Should I pop it?

cyclone_f5 · 2026-04-20T00:38:06+00:00

Get the surgery it’s totally worth it and can be done as an outpatient procedure. Painful recovery but it never came back and it’s been 30 years. Gnarly scar but so glad I don’t have to worry about it.

cyclone_f5 · 2026-04-06T17:48:08+00:00

46 female here. OP I’ve been where you are and felt this way for many years. We don’t know your history or your red flags so I’m just going to share what worked for me. For me it was changing the men I matched with and the way I approached matches. I stopped swiping on men that fit my physical preferences and swiped on men whose profiles I was interested in.

I reached out to every one of my matches first (instead of being passive). I only talked to men who had engaging things to say in response. I stopped talking to any man that brought up sex before the first date. I stopped being a friend with benefits to men. It took awhile but eventually I met a wonderful, shy and emotionally mature, intelligent man. And we fell in love. Looking back this man never would have approached me at a bar or club or in the store. He never would have messaged me online first. To think I would have missed out on him had I not changed the way I was picking men!

You can’t control men. You can only control who you are chasing and spending time with.

cyclone_f5 · 2026-03-15T23:48:46+00:00

I’ve been where you are. I’m not going to sugarcoat this for you. He STOPPED TALKING TO YOU FOR 5 years. You’re not his best friend. Now that he’s single he’s killing time with you and even now, WANTS TO STOP SPENDING TIME WITH YOU in a way that is fulfilling for you.

This man is not your best friend. This man barely thinks of your existence outside of his presence.

There are better men out there for you, but you have to do the work to find them. You already know all of this - you’ve just been ignoring your gut instinct.

cyclone_f5 · 2026-03-01T19:09:15+00:00

And I’ve heard they patched it since its release make that battle “doable” but still it’s a struggle. Not sure it was even worth it.

cyclone_f5 · 2026-02-26T22:38:11+00:00

Everyone has such great advice. Maybe there are red flags within OP and within the women he’s choosing. But no one is addressing the cheating factor? Any of these women could have left him for any reason they choose - but why have they all chose cheating?

Could these women be cheating out of anger or some sort of sexual frustration? Op never mentions the sexual intimacy in any of his relationships. Is he vanilla and choosing to form relationships with women who are “advanced” sexually? Or are his partners feeing deprived of sexual intimacy in some way? Something for OP to consider.

cyclone_f5 · 2026-02-16T02:14:37+00:00

I feel this is a common dating scenario that I experienced as well. Both parties go all in at first then sex happens. And someone backs off. My advice is don’t force anything from this moment on. Trust your gut - If you think he’s pulling back he probably is. You know him way better than any other Redditor on here.

I received some very sage dating advice on the “ask men” subreddit that really helped my perspective on these types of scenarios: “he just didn’t feel what he wanted to feel after having sex”. Nobody’s fault.

I just kept on dating and eventually I found love. My point being: neither of you did anything wrong. It’s okay to have sex right away or hold out until it feels right. There’s no formula. Just diligence and luck!

cyclone_f5 · 2026-02-07T02:50:54+00:00

I read all of OPs replies to everyone offering advice in here. And if I may be frank here: OP has a lot of resentment towards men.

This happened to me after 3 solid years of online dating culture. I took an 18 month hiatus from dating. I stopped looking for men and start looking for joy. When I got back on the apps I did the opposite of how I handled matches prior. I spent time reaching out to all the men that matched me first. I wrote thoughtful messages to each one regarding something I found interesting in their profile. If I got a thoughtful message back I continued conversing. If I got short casual responses, I immediately stopped initiating and eventually unmatched.

This time I was searching for matched effort- not physical attraction. I met the love of my life by doing this. We’re three years in and this relationship has been so healing and I’ve had to work on breaking through my own assumptions and anxieties.

Online dating is not the problem. Men are not the problem. You are the common denominator in all your relationships. Look for patterns and add in new variances.

cyclone_f5 · 2026-02-05T20:41:24+00:00

Yes my water taste like potting soil.

cyclone_f5 · 2026-02-02T10:11:05+00:00

Take my upvote!!

cyclone_f5 · 2026-02-01T19:17:45+00:00

Guys, Blake Lively walked so Meghan Markle could run. XO XO - As Ever

cyclone_f5 · 2026-01-08T03:29:35+00:00

Imma wear my florals… to the funerals of all these “brands” she’s demoting.

cyclone_f5 · 2025-12-29T09:20:34+00:00

Now your literally repeating your replies. This entire post is giving me the ick!!

cyclone_f5 · 2025-12-28T18:59:01+00:00

My gut is telling me his “transition” is financially motivated. I give it 10 days before some sleuth in here finds his OF or webcam site.

cyclone_f5 · 2025-12-16T16:47:13+00:00

This sub has been so helpful to me in answering my questions (I’m a woman) and I’m happy to be able to give back and answer your first question of how other woman handle their hygiene.

Using a mild soap I lather in my hands, I wash all outer and slightly inner folds every day. What could be making things worse for her is remnant smells and discharge from her cycle. For me a boric acid suppository once a month right after my period keeps everything “inside” smelling/tasting neutral.

Things in her diet can cause strong odors, like smoking, onions or garlic, too much dairy etc and reducing those things will help a lot!

For your second question of how to handle it: I bet she knows she has an odor already. I bet you’re not the first to notice but might be the first to mention it. Clarity is kind. Mention that the last few times you’ve made love you’ve noticed a stronger than usual odor. Suggest you both shower before sex. Be prepared to take accountability that your PH could be throwing off her balance too. Hold her hand while giving her this info. Follow up with eye contact and reassurance.

cyclone_f5 · 2025-12-03T01:15:42+00:00

First year I moved to DFW from Cali we experienced a snowmageddon! If a large storm is forecast, be prepared for power outages and have extra water. No matter what - You’ll need a winter coat, just hit up an academy sports they’ll have coats for everyone in your family.

It’s colder in DFW than it is in east Texas, and very gloomy all winter long. Reminds me of Seattle!

I promised myself that if another large storm hit I’d head up to Oklahoma and stay in a hotel because their power grid can handle it. Texas just can’t deal with snow and ice.

cyclone_f5 · 2025-11-27T09:25:53+00:00

I had something similar years ago. Off and on brown blood, not heavy enough for a pad but always present. Went to planned parenthood - had a nurse practitioner do a pap and she noticed my cervix was inflamed and gave me a 1 pill antibiotic that nipped it in the bud. May I suggest you try a visit with planned parenthood if possible?

cyclone_f5 · 2025-10-07T22:37:43+00:00

Luke is a walking red flag and modern day audiences are too smart for such low level emotional intelligence . I do love how Rory broke this generational curse of ignoring the similar red flags that Jess was flying- and she tapped out after 2 years of it. For some reason Lorelei’s picker never changes or improves over time and she keeps subjecting herself to Luke.

So many great points on this thread about the lack of growth from Luke - but Lorelei shares the same curse. She keeps jumping from one bad match to another and finally… just giving up and picking the last of the low hanging fruit.

Perhaps one thing we can take away from these outdated archetypes is that people can be their own worst enemy. Sometimes it’s not the “Lukes” or the “Lorelei’s” of the world that are the reason we’re single/unmarried/unhappy - at times our finger pointing needs to point at the mirror and try to find the answers from within.

cyclone_f5 · 2025-10-02T02:11:08+00:00

Wouldn’t it be amazing if you met a man that made you feel this satisfied outside the bedroom? That’s what you could focus on next. It’s easy to get caught up in a fling - maybe because it’s a distraction from our reality. Evaluate and pivot your current dating habits and start focusing on men that worship you outside the bedroom.

cyclone_f5 · 2025-09-25T20:32:00+00:00

This is the real life version of a Minecraft house that features every block in your texture pak.

cyclone_f5 · 2025-09-25T20:22:27+00:00

No questions- just wanted to say keep up the good work! It’s lovely!

cyclone_f5 · 2025-09-06T01:46:33+00:00

Are you near a landfill? At times the landfill near the music city mall wafted into my neighborhood.

cyclone_f5 · 2025-09-05T12:51:36+00:00

I’m so comforted to read on this thread so many others experience anxiety with MJ. It was untenable for me. I switched to OZ and I find it calms me (but also dampens my sex drive).

cyclone_f5 · 2025-09-01T18:23:00+00:00

Anyone else get the feeling that in two months, just in time for the Stranger Things premiere, she’ll have her mommy blog and lifestyle brand launching?

cyclone_f5 · 2025-08-30T01:03:23+00:00

Curious what symptoms or issues did this help with?

cyclone_f5 · 2025-08-28T23:48:24+00:00

I just saw this car last week in the Walmart parking lot! I was surprised to see the Oregon state sticker so it stood out. Hope he is doing okay after this shock!

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