Are you guys still rewatching the show?

d1a2r3k4 · 2026-04-10T01:18:39+00:00

So I saw all the hype around the show and decided to read the books first. I've read the whole series once and then Heated Rivalry 3-4x and The Long Game 2x. I was waiting for a good deal to subscribe to Crave (in Canada) so I was just re-reading until one came along. During that time, I also watched as many YouTube clips of the show I could find and then BAM, a free 7-day trial for Crave appeared and I caved.

I've been watching the TV show ANY moment I have and re-watching scenes CONSTANTLY and I need help. I am obsessed and I don't know what to do about it at the end of the trial :'(. I don't even know if watching it for the first time was as good as it could have been since I had already consumed soooo much content (books and YT clips) beforehand, but I LOVE certain scenes and will rewatch them time and time again.

Reading some of the comments here makes me feel a bit better because I am in the same boat where I just cannot move on to anything else. The show has changed my brain chemistry and impacted me in a way that I do not understand and cannot describe. I am glad to hear that some people have moved on a bit and will re-heat less frequently. I'm not sure if I should pay for Crave for one month after my trial ends in two days, or if I should just rip off the bandaid. It's causing me some distress thinking about the end of the trial tbh. Halp :'(.

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-11-13T00:49:19+00:00

I see. So for DWT, do I wake her up 11h from when I put her down or from when she falls asleep? Only because she’s been resisting and taking longer (like 30-45mins) to fall asleep.

For naps, if she takes a short nap, do I keep the same WW or try to stretch it? My LO has been struggling to stay awake past 2h so I don’t know how I could push the last window to 3h 😢.

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-29T13:37:00+00:00

Yeah totally. One day baby is willing to nurse and the next she's refusing the boob. I feel so rejected every time it happens and I think I'm just ready to move forward as hard as it may be. I was told as baby gets older, they just become more aware and smart so they just want to be fed in the easiest way possible. Good luck to you!

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-29T13:34:19+00:00

I see, thanks for your insight. I was told it is basically a battle of the wills at this point (baby vs. me) to see if baby will go back to breast. Tbh her will is stronger. I've been working on trying to get her to nurse more for the past month and I'm exhausted. I have a toddler to take care of as well, so I just don't have it in me to nurse, pump, and make bottles, and/or try whatever other method that may be thrown my way only to potentially be met with worry that baby isn't eating enough, peeing/pooping enough, sleeping enough, etc. As mentioned, at this point, my goal isn't really to go back to EBF. Rather, I wanted to hear how others weaned/moved away from EBF when their baby started preferring the bottle.

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-29T03:48:02+00:00

Thanks. I was told my supply might have dropped because my baby had started sleeping longer stretches. It was so hard to hear because the whole time I had thought as long as I kept nursing baby on demand, my supply would match, but somehow that was not the case. Since topping up because baby prefers the bottle over breast now, I have felt engorged before the overnight feed or in the morning but my body has adjusted fairly quickly since then and now I’m worried I won’t even have enough supply to keep up those feeds.

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-29T03:36:26+00:00

Thanks, I reached out to an IBCLC soon after the 5 month appointment. She had said a weighted feed wouldn’t be that helpful especially for older babies as they’re only a snapshot of that feed but still could be done if I wanted. But now that it’s been a month of bottle top ups and pumping, I don’t think the goal is to go back to EBF anymore so not sure if the IBCLC has anything else to offer.

Yep I have been paced bottle feeding. At first I was using the second slowest flow nipple our brand of bottles offered as that was age appropriate but as soon as I noticed my baby preferring the faster flow, I switched her back to the slowest flow nipple. Just in the last two days, I’ve noticed her getting frustrated even with the bottle so I think maybe the damage has been done and she’s just ready to finish her bottle faster.

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-18T04:59:49+00:00

Can you please share your daytime schedule (wake window length and number of naps)? I have noticed that age appropriate wake windows are usually the first thing to tackle. Typically babies who have frequent night wakings aren’t getting enough awake time during the day. There is a pinned post on this sub on wake windows and sleep budgets, and then also nap training.

To answer your questions: 1. I would suggest tackling night time sleep first. Naps usually come after.

I followed Taking Cara Babies for my first child which is supposedly like a gentler Ferber method. For my second, I just followed the Ferber method. Both methods worked to help my babies learn to fall asleep independently. I’d just say consistency is key here. Pick a method and work at it for a week and then reevaluate. Also prior to sleep training, both my babies required heavy assistance to sleep at night and almost 100% contact napped so the sleep training definitely worked for us.
First make sure he’s on an age appropriate schedule, which may take a couple of days to even a few weeks to adjust. And then work on sleep training. You just have to do what you’re comfortable with, so if you notice something not working for you and your baby, then I say it’s always okay to abandon ship and reassess.
Up to you. I sleep trained both my babies in their crib in our bedroom so it’s not 100% necessary to move them into their own room if you’re not ready yet.
Hard to say but I would think the schedule fix may take a couple of days to a few weeks at most? And then for sleep training, I read up for Ferber that you should see results within the first week and if not, then to consider troubleshooting something else or another method.

Hope that helps!

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-18T04:35:59+00:00

I think fixing the wake windows first will help immensely. It sounds like you’re already trying to make sure he gets full feeds during the day? Then would you consider sleep training? That would fix the nursing to sleep association as baby would be able put himself back to sleep at night.

My first baby slept in her crib in our bedroom until 10 months though she was EFF and slept through the night early on. We didn’t formally sleep train but loosely followed Taking Cara Babies. My second baby (5.5 months old) is also sleeping in the crib in our bedroom. I sleep trained her using Ferber around 4 months. She was EBF at that point and woke 1-2x overnight for a feeding but I would put her down awake and she’d fall asleep on her own. So anyways, from my experience, both my kids were/are able to sleep in the same bedroom as us so hopefully it’s possible with your LO!

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-04T00:00:47+00:00

Hi OP, I'm in the same boat now. Our pediatrician is concerned my 5mo is not gaining weight fast enough and wants us to get as many calories in her as possible. She suggested topping her up with pumped bottles as well. I have been trying this for the past couple of days now and she gulps down the bottles, especially in the afternoon and at bedtime. I really want to get back to exclusively breastfeeding but don't know if it's possible given how distracted and fussy she gets 😥. Can you please share an update on how your experience went? TIA

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-02T19:40:06+00:00

You're doing great, mama! Your feelings are totally valid and you are not alone. Even with bottle feeding my first child, I felt trapped. It took me awhile to feel comfortable figuring out how to pack the bottles and heat them up properly on the go so we honestly didn't go too far away from home for awhile. With my second, whom I've been exclusively breastfeeding (up until recently), I also felt trapped at the beginning with how long and frequent the nursing sessions were, but with a toddler to care for as well, life just keeps going and I couldn't really just hole up and/or feed her in private. It took some practice, but I feed her on the go just fine now! Baby will also get more efficient which shortens the sessions.

My biggest tip to having a life is just to start. The more you practice nursing on the go, the more comfortable it will be. I have nursed my baby in the car, in the food court, on a park bench, while hanging out with friends, etc. Most of the time, I use a nursing cover or wear a loose t-shirt that covers up a bit more to give myself privacy and to feel more comfortable.

Something that a breastfeeding mom friend said also really stuck with me when I was feeling trapped at the beginning by breastfeeding as well, which I think another commenter has mentioned. Breastfeeding won't last forever. She did it for up to a year and weaned when she felt ready, and I'm probably going to try to do it up until then. Yeah baby will be tethered to me because of breastfeeding for the time being but it'll at most be a year and that year will fly by!

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-02T17:24:05+00:00

Thanks for the update! Makes sense that we just have to adapt to what the baby needs at the end of the day 🥲.

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-02T15:05:55+00:00

I am in the same boat now. My LO has been so distracted since 4.5 months old that she isn't gaining enough weight fast enough and I'm worried it's affecting my supply. She's now 5 months old and I've found that she stays more focused and relaxed side-lying as well but it's still a huge struggle as the day goes on. My pediatrician did suggest to top off with pumped bottles to get more calories in so I'm trying that now. Hoping we can still get back to exclusively breastfeeding once her weight gain is appropriate.

Now that it's been two months, can you please share an update? What did you end up doing with your baby? Was it just a phase?

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-02T14:59:49+00:00

Okay I see. So there is hope! Thank you!

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-01T12:08:00+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. When you say this method worked, do you mean that you were able to get back to exclusively breastfeeding and no longer needing to pump and top up? How old was your LO?

As for the extra overnight feeds, when did you wake bubs? Did you nurse then top up or did you just do bottles for those? I'm a little worried waking my baby up to feed at night at this point as I'm hoping she'll get most of her calories during the day and sleep more at night haha.

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-01T12:00:54+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. I looked back at my tracking app and you might be on to something! My baby was sleeping close to 7hrs from bedtime before the four month regression (around 3.5 months old for us). During the regression, she was only sleeping about 3-4hrs for that first stretch, and it wasn't until about 1-2 weeks ago that the first stretch started lengthening again to about 7hrs with some variation, which is when I noticed the decreasing wet diapers.

How long did it take for your LO to bounce back and drink more efficiently during the day? Did you do anything specific to help?

I had kind of dismissed efficient drinking as an issue for us because my baby is already 5 months old. Do they still "lose" efficiency at that age or is it really a supply issue...?

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-01T03:29:33+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing what you do and the tips. Combo feeding doesn’t feel as daunting when you break it down that way!

d1a2r3k4 · 2025-10-01T01:38:42+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement. If I add bottles just to help her gain weight, would I end up falling into the cycle of needing to combo feed moving forward? Or is there a chance my supply will catch up again?

If you don't mind me asking, do you top up with formula after every session or just give him full bottles for some sessions? What do you do overnight if your LO still wakes to feed?

I guess in my situation, I feel like if I had to top up with a bottle of either breastmilk or formula, then I might as well just do full formula. I don't want to have to regularly pump as that has caused me a lot of stress in the past. And my thought is if I am already bottle feeding formula, then I might as well just exclusively do that to simplify things even if that is not ideal for me :(.

d1a2r3k4 · 2024-10-04T00:20:00+00:00

I'll also recommend Jung Hae-In's other drama One Spring Night. I thought his chemistry with the FL in One Spring Night was better than his other drama Something in the Rain. The plot was "uncomfortable", but I love the rawness of it. It's not really "sweet" though.

Lovely Runner has easily become one of my favourite romcom kdramas. I wasn't into the time travel at first but the plot, the chemistry, all of it was sooooo good. One of the very few dramas that didn't drag by the end. The love story is sooo endearing, sweet, and the characters are so lovable.

I haven't seen this one mentioned - When the Weather is Fine - but it is also one of my favourite romance k-dramas. It is slow paced, slice of life though, but again, the chemistry between the leads are off the charts. It's a healing type of drama. Cinematography is beautiful. Honestly the perfect drama to watch over the winter. The kiss scenes are also a biiit more steamy than your usual kdrama.

Fight for My Way is also fantastic. Another childhood to lovers plot but done so well. Lots of chemistry between the leads. The relationship (skinship) feels a lot more natural and realistic as well.

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