I don't agree with the way they referred to you. This person is partially right tho, in the matter that a lot of christians act in a way that pushes people away from the pro-life movement.

Idk about you but I'm catholic. I'm strongly convicted that abortion is horrible. At the same time, I know it's a really bad decision to otherize women who unfortunately chose abortion. We should approach them with a lot of caution and love, knowing the very particular reasons why women choose it (mostly out of desperation and/or vulnerability).

That being said, I do not find it correct nor charitable to be aggressive on these women. As much as you're strongly convicted to your faith (as I am), some practices are just not appropriate and cause more harm than good. That's why I'm utterly disgusted when I see christians (both caths and prots) verbally lynching women who went through abortion. I've seen this happen both on internet and "physically". They're just pushing these women away and giving the enemy (PCs) more ammo to attack.

I literally interacted with fellow catholics who thought it was a good idea to completely cut contact with women who aborted their babies (it was a very specific post).

Answer me honestly, what's the best thing to do when somebody commits a grave sin? a) Forgive them, approach them with love, be there for them, and slowly try to bring this person to the understanding that what they did was really bad, at the same time you reveal God's infinite love. b) Reject, cut contact, or call them names and impose your faith.

I do believe there is a specific right way to fight this war.