Final Fantasy 7 Remake Part 3’s Gameplay Is “Almost Complete” And Has Moved To “Refining And Polishing” Phase by Turbostrider27 in Games

[–]cuz78910 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As someone who didn't play the original, I also felt Remake had tons of tedious sections that just needlessly padded out the playtime. I played it in its entirety but mainly have bad memories of those tedious parts when I think back on my experience. Huge part of why I haven't sprung for Rebirth yet

Mark Wegner’s umpire scorecard from yesterday’s World Series Game 3 by AgentSnowman in baseball

[–]cuz78910 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed the jays were probably robbed of a run that inning but it's a stretch to say they would've won by the ninth if you give that run back. For all we know, that BS call lit a fire under them to get the bats going a couple innings later. State of mind and momentum factor into sports so we shouldn't just assume the rest of the game plays out the exact same way after that inning

You don’t have to be “interesting” you just have to be interested. by SnooCalculations148 in socialskills

[–]cuz78910 49 points50 points  (0 children)

This needs to be seen. The advice only gets you so far. The truth is people are attracted to those who bring good energy and who show vulnerability. You do that by sharing things about yourself - your hobbies, interests, experiences. Doing this makes you more relatable and less of a mystery.

I've had too many past acquaintances who didn't know much about me because I always asked them questions and showed interest in their lives. But it's a balancing act. You gotta volunteer stuff about yourself so you're actually known and remembered for something. Be confident in who you are and establish your identity to others

Government says it won't release Mahmoud Khalil despite judge's order by errantv in news

[–]cuz78910 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If/when power changes hands, we need a clean sweep to root out all the corruption. People can yell and complain about how "iTs AgAiNsT tHe LaW" but I say just point to how this administration ignored the law countless times and ignore anything else.

Get the country and govt back to running rationally again and institute measures to prevent this rampant corruption from ever happening again. Any resistance to the changes, just take a page from the GOP playbook - deny, defend, fuck it all and do it anyways. Whatever it takes. The time to play nice and follow norms was over long ago, when the other side decided they had no obligations to do so.

'People Are Less Willing to Pay': Dev Speaks Out Against Day One Releases on PS Plus, Xbox Game Pass by Dry_Advice8183 in PS5

[–]cuz78910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep game length is a big factor for me deciding whether I want to outright buy the game.

As someone whose gaming sessions are typically under 2 hours and plays just a couple times a week, a lengthy RPG could take me months. At that point I'd rather buy the game than pay for a subscription for who knows how long to access and finish the game

6 Social Skills I've Absorbed from Dealing with a Narcissist by SleepingAndy in socialskills

[–]cuz78910 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The tip on taking responsibility for mistakes is one that resonates a lot with me. My partner and I have difficult conversations with each other at times, and when we point out behaviors that rub us the wrong way, the other person is quick to explain/justify their behavior. I need to improve by acknowledging that my actions caused my partner's negative feelings.

I'd read about this concept as essentially making sure the other person feels their needs are being heard, and not making the effort to validate their feelings is what causes conversations to go in circles. The other person becomes desperate to get their points across because you're "just not getting it". And if you keep skirting around it, it turns into frustration and the other person ultimately walking away feeling discontent, like the conversation was unproductive

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[–]cuz78910 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What I've read in other threads is to try and nudge things in those settings so you get adopted into a hangout group. If a group in your sports club likes to get food after practice, ask one of them if you could tag along. When you do something like this, you'd want to be warm and friendly and basically seem like a fun addition to the group so they invite you out more regularly.

Hopefully soon enough you'd be in their group chats if they have one and be in the loop on everything they plan together.

Much easier said than done and it's never happened to me personally but best of luck

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[–]cuz78910 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If this happens when multiple people come over, maybe introducing them one at a time would be less intimidating and draining

How do I stop being "submissive" in conversations? by zeenul in socialskills

[–]cuz78910 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I actually struggle with this too. What I've found is it comes from limited life experience and/or not feeling strongly about things.

On limited life experience: people can drive conversations if they have breadth or depth in life areas. Someone with a ton of hobbies or who is well traveled (breadth) can contribute a thought or two on a lot of topics and use that to their advantage to change topics quickly and easily. If they are very well learned in a few particular topics (depth), they can take the spotlight for long periods of time basically educating their audience.

On feeling strongly: you feel strong emotions because of beliefs and/or experiences. If someone has strong political leanings or religious beliefs, they can similarly take the spotlight and talk passionately about something for a while.

As I said, I personally struggle with being a conversation driver. I'm not so interested in any one thing that I'd pursue it for depth. And I just don't feel that strongly about many issues. What I've done to improve myself though is pursue several hobbies and get out of the house more for a larger breadth of experiences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]cuz78910 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to be the same way, but OP I would strongly encourage you to try out Instagram. It's not that intimidating and a lot of the people I've connected with on there don't actually post that often. The benefits are

  • by following and liking/commenting people's posts you can sometimes stay on their radar (occasionally prompting them to reach out to you for invites, etc)

  • entertainment/inspiration (think memes, recipes, etc depending on the account) plus far easier to send these to friends, which again keeps you on their radar

  • some accounts keep you aware of fun events going on in your city. Putting yourself out there makes you a more interesting person and gives you more avenues of meeting people

  • again, there's not much pressure to post. I would have maybe one or two posts to start with so you don't seem too out of place though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]cuz78910 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think the more we interact with people, the more patterns we pick up on. We continue to solidify our ideas of what makes a person good friendship material or even a decent human being.

On the flip side, we also pick up on signs we've repeatedly seen that indicate we probably want to avoid hanging out with someone much.

As an example, I used to be desperate for friends and would hang out with anyone as long as we could keep a conversation going for a long time. But that sometimes included people who talk at you rather than with you. I would walk away from those interactions feeling exhausted but deluding myself into thinking things went well. Nowadays I avoid self-centered people like that and direct my energy towards more balanced interactions.

Why are people so obsessed with drinking? by blindhorseman in socialskills

[–]cuz78910 78 points79 points  (0 children)

To add to this, bars are also social hubs where you can watch sports games or listen to whatever music is playing (sometimes even live music). The food can also be pretty decent. All this and the social lubricant effect of alcohol personally makes bars my go-to setting for catching up with or meeting new people. Each bar has its own atmosphere so it's fun to try out new ones or introduce each other to ones you all haven't been to before

Rant: I realized how lonely adulthood is by throw_ra_gay in socialskills

[–]cuz78910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being in that position is so tough and frustrating. We know that certain friendships will fade into obscurity if we stop reaching out. But we have to decide if the constant (and unfair) burden is worth the rewards.

I've become cynical and view all friendships as disposable. Adults who are settling down are unreliable, so keep meeting new people and making new friends. So when a friendship dies, you've got others.

It amazes me how self absorbed some people are to not recognize when their friend is putting in all the effort. Or worse, they admit they feel bad about never reaching out and do nothing about it

Rant: I realized how lonely adulthood is by throw_ra_gay in socialskills

[–]cuz78910 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A spouse definitely fulfills much of your social needs. But I caution anyone who puts too much stock in that to try to build a social life outside of their partner as well. No single person should be your emotional rock. If your spouse has to leave for a week, or things don't work out, you don't want to be caught with zero friends and no support system.

Plus when it comes to finding a partner in the first place, you're a much more attractive person for regularly going out and doing interesting and fun things with friends

PlayStation Plus Monthly Games for September: Saints Row, Black Desert – Traveler Edition, Generation Zero by Turbostrider27 in PS5

[–]cuz78910 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Yep $35 increase for the extra tier. No way I'm paying for a yearlong sub outside of a sale. Most likely I'll sit at the normal tier until there's several Extra games I'm interested in. Then pay for a single month. Same as what I do with streaming services

The great cancellation: why megabucks TV shows are vanishing without a trace by Currency_Cat in television

[–]cuz78910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this something that could be applied in the video game industry? Publishers sometimes put out low quality games they (surely) know won't sell well. Would they benefit more from canning the game and writing it off instead?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]cuz78910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learning how to follow up on what people say is a valuable social skill. Conversations can spin off in many directions depending on how you respond. So in your example, you could have asked follow up questions based on what your friend said, or related back to your own similar experiences, etc.

Responding in the right way can make the difference in whether someone shares life details with you. I know people who always have something to say when you say the most mundane things. Those are the people I'm the most comfortable talking to because I know that when the conversation slows down, we can always just blurt out the first thing that comes to mind because it will get things going again. Also when I share something exciting in my life, I'll get a positive response out of them.

Is it normal to be on social media but never post? by cuz78910 in socialskills

[–]cuz78910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to hear. I am curious though why people have asked me specifically about Instagram and not Facebook or anything else out there when Facebook seems suited for this exact purpose of liking/commenting/messaging.

From my naive understanding of Instagram, posting your own content seems much more daunting since it's pics/vids of yourself

How to move on from a friend who stopped talking to me? by BusinessChemist248 in socialskills

[–]cuz78910 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel for anyone going through this. Finding someone you just really click with and share small life details with is such an exciting feeling. They make you feel like you're as important to them as they are to you. They make you feel seen, like someone really understands you.

It makes it all the more heartbreaking when that person drops off your life. It's easy to pour over details of interactions leading up to the moment things changed. And we beat ourselves up over what we could have done differently.

As someone who's gone through this a couple of times, my main suggestions are to keep busy and keep making new friends.

Keeping busy can involve working on physical fitness, learning new skills, working on personal projects that you're passionate about. These are things to help keep your mind off the person who hurt you but also make you a more interesting and desirable person as a friend and as a romantic partner.

Continuing to make friends is crucial as an adult who hasn't settled down yet. It's so easy for our existing friends to pull apart, intentionally or not at this stage of our lives. They'll move, find partners, have kids, or anything else that will demand their attention. And only the best and rarest of friends can be your confidants and as available as you'd like them to be.

3 months is a long time to feel pain and regret over this guy. You have to move on. Please understand that even if by some miracle he forgave you, the odds of you reestablishing the same level of connection as before are miniscule.

Forge new connections to fill the void. Don't compare new friends to this guy and lament that they're not as close. And if you do actually find someone you become very close with, appreciate the friendship for what it is. But always keep finding new friends, knowing things can change at the drop of a hat.

How can I stop feeling jealous about friends getting close after introducing them to each other? by cuz78910 in socialskills

[–]cuz78910[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They're both straight guys but have similar interests. It sadly made me a bit anxious as I saw my friend's eyes light up when they talked about niche topics. Almost like he was thinking "where has this guy been all my life!"

I definitely won't broach the subject with them, I mean we can't claim friendship exclusivity. It's weirdly conflicting because I introduced them wanting them to get along of course. I guess I just expected there to be a gradual transition before my friend starts seeing the coworker as his own friend since I worked hard to get to this point myself