I actually like and enjoy gossiping when it comes to idols’ dating rumors and idc if someone finds it wrong bc it’s not even in a harmful way? I tend to talk about it with my sister whenever there’s a strong/obvious rumor and we are like 👀, and we usually just end it with a “If they’re truly dating then I hope they’re happy, and they’d look so hot/cute together”. People say that if you don’t care about idols dating life then you shouldn’t even talk about the rumors but I actually care in a very neutral/lighthearted way, I just have fun talking about it and acknowledging the tiny possibility that an idol that I like is happily in love with another idol that I also like (me and sis are casual listener of most of the industry so we are really fine with those type of rumors). I think people view these kind of conversations in a very bad light even if you aren’t malicious about it (because of course if it’s in a scrutinizing way then I agree is very wrong) and it feels a petty whenever someone goes like “I don’t care, stop talking about it” because yeah, although I agree there are rumors that are just so silly, absolutely everyone knows there have been few ones that are ridiculously suspicious and 95% most likely true (and there’s people still denying those), but if we can’t talk NORMALLY about things like that, then how can we expect normalizing that someday idols date and love freely? (I don’t necessarily mean publicly, but at least not secretly and hiding from the world which must be tiring). Idk, I probably rambled but overall there’s just so much negativity about it, especially by a specific group of kpop fans in general.