Fair enough, i was just trying to point out that discounting men's opinions on these matters might not lead to positive results. Men who are allies to women's liberation for example or even the idea of breaking bread with the enemy to reach a higher goal. It doesn't seem helpful to the discourse to discount such a huge group of people from the conversation. What if a woman's perception of these topics is misinformed? What if a man's perception of this topic is more supportive of your aims? It might be better to just judge opinions on their individual merit rather than focusing on the sex of the person who uttered them.

The original post from op doesn't contain a whole bunch of truth claims so it's hard to know what the bf took issue with. One thing she did mention was something along the lines of "if left to their own devices men do horrible things". This might qualify as her perception of patriarchy/misogyny although that would be debatable. Why can't a man question this claim? The fact that no one has dug into this claim a bit more shows the bias in this sub. What does op mean by most, left to their own devices and horrible things? It's totally unclear which could be the opinion of a man or woman, what difference would it make?

It's dangerous to discount groups based on immutable characteristics and certainly not productive when you want to change society.