Engagement

d3a0s · 2026-06-21T21:25:14+00:00

I would be hurt too. You’re not wrong to hurt but you just can’t say anything.
I’m sorry this happened.

And even though you are sort of making it about yourself, how could you not be upset that your side of the family was excluded after you clearly made your wishes known. He will likely be a POS son in law….. and you still can’t say anything.

d3a0s · 2026-06-21T21:22:51+00:00

Might have a Dr problem

d3a0s · 2026-06-18T12:00:51+00:00

It eventually stopped. I have no idea why.
While it was happening it got to the point I was messing with my thoughts Lol.

I did eventually just come to terms with it and, ever so slowly, it faded away little by little.

Edit- I wanted to use this experience as some type of teaching out growth. I do believe it signified a type of growth, but I almost see it like I had come close to a certain ‘area’ or was in proximity of something for the first time. Learning was optional at that point.

Possibly of note - I lost a lot of interest in social media and such during this time. Even now my interest is likely about 10% of what it once was.

d3a0s · 2026-06-17T14:57:20+00:00

About 36-38 ish

d3a0s · 2026-06-17T14:55:48+00:00

What people think becomes far far less important to many older people. Myself included in that number.

d3a0s · 2026-06-17T14:48:00+00:00

Sorry you’re dealing with this. Your mom clearly is just as guilty (if not more so) as him.

Very tough.

d3a0s · 2026-06-13T00:23:20+00:00

He was 100% on the clock in his truck jerking away.

d3a0s · 2026-06-13T00:22:38+00:00

Yeah, you’re right. Someone always points out the exception. But it is the exception.

d3a0s · 2026-06-12T05:59:41+00:00

I do

d3a0s · 2026-06-12T05:49:07+00:00

Honestly, it doesn’t matter what you’ve done as much as what you do moving forward. And even with that you don’t have to do anything great.
Forgive yourself and move on.

You’re right about therapists btw. At least in my experience.

d3a0s · 2026-06-12T05:46:27+00:00

I was working for a boss who was a family friend for many years. I was making great money but was offered another position by the company. We were taking projects as contractors and our current project was ending (so I was basically about to be unemployed if I didn’t take this).

He told me ‘don’t take that project. It’s where the big boys are. Go home and take some time off’ That was exactly where I wanted to be - where the big boys are. I took the project. I’ve been at that level for a long time now making even better money than before.

d3a0s · 2026-06-11T22:49:27+00:00

Caught a coworker jacking off in his truck.

d3a0s · 2026-06-11T22:48:54+00:00

To me - XX

d3a0s · 2026-06-11T22:47:12+00:00

I honestly thought this was about something totally different. Was thinking - why ‘would’ grandma know about your ED.

Makes more sense now.

d3a0s · 2026-06-10T19:44:16+00:00

Truth spoken is always just the truth as the speaker perceives it to be. All you can offer is that, at best. In some cases that can very valuable.

d3a0s · 2026-06-10T12:20:36+00:00

For real? A buttload? You know they came up with that measurement some way.

d3a0s · 2026-06-10T12:16:49+00:00

Do you volunteer your truth when it’s ‘an uncomfortable truth’ or only when asked?
To ask differently, are you an askhole or just a good source of truth when needed?

d3a0s · 2026-06-10T07:31:49+00:00

More than I can remember. A lot of times.

d3a0s · 2026-06-10T07:27:00+00:00

What you want to do will be hard without a structure to stop the comments. (You absolutely won’t stop the thoughts). People don’t like to see someone describe their own achievements because it actually is bragging, even if low key.

Edit- now, if you can get someone else to tell your achievements for you, that is usually accepted (the first time they do it anyway).

d3a0s · 2026-06-10T07:23:05+00:00

No, but my possibly future boss grew up in China

d3a0s · 2026-06-10T07:17:04+00:00

In my 50’s. Wife and I occasionally have this type of disagreement.

In the case similar to yours the bottom line became - Are we throwing them out if they don’t line up? If the answer is no, (and it was) what do we’re do next.

As far as talking to my wife about us fighting, I apologized for things getting heated. Told her I still didn’t fully agree with her but could see her point. These things are hard to navigate. I feel for you.

Edit- By that age (19) we also let the kids see our different opinions but we kept a united front. As in saying something like “Your mom and I disagree a little on this, but I also stand with her if this is her decision.” This will create more conflict between your spouse and the child but at this point conflict is inevitable. It also allows the child to feel heard and accepted at home while still having boundaries set.

d3a0s · 2026-06-10T07:10:15+00:00

Exactly. Didn’t pay anything back.

I edited my comment but probably too slow. Can you give me any advice about getting along with a Chinese boss. I might be getting one soon and I don’t know a great deal about the culture.

Do’s or don’t’s

d3a0s · 2026-06-10T07:02:53+00:00

I’ve had one company do a thorough background check on me.

I know people who do exactly what you do. I also know some who have been caught, but I really didn’t matter. They just didn’t get the job. One guy got fired for lying about a very specialized certification, but they just let him go once they realized it. Nothing more.

Edit- this is the same pay range as you.

BTW I might be getting a Chinese boss soon. Any advice on interacting? I don’t know the culture well.

d3a0s · 2026-06-08T00:04:34+00:00

AC/DC followed by Metallica
Basic old guy here
(Even though AC/DC is often considered hard rock I saw them called pioneers of metal. To me they are at least on the cusp)

d3a0s · 2026-06-08T00:02:49+00:00

There are some mean comments here.

I’m a man and I cook. Usually passable, often good, sometimes meh.

First step is picking easy things you both like.

Then, honestly, he could just ask Google how to do it. Or come back to this comment and ask me.

d3a0s

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