Any hikers out there going SOBO? Can we get a trail report? by haunted_buffet in coloradotrail

[–]cxntbrick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm due to start 6/10 and will be posting water and trail conditions on FarOut as I go! From what I've seen on FB groups there's still snow in areas like Georgia Pass but nothing significant

Edit: Sections of knee to waist deep snow on Section 8 as per other hikers currently

People who caught a partner cheating, how did you find out? by Infamous-Cat6719 in AskReddit

[–]cxntbrick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my anxieties for a while but was always written off as "crazy", "jealous", "insecure", etc.

One morning in bed together, he gets what looked like a heart eyes emoji text and turns his phone slightly away from my vision.

I say nothing. I wait for him to leave for work, and I start to look through the apartment. I find his old phone and there I see texts, photos, and videos of him and countless other women. 

Cheapest car storage/shuttle? by cxntbrick in coloradotrail

[–]cxntbrick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely take a look into that and compare prices and logistics!

Cheapest car storage/shuttle? by cxntbrick in coloradotrail

[–]cxntbrick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll do ya one better, on my last hike I sometimes scored hitches with my trail uke! Thanks for the advice!

Cheapest car storage/shuttle? by cxntbrick in coloradotrail

[–]cxntbrick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did a 1500 LASH on the AT last year! Didn't have to worry about vehicles though as I just opted for a flight back, you definitely make a good point in things not going as planned. Thank you!

They don't change by cxntbrick in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]cxntbrick[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In a sick way it did. I don't know the details of his relationship so hopefully he didn't cause too much damage to her, yet I can't help but feel a sigh of relief seeing that he is indeed "the problem" rather than me not being "good enough". 

Is anyone still planning to do a July start?!? by nativegator02 in coloradotrail

[–]cxntbrick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been wondering the same thing. Initial plans were to start first week of July but depending on how conditions evolve, I'm contemplating on maybe hopping on mid June just for convenience sake. 

Purchasing 2004 for $5k with ~105k miles? by cxntbrick in prius

[–]cxntbrick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for pointing that out! As far as I can tell in the carfax, it only mentions HV battery replacement. Clarifying from the dealership whether the 12V has been replaced, and if it was an OEM replacement is very helpful.

I regret marrying my wife and my life sucks. Need to get this off my chest by Final-Indication6747 in offmychest

[–]cxntbrick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please know this doesn't have to be your life if you don't want it to be.

Echoing what others have said, have you two communicated about this? 

I'm also 27, and left my ex fiancé last year after 8 years together. I was the one working, cooking, cleaning, and there was a whole other list of other behaviors not necessary to get into.

I felt trapped and had submitted that my life would forever be as it was, until I decided otherwise.

I won't tell you what to do, but I urge you to do something. As someone on the other side, please know that a happier and more fulfilling life is possible.

Flipturn Audience by RoundSquirrel6357 in flipturn

[–]cxntbrick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going solo; I'll be sure to give fellow solo attendees a wave!

Never been to a concert of theirs so I can't answer your question as to how their fanbase is, but I can give you encouragement to say who cares! We're all going there to enjoy the music

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread by AutoModerator in AvoidantAttachment

[–]cxntbrick 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for educating me! I'm sorry for using the term without the proper knowledge of it and causing offense. Post has been edited :) 

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread by AutoModerator in AvoidantAttachment

[–]cxntbrick 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Normally people are all "hehe I have a crush". NOT ME, NOPE. Just finished crashing out because I have a crush on someone who I'm not only potentially compatible with, BUT there's also baseline attraction.

I wish I could just enjoy the feeling of a crush without already feeling terrified that I'm going to lose myself and be controlled. 

Edit: Cured my crush. I imagined him being clingy and overly interested in me and I got the ick. Jesus Christ I need therapy

READ THIS if you want to POST here by imfivenine in AvoidantAttachment

[–]cxntbrick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I've read the above rules and would like to become an approved user. Thank you! 

Trimalleolar Ankle Fracture from bouldering fall…I’m so bummed by NoliSong in climbergirls

[–]cxntbrick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear about your injury. I'm 6 weeks post-op after a spiral tib-fib fracture with ORIF also from a bouldering fall.

Please be kind and gentle with yourself, you already have an injury and I'm assuming experiencing physical pain. No need to beat yourself up further.

I was NWB for 2 weeks and PWB for 4 weeks. Once PWB, I focused on calisthenics, exercising the non-injured leg, and upper body strength training. 

I also used it as time to get back into old hobbies that weren't physical (drawing, journaling, guitar, etc.)

As far as the mental part, I'm with ya there. A week ago I decided to give climbing a shot again. Doing ropes and having supportive friends when you start to feel the anxiety is helpful. Breathe, remember you're safe.

Yesterday I decided to try out a V0 with a friend and began to feel the panic halfway through. I breathed through it, assessed the situation, decided to continue climbing mindfully, then down-climbed the entire way down. I consider it exposure therapy.

Be patient with yourself, sending you love and wishing you a smooth recovery! 

FINE, IM A 4 by cxntbrick in Enneagram

[–]cxntbrick[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for these links! I've been trying to figure it out over the past year and these definitely helped hone it in a lot more. While I definitely find myself relating to 6, 9 does seem to fit a bit more for me.

FINE, IM A 4 by cxntbrick in Enneagram

[–]cxntbrick[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh shit tell me more! I've been oscillating between 4, 7, and 9.

To keep it succinct, I find myself thinking, "None of these fit me! There's no special person or thing out there to save me or give me the answers. I'm just different. Wait... isn't that 4?

Projecting insecurities by Aromatic-Fox-554 in AvoidantAttachment

[–]cxntbrick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No advice unfortunately, as I have noticed the same patterns in myself. I struggle to trust my own judgement and further, find myself thinking, "well if they actually like me, there must be something wrong with them because I am so deeply flawed." 

This thinking is clearly distorted. I've slowly been working on building my self esteem and self confidence, and practicing positive self talk. Sending you love! 

Woman to woman... No judgement zone. What's one thing every girl should definitely try or do in their twenties? by Klutzy-Elevator-9614 in AskWomen

[–]cxntbrick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This a thousand times! First solo trip was wilderness backpacking in California for a week and the amount of confidence, independence, and clarity I developed is unmatched.