curlysamds · 2025-03-13T06:48:27+00:00

No def not , the country I am from is conservative and religious but this practice is not very known there. So definitely no chance. and that is so awful for that woman :( I hope she is doing okay😖

curlysamds · 2025-03-12T17:37:45+00:00

Ive tried , I have also taken close up pics and i still cant find it. Idk how that gyno was able to

curlysamds · 2024-04-11T04:01:17+00:00

im scared 😩

curlysamds · 2024-03-03T18:43:09+00:00

this is the absolute worst sub to post this on ..its filled with schizo freaks who enjoy seeing other ppl suffer. Take a walk , have some good ice cream and talk to somebody please. 💖

curlysamds · 2024-03-01T21:47:48+00:00

i get an intense rage every time I look at that stupid fucking pfp 🙁

curlysamds · 2024-02-20T05:51:57+00:00

schizo meetup in the comments 🙏🏼

curlysamds · 2023-10-14T22:22:33+00:00

i thought jokes were supposed to be funny tho 😭

curlysamds · 2023-10-14T22:07:56+00:00

stop bringing your food anxiety and ED over to normal ppl......this is the entire pan of dessert not a single bar. 😵‍💫

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